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Old 11-05-2019, 12:53 AM
LostGirl LostGirl is offline
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Re-Rush vs New Chapter vs Give Up

So Iím currently a freshman at the University of Rhode Island. I rushed this past fall but ended up being cut from every house except one (and I donít think that one made cuts) after round one. I dropped round two. I kinda took it as a sign that Greek Life wasnít where I belonged. Iím not really sure what I did wrong to get cut from all those houses. I had some awkward conversations but a few really good ones that I still got cut from. I heard looks matter but I really thought I was okay in that department. I didnít have the highest GPA, but I heard a 3.0 was all you needed and I had that. At the time, I really just took it as a sign from God that I wasnít meant to join Greek Life, because I really donít know why else I would have had cuts that deep. Iíve gotten involved in several other clubs and made friends outside of Greek Life, but I still just feel like something is missing. Many of my family members (not my mom though, Iím not a legacy anywhere) were in sororities and are still close with their sisters and active as alumni. I really wanted something values-based with more of a lifelong bond and I just havenít found that anywhere else on campus. I kinda thought Iíd be in a sorority for as long as I could remember, and now Iím just not and it doesnít feel right. Is it worth it to re-rush next year? There is also a colony coming back to campus next year that Iíve been considering. Iíve heard itís a lot of work though and Iím a bit nervous about the time commitment. Does it make a difference that they had a chapter here before and theyíre just coming back, or will it still be just as hard and time consuming? Iíd also feel really bad if I did end up getting a bid to the new chapter and ended up having to drop because of the time commitment or because I really donít belong in Greek Life. Iím just so confused on what I should do because I donít really feel like I belong anywhere here. Any advice would be very appreciated.
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Old 11-05-2019, 06:57 AM
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A URI lady here...

So grades aren’t super competitive compared to other schools, but houses do make blanket cuts for grades. A LOT of freshman come to college with a 4.0 (or close) from HS.

There will probably be some houses (3-5?) doing spring informal recruitment.

The Alpha Chi Omega recolonization will be a time commitment for its new members. Really, joining any org is a time commitment but recolonization is a process that needs members really engaged in the process. The Bid process for a colony can be just as competitive as formal recruitment.

My best advice is to get out there and get involved in other organizations on campus this semester, and consider informal recruitment in the spring.
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Old 11-05-2019, 07:13 AM
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To piggyback off Kelly097's post, you should work really hard to get the highest GPA you can. Joining an org with a high concentration of sorority women might prove helpful. Knowing you in an informal setting might be the boost you need for them to go to bat for during membership selection.

I advised a colony. It is hard work, but the pay-off is worth it. Typically colonies want a broad spectrum of members from freshmen to some seniors. All have to be willing to put egos aside and work toward the common goal of earning their charter.

It's nice that you have some alternative choices available. I would suggest rushing in the spring and if you don't make a love match, give fall rush another go and keep your eyes and ears open for colonization info. Good luck.
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Old 11-05-2019, 08:07 AM
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Part of it too is I kind of feel like if they didnít want me the first time, why would they want me the second. Also, when I went through, I really didnít feel a connection with a lot of the houses. There were maybe 3 where I felt like I had good conversations, but I was cut from all three. Also, 2 of those 3 are considered top houses (I didnít look at ranks before rush or do that on purpose, and there were other top houses I didnít like) with very competitive recruitments so even if I improved, I kinda doubt Iíd get a bid as a sophomore, especially considering my cuts this year.

At this point, Iím leaning more towards the colony. Iíve heard a lot of people say it is a ďmajor time commitmentĒ but nothing super specific. Is it like 5-10 hours per week (significant, but manageable) or more like 20-30 hours per week (I probably wouldnít rush it if thatís the case)? Also what specifically do you do that takes so long? Is the time commitment only big for the first semester, or will it be a lot of work for the rest of college? I just havenít been able to find much info on it.
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Old 11-05-2019, 08:40 AM
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So if you got cut from 9 out of 10 houses at URI after first round, there’s probably one of two reasons (this is complete conjecture based on campus knowledge, I don’t know you or any details of your recruitment). One is that your grades weren’t good compared to other freshmen. The other is that you didn’t really stand out. Honestly, some people don’t shine during formal recruitment. I wouldn’t look at it as “9 houses have already rejected me”. Informal could give you a chance to have deeper conversations and let people really get to know you (and vice versa).

I couldn’t tell you how many hours go into a colony. Colony members are literally building a chapter from the bottom up. They’ll have National guidance but the pieces, contacts, and relationships that are already in place in established sororities need to be created. Leadership boards, alumnae and campus relations, philanthropy contacts all have to me made. Most women that colonize says it’s hard work but very rewarding. It’s also not a guaranteed bid. You’ll be interviewed by their National reps and they will chose the colony class. I think there is a misconception among some PNMs that they’ll take everyone who is interested and that’s definitely not the case.
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Old 11-05-2019, 09:17 AM
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Kelly is spring COB still a big deal?

LostGirl, many moons ago I joined a sorority at URI the second time I rushed. I know how it feels. If it's still a thing, spring COB was more relaxed and may be a good option for you. Also, keep in mind that the colony will not take everything. They are starting from scratch, so they may be quite picky on who they give bids to. My sorority was a colony at URI, and it was very rewarding to join but a lot of work like others have said.
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Old 11-05-2019, 09:35 AM
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Hi Laura! Last year 3 houses Spring COB’d, took classes between 9-21 girls. More houses were eligible but chose not to (I guess because they only had a few spots?).
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Old 11-05-2019, 10:00 AM
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This thread is specific enough that OP could probably be identified. Here's an offer from me to edit the posts thus far to make the question and answers more generic. I'd hate for OP to have her choices even further limited by her participation here. You'd be surprised how many lurkers there are here.
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Old 11-05-2019, 10:24 AM
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Have you been making an effort this semester to get involved on campus and meet members of Greek life? A group might want you when youíre re-rushing if youíve done those things, but probably not if all youíve done this semester is sit around waiting for another rush to go to.
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Old 11-05-2019, 11:09 AM
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I joined clubs and made an effort to get involved, but I havenít met many sorority girls, mainly non-greeks
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Old 11-05-2019, 11:37 AM
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Do sorority members host events or fundraisers on campus that you could attend? Are they visible on campus? Are there opportunities to strike up a conversation with them?

For example, my sorority hosted a pageant every year as a fundraiser that was open to the entire school. We also posted tables around campus during finals week and gave out candy - Smarties and Dum Dums. Adorable, I know These types of scenarios can present a chance to talk to them or ask questions.

Also, don't feel completely rejected. Even if conversations didn't click during round 1 and you were cut by most of the chapters, they're basing decisions on one conversation. It's certainly not a perfect system, and some potential members don't "shine" in such a setting, as someone else said here. Informal might be your best option. Or try formal recruitment again and practice conversations ahead of time. Were you giving a lot of one word answers? Try thinking of the questions you were asked and prep some complete, well-thought-out answers. For example, if someone asks you what your major is, don't simply say, "Biology," and move on. Explain why you're interested in the subject and what you hope to do after school.

Regardless, if you feel this is something you truly want, don't shrug your shoulders and give up. Try again and make sure you have your ducks in a row. Good luck!
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Old 11-05-2019, 03:03 PM
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If being Greek meant so much for you, as you stated, why didn't you take the shot with the one house you didn't get cut from? It's been said here so many times, but what's one more? You had a house left that you chose not to take advantage of. As much as I don't know Rhode Island from East Jabip, I can't imagine a PNM going through recruitment and being such a blank slate that she gets cut from every chapter after round 1. Does it happen? hyper competitive schools like an Indiana or an Alabama. Your ship may have sailed on any option but the colony at this point. As someone who has advised 4 colonies to new chapters, it's A LOT of work and extremely rewarding. But know that a bid to the colony is not guaranteed either. They won't take everyone, and depending upon campus total and the number of women interested, you may have a difficult time. One of the colonies I worked with had 200 women come out for the colony recruitment and campus total was 80. We HAD to cut 120 women. It's just the way of the game sometimes.
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Old 11-05-2019, 04:32 PM
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Also, keep in mind that just because the college Panhellenic office sets the minimum to go through recruitment at a 3.0, doesn't mean that is a high enough GPA for a chapter to keep you. Most chapters set their own GPA requirements, and most are above a 3.0.

So get involved. Make new friends. Study hard and get the GPA up. Then keep your ear open for COB events in the second semester.
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Old 11-05-2019, 06:13 PM
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I will say this as a person who got into her chapter through informal recruitment. It's gonna be a lot more relaxed and you'll be able to have deeper conversations with the sisters you'll meet.

But on the other hand the colonization can be an amazing opportunity to not only bring a sorority to campus but get close to a bunch of girls who all share the same goal as you.

It's good you're getting involved now, as this'll help you if you go for COB or the colony. Good luck!
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