"the one chapter for me"

[FuzzieAlum]

I keep seeing rush stories on here. And it seems that almost every time a girl says, "I'm rushing ... and there is only one chapter I really clicked with," we read later, "I didn't get a bid." Whereas girls who say, "I liked Z and Y and Z" almost always end up somewhere.

Now I understand that if a campus has only one or two chapters, it's very likely you'll only like one. But most Greek systems are larger than that.

We're all told during formal rush, "Don't suicide, keep an open mind," but we all know that a lot of rushees do suicide and don't keep an open mind. (No, I'm not saying they should accept a bid from a chapter they truly dislike, but if there are four or more chapters, I do find it hard to believe there is only one place they could be happy.) And there are some sorority members who encourage this, but frequently this desire for one particular chapter comes from the rushees themselves.

So what can we as Greeks do to make the system work more like it's supposed to, to discourage girls from deciding one and only one chapter is the home for them? These girls unintentionally set themselves up for heartache and may miss out on the Greek experience entirely. I know when I went through rush, I made some snap judgments about chapters that I regret now - not that I wish I had joined a different house, but that I let silly things prejudice me against certain chapters. (I dropped A Phi because their hair was too big ... I mean, that's not really mature thinking.)

Why does the system, despite its best intentions, end up with so many girls single-preffing?