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Old 06-02-2000, 07:58 PM
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Question Why do BLGO's down each other?

I am a non-greek who is currently interested in seeking membership in one of the 4 great sororities in the NPHC...In my research I have learned that all four of these illustrious organizations AKA,ZPHIB,DST,and SGRHO are doing great things for the African American community and that these organizations were founded to uplift people of color. I definitely want to be apart of that, as I am very interested in advocating for my people. What I don't like and definitely don't understand is why do members of these orgs disrespect each other so? Even coming on this message board and reading things people have said to each other...definitely makes me lower my head in embarrassment for some of the non-sisterly, non-positive, and definitely non-uplifting things people have been saying about each other's orgs. Why must it be that there is constant bickering about who is "so called better" ? Why is there constant bickering about who has more members, who has prettier or smarter members, who fits their stereotype, blah, blah and blah. How can your purpose be to uplift the race if you can't even uplift each other...are you all suffering from some sort of "complex" that you can't band together to rid this world of it's social ills? Instead of being apart of the problem? How can you help rid the world of racism if you can't even love your fellow greek? I know what I want so I will not let the ignorant behavior of others deter me from pledging my heart, soul, and time to the BGLO of my choice...at the same time I will also make sure that I never turn into one of the ugly hateful human beings I have seen rear its head amongst you ladies...Please grow up and start living out the true purpose of your founders! All four of your organizations are great, as someone coming into school knowing almost nothing about Greek life, I was highly impressed with what each org had to offer, although my heart led me to the doorstep of just one org...When I become Greek I will be proud to say that I belong to one out of a group of 9 wonderful organizations fighting for the greater good! For those of you that don't hate or discriminate on the next for not choosing the path you did....much love and respect to you...as for the greeks that think they are better than others and make jokes about other people's orgs.... someone definitely made a mistake letting you pledge!

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Old 06-02-2000, 08:15 PM
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I have to no choice but to agree with you. I am glad you have not let the negativity poison you. Go for yours and allow me to tell you that this is something you will always see. I have always said I joined a whole greek family, not only my org. but many don't feel that way or just go with the flow and join all the playing. Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say, and many of the fellow greeks don't take the time to organize their thoughts. As far as the other orgs., since I crossed and had to learn about all of them, I just have way too much respect for them to put them down.
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Old 06-02-2000, 08:29 PM
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Sorry you guys! I just realized a mistake in my heading... I know it's BGLO's and not BLGO's ...unfortunately being unregistered I couldn't edit my message...
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Old 06-02-2000, 11:32 PM
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Let me say that the members of the 4 NPHC Sororities are, before anything else, human. We get upset and angry. We disagree with each other on certain issues. We get in heated debates and sometimes are not all that sisterly. We can get carried away with our emotions. Does this excuse us for not being aware of how we treat each other? No, not anymore than it excuses you of doing the same.

None of us have been in our respective Sorority since birth, and some are still getting used to the sisterhood idea. Not all of us come from campuses where all 4 Sororities are represented so all we have to go on is what we hear and the stereotypes. Is this right? Of course not, but it's reality and something we as Greeks should be dealing with and making a conscious effort to change.

We have our rivalries, they've been there since the beginning and we can do nothing about that. What we can control is how much we buy into them. It would be stupid of me to say I dislike a woman or to trash her just because she's an AKA or Zeta or SGRho. Just because her choice for her lifetime commitiment is different from mine is no reason for me to deny her an opportunity for us to be friends and it's certainly no reason for me to be uncivil with her.

Unfortunately, not everyone sees this as I do. Some still walking around, even though they haven't been a neo in years, in their "neo glow" and they see everything through salmon pink and apple green OR crimson and cream OR royal blue and pure white OR rhoyal blue and gold tinted glasses. They fail to realize there's more to the world than just their organization and they are losing out on a lot because of it. Do not mistake me, I am all for being proud of your respective organization. I just think it's a little hypocritical for someone to put me down today because I'm a Delta, then go out and do community service tomorrow.

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Old 06-02-2000, 11:44 PM
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You know you are absoulutely right in what you are saying. Please remember though that in these forums anyone can say anything and CLAIM to be anything! So alot of times I think that some people are just trying to start some stuff! They are all great (all nine of them) most of the rivalries are just for fun. But when they get out of hand it couls just be a perp trying to make them look bad. I am glad though that you still have love for them so you must know what i know and that is........ face to face and more often than not they all respect each other!
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Old 06-03-2000, 12:37 AM
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Ah yes, so true. I have read post by "members" of organizations that I know ARE NOT members based on the words that flow from their mouth. At the end of the day, I agree must with Kelli...Greeks are human...in all of our flaws, we are not perfect.

And remember we are all coming from very different BGLO experiences. On my campus, the Zetas were never in on a competitive battle field. We got along with all of the sororities very well.

Just keep your eyes on the prize. If you are so forunate to gain membership in your sorority of choice you will learn later in grad...NO ONE REALLY CARES about the stereotypes, petty jealousies and such. You will be too busy reaching into your pocketbook to pay for everything in addition to doing community service to be bothered in the least.

Keep it all in perspective. To err is human.
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You know you are absoulutely right in what you are saying. Please remember though that in these forums anyone can say anything and CLAIM to be anything! So alot of times I think that some people are just trying to start some stuff! They are all great (all nine of them) most of the rivalries are just for fun. But when they get out of hand it could just be a perp trying to make them look bad. I am glad though that you still have love for them so you must know what i know and that is........ face to face and more often than not they all respect each other!


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Old 06-04-2000, 12:25 AM
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I agree with my soror and with 12dn94dst, they really wrapped it up nicely, but there is one thing I like to add.

Sometimes greeks 'down' each other and it is really just jokes and fun, and people who may be listening just don't know that in the end, it's all good. For example, how many times have you been to a step show and seen organizations diss each other, and then those same people are at the party afterwards dancing and laughing. I have seen it plenty of times. True, there are rivalries and little petty things that go on sometimes, but MOST of us know that it's really not that serious and that all of our organizations serve a purpose. Don't let the bad apples (especially the ones on the net)spoil the bunch!

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Old 06-04-2000, 11:02 AM
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It's interesting to note that all of those negative posters that were so loose with their mouths on other posts, haven't bothered to comment on this one. When the question is put out there, I guess they really have no reason as to their ignorance. I thank you guys are responding to my question...It's deepened my respect for DST, ZPHIB, and SGRHO...I would really like to hear from the other orgs as well...even the men...often times it is the fraternities I see acting foolish...for example I have witnessed them beating each other down gang style some greek parties i have been to...so there are times they go way beyond friendly rivalry...a group of Ques jumping a Kappa and beating him to a bloodly pulp is not rivalry...Sigma's beating a Kappa with his own cane is not friendly rivalry...What is up? We all get into personal beefs with various individuals greek or not as someone mentioned before you guys are human..BUT!! wouldn't the fact that you are greek and you are representing something much larger than yourself make you stop and think about how you will react to something before you act? Aren't there certain things that you absolutely do not do just because you have your letters on? Are some of these beefs between fraternities a result of an argument about who is better?
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Old 06-04-2000, 11:09 AM
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I don't want to make it seem like all I have witnessed is negative...obviously not or I wouldn't be planning to pledge my life to this particular sorority. On the flip side I have seen greeks come together and make things happen! I have seen people who seem to have wonderful friendships with people outside of their org. I have two friends who both pledged two different orgs and remained the best of friends..and are both working hard for thier two orgs...which in talking to them made them gain even more respect for each other's orgs because now they know two very good representatives of these orgs...EACH OTHER! Whereas, they could have taken their two different choices in sororities and turned it into something negative..I have also read posts by people on greek.chat talking about their best friend or roomie who is of a different org. and they always comment on how they love that person to death! That's the kinda love I like to see not only amongst greeks, but amongst African -Americans and I hope more of us strive to enrich each other's lives and not belittle them.
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Old 06-04-2000, 01:19 PM
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I am so glad that you did not let the negativity that you read get you side-tracked, but we must realize that there are many who could have and probably have read a post somewhere were there was bickering and hatred and decided not to pledge and who knows what that one person could have done for one of our bglo's. the pettiness has got to stop. We need to love and uplift one another.

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I am a non-greek who is currently interested in seeking membership in one of the 4 great sororities in the NPHC...In my research I have learned that all four of these illustrious organizations AKA,ZPHIB,DST,and SGRHO are doing great things for the African American community and that these organizations were founded to uplift people of color. I definitely want to be apart of that, as I am very interested in advocating for my people. What I don't like and definitely don't understand is why do members of these orgs disrespect each other so? Even coming on this message board and reading things people have said to each other...definitely makes me lower my head in embarrassment for some of the non-sisterly, non-positive, and definitely non-uplifting things people have been saying about each other's orgs. Why must it be that there is constant bickering about who is "so called better" ? Why is there constant bickering about who has more members, who has prettier or smarter members, who fits their stereotype, blah, blah and blah. How can your purpose be to uplift the race if you can't even uplift each other...are you all suffering from some sort of "complex" that you can't band together to rid this world of it's social ills? Instead of being apart of the problem? How can you help rid the world of racism if you can't even love your fellow greek? I know what I want so I will not let the ignorant behavior of others deter me from pledging my heart, soul, and time to the BGLO of my choice...at the same time I will also make sure that I never turn into one of the ugly hateful human beings I have seen rear its head amongst you ladies...Please grow up and start living out the true purpose of your founders! All four of your organizations are great, as someone coming into school knowing almost nothing about Greek life, I was highly impressed with what each org had to offer, although my heart led me to the doorstep of just one org...When I become Greek I will be proud to say that I belong to one out of a group of 9 wonderful organizations fighting for the greater good! For those of you that don't hate or discriminate on the next for not choosing the path you did....much love and respect to you...as for the greeks that think they are better than others and make jokes about other people's orgs.... someone definitely made a mistake letting you pledge!

Sincerely,
True Greek Love
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