Curlygirl NM Experience

[curlygirly]

Hello everyone! I'm new to the Kappa forum...but not to Greek Chat! I posted my rush (sorry...recruitment) experience at UF day-by-day. Since then I've been soo busy with class, and Kappa and everything else...that I haven't had a chance to update everyone.

I finally lurked out and posted on the DZ @ UF thread...and got a bunch of requests to tell all about my NM experience.

I'm definitely excited about everything. Initiation is Oct.4-5...and our I-week is next week. I'm going this weekend to make my paddle for my big sister. They have so many things planned for us next week! We have a sleepover, flower ceremony, Kore group dinner, and then initiation on Friday.

I don't really know what everyone wants to hear about my NM experience at Kappa....so just ask questions!!

[KappaStargirl]

I honestly don't have many questions but I am interested in what you have to say. I was there from the VERY start of the NM program. It started in 1996-97, when I was a sophomore, and my chapter, ZE, was one of the twelve original pilot chapters. I am one of Kappa's last actual pledges! Anyway, I would love to hear how the NM program has evolved, and how your school adapts it to fit your needs. Looking forward to the continuation of this thread.

Loyally delsigmata,
KSG

[curlygirly]

(i wrote this in another forum....)

Hello! I'm a Kappa NM this semester. I was so confused as to this whole big/lil system until I read all of your posts. I keep hearing from girls in other sororities how they have their big/lil revelation...and how they get to suggest who they want as their big. They actually get to know some of the girls better before getting paired.

My big was my "bid day buddy"...and she's a wonderful girl...but I don't know much about her. I just know where she's from and that she lives in the house. I rarely get to see her because of our schedules...and it's just kinda impersonal.

I was actually kinda upset because this Saturday was my birthday, and I didn't get a birthday table. She did know it was my bday, b/c she called me. I went home for the weekend, but I didn't get anything before or after the weekend. I don't want to sound like a brat...but it's just that I keep hearing everyone say "it's fun to be a NM...you get showered with gifts!"...but sometimes I don't feel like that.

It seems to me like all the girls that I've been paired up with are just doing it b/c they're forced. Like I got a frame with decorations that you could tell were done at the last minute. Or I'd always get my secret messages days after I was supposed to be getting them. I didn't even meet my sapphire sister! I know her name...and I got my decorated mug...but I've never met her personally. And with my owl pal and fleur-de-lis friend...I met them on bid day, so I knew their names...but once I got their card revealing who they were...it wasn't a big deal. We sat at dinner together and nothing was brought up.

I just feel like I'm getting gipped (sp?) out of an awesome new member experience!!! When I met with standards, they asked me how I could improve it...but I said nothing! I don't know what a NM period is supposed to be like...so I didn't suggest anything. After reading a few of these posts, I wish I had said something.

Anyway, I'm slowly meeting the girls in my class and the older sisters...but it seems to be taking a bit longer b/c of the lack of real "bonds" in those matchups.