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Originally Posted by Collegegirl822
Hi! okay so I figured this would be the best place to post this- I really want some honest advice, here's the situation...
I am a freshman at a college in the midwest, I went through fall recruitment, and had great experiences at two houses, I didn't get prefed at these houses, in fact- I got pref'ed at my bottom 2. I kept an open mind and went through pref. I ended up getting a bid from one of those houses- and accepting it. However things just weren't working out, some finantial, and personal issues were not "falling into place" so i depledged.
I still want to be greek- and I want to rush again. At my school It's not uncommon for upperclassmen to go through recruitment, and get bids, however I'm worried I won't have a chance now that I've had to depledge.
So heres what i need advice on
will the houses count it against me because i depledged?
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How should i handle the akward situations that will arise during formal recruitment nextfall, relating to my depledging?
ALSO i just thought of this- I still really like my #1 house, should i make an effort to get to know the girls in that house better? or will this seem like i'm only trying to befriend them to get a bid in the fall? Should I let them know of my interest in their house?
THANKS SOO MUCH!!
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I know that if you explained your situation to your sorority, you may have not had to depledge. A lot of sororities offer financial support, like scholarships for sisters in dire need or accomodatiosn that would allow you to pay your dues on your own terms that you work out with your treasurer. If you pulled them aside and spoke to them, it may have made things easier.
My question is this: if you only have good things to say about that house, do you want to go BACK to that house?
It seems like your heart is still set on your #1 choice, but why would you still have them as you #1 choice when you clearly weren't theirs? Everything happens for a reason and I believe the sorority experience is what you make of it. If a house really wants you and you can feel a connection, even in the slightest, it CAN become your home. I know so many girls that got their last choices and wished they had gotten their #1 choice for so long, but eventually everything fell into place and now, there is no place they'd rather be.
If you miss your sorority, I would talk to them. Meet with some of them for lunch or something and thoroughly explain your situation. You may be able to return to the chapter. I'm not sure if you'd have to go thru recruitment again, but I'm sure they could let you know.
If you still have a pressing desire to join another chapter, go back through and see what happens. Competitive or not, if you're not a good fit, you likely won't be invited to that house--and this CAN be for the best.
I agree with what everyone else said about being 100% upfront and honest about why you depledged. Your sisters are there for you--I'm sorry that you felt you couldn't make arrangements with your previous chapter, but I hope things work out better for you the second time around. Let us know what you do!