Sticky situation

tridgirl · #1 04-17-2002, 02:00 PM

I work at a summer camp and I love going every summer and having a blast with the kids and the awesome staff. I was talking about it one day to one of my sisters I didn't know very well. She was interested so I refered her, she applied and has interviewed with my boss. She is very excited about it, but i am having my doubts. Recently I have noticed that she pretends to be very innocent, but does VERY questionable things in publice places, like fraternity formals and doesn't think about how it reflects on her. She also had the tendecy to talk behind people back, tell private information and misrepresent what you say to other people. I worried that her behavior will reflect on me this summer, I certainly won't want to hang out with her if she acts this way around my close friends. I don't know what to do, talk to her, email my boss and explain, I feel like I am back stabbing her, but I refered her before I realized the type of person she can be. Any advice would be awesome.

justamom · #2 04-18-2002, 06:59 AM

Did you give her a "glowing" rec, or was it more like "Hey I have a friend who is interested.." ?

If the job is only for the summer, I'd leave it alone. How people act at social functions isn't always a reflection on how they will perform on the job. You can keep your distance and your friends will notice and take their cue from you (maybe). It is possible that she could be one heck of a worker and being in this type of work atmsphere may be good for her as a person. I wouldn't sweat it-you wouldn't be the first to recommend a person that didn't work out and if it ever causes a problem you can be honest and say you didn't know that side of her when you mentioned her for the job. The things you noted could cause problems in a close atmosphere like bucutie had a while back, but for a temporary position-I'd keep my personal feelings out of it and give her a chance.

LeslieAGD · #3 04-18-2002, 07:33 AM

I agree with JAM...as long as you didn't totally talk her up like she is the best thing next to sliced bread, then maybe it'll be fine. Have you seen her in a work environment? Also, the way she acts around fraternity boys isn't the way she will act around children/young adults.

Periwinkle · #4 04-18-2002, 11:18 AM

I agree, too. Unless her behavior is way out-of-control I'd let it pass. She is responsible for her own behavior and the consequences that follow.

If you get uncomfortable while at camp you can have a one-on-one and tell her your feelings about trust and responsibility. You can also keep your distance.