What do you feel like saying, right now?

[cheerfulgreek]

It's like really slow today, and I have until 6 before I leave. Time is going to draaaaag.

[summer_gphib]

I am seriously needing a job. This stay at home thing is getting old... :-P The good news is that hubby got a 5% raise on top of the 7% he got in Jan, when he started his new position, so we've made up for me not working. The bad news is I'm bored. I quit to take care of Forrest the basset. Now that he's passed on, I have nothing much to do!

[WCsweet<3]

This is going to be a slight rant. Sorry in advance.

I've always had friends. I went to a school that was k-8th grade with about 26 people in each class. We didn't have a choice. We were friends. I also was involved in sports typically with the same people (many from school) and because we saw each other enough and had similar interests we were more or less friends. In high school I was involved and so I had friends through those activities, but it was also a small school (less than 200 in each graduating class). In college, I had dorm friends my first year or Kappa Delta at my second.

Now I have graduated from college and am back in my hometown going to grad school. My high school is quite a bit away on the other side of the town. Many of my friends are either still single and want to party all the time or having kids. I feel either like an old woman who doesn't want to go clubbing all the time or a scrooge around the children (I'm not a big fan of them...yet). I feel like I don't have any close friends who I can call on a random minute to go to dinner/see a movie/hangout. I've tried Junior League (many seem to be in the baby making phase) and an alumnae association (I'm the youngest by quite a few years). Many of the other people in grad school are either in the party stage, seriously married to school or just not interested in making friends. My boyfriend's friends/brothers (we live more or less on his side of town) and their girlfriends are fine. None of us seem to click quite right to be close friends.

I feel like I have hit a wall on trying to make friends. I don't know what to do anymore. How do adults make friends?

end rant.

[SWTXBelle]

I have 60+ midterms to grade.
It is too beautiful a day to grade.
We don't get snow days - we should get "incredible weather too nice to stay inside" days.

[DreamfulSpirit]

I'm going to become a US Citizen, and legally take my married name on April 20th!! (And yes...I know what that date is, but I didn't get to choose it!)

[victoriana]

There were multiple shootings on campus tonight... from what I hear there are multiple victims. The suspect is still at large. This makes me SO thankful I live off campus. I hope everyone is alright. I can't freaking wait to move away when I graduate in December.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by victoriana

There were multiple shootings on campus tonight... from what I hear there are multiple victims. The suspect is still at large. This makes me SO thankful I live off campus. I hope everyone is alright. I can't freaking wait to move away when I graduate in December.

Oh crap. Where on campus? It always felt more safe on campus than off when I was there. Off campus was scary.

Nevermind. I found a link: Lowell and Jarvis, across from campus, no EMU students involved, at least two shot.

http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/A...z/-/index.html

http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/news/region/...gan-university

An EMU student tells 7 Action News he received several text messages from the school stating that the shooting occurred in the area of Jarvis and Lowell.
Those text message said to avoid the area. The text messages say the suspect is a black male, white baggy shirt, blue jeans, red baseball cap and scraggly beard.


That article says they know who he is but haven't found him yet.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

I feel like I have hit a wall on trying to make friends. I don't know what to do anymore. How do adults make friends?

I know what you mean. It's hard for an adult to make friends, other than by making friends with the parents of their children's friends. (This avenue is closed to us, btw, as we don't have children.)

My husband and I made a few friends, and some "friends", through the temple I used to belong to. (The friends are still friends; the "friends" suddenly pretended they didn't know us when we dropped our membership.) We've also made a few friends at the temple we're considering joining - mainly because we joined the choir (you don't have to be a member to sing with the choir) and my husband pretty much is the tenor section .

We also joined a couple of local groups on meetup.com, one focused on beer appreciation and another focused on appreciation of restaurants with good food. You could try there - look through local groups with interests similar to yours, and check out one or two.

You could also just invite whomever you like to go out to dinner some evening. If they have kids, they can get a babysitter. If they're into clubbing, they can go clubbing after dinner, and you can choose to join them or not. You'd need to plan ahead and take the initiative.

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by DreamfulSpirit

I'm going to become a US Citizen, and legally take my married name on April 20th!! (And yes...I know what that date is, but I didn't get to choose it!)

Congratulations!

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

I know what you mean. It's hard for an adult to make friends, other than by making friends with the parents of their children's friends. (This avenue is closed to us, btw, as we don't have children.)

My husband and I made a few friends, and some "friends", through the temple I used to belong to. (The friends are still friends; the "friends" suddenly pretended they didn't know us when we dropped our membership.) We've also made a few friends at the temple we're considering joining - mainly because we joined the choir (you don't have to be a member to sing with the choir) and my husband pretty much is the tenor section .

We also joined a couple of local groups on meetup.com, one focused on beer appreciation and another focused on appreciation of restaurants with good food. You could try there - look through local groups with interests similar to yours, and check out one or two.

You could also just invite whomever you like to go out to dinner some evening. If they have kids, they can get a babysitter. If they're into clubbing, they can go clubbing after dinner, and you can choose to join them or not. You'd need to plan ahead and take the initiative.

Still working on meetup.com. I've joined a few groups, but the times haven't worked out and a lot of the events have been filled. I know I could plan with my friends and I have a few times. The ones with babies live on the other side of town and eventually I realized I was always the one initiating contact and they would never drive to my side of town. I still see the clubbing ones, I just don't have that close a connection with them.

still sounding angsty. I'm just lacking patience on this today.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

We also joined a couple of local groups on meetup.com, one focused on beer appreciation and another focused on appreciation of restaurants with good food. You could try there - look through local groups with interests similar to yours, and check out one or two.

Ditto. I actually went to a Meetup tonight. I got an email about it through a student group I am in and, though I had no clue if anyone I knew would be there, I decided to just go and see what happens. I ran into a girl in the parking lot heading toward the same place and we struck up a conversation as we walked in. We sat down with the group and just jumped in (this week's activity was just drinks and food at a hotel). Before I knew it, I was having a great discussion with a bunch of strangers. I exchanged e-mails and made tentative plans with a few. Making friends when you don't have a million social groups for "insta-friends" can be really intimidating so you just have to get gutsy. Honestly, making friends as an adult is a little like preschool: "Hi! I'm CG. Wanna be friends?"

[DubaiSis]

The thing with making friends as a grown up is they don't "just happen." You have to really set out to make friends, and I think expose yourself even more than with dating. I've had to start completely over with friends a few time. I'd definitely stick with the alumnae association and work toward young'ing down the membership. And I'd get out there and into stuff as much as you can. Tennis lessons, golf, ceramics, it's easier to meet people with common interests and it's not as awkward to follow up with someone when you have a reason. Using tennis as a for instance, you hit it off with a gal in the tennis lessons, you can contact her to go hit balls between lessons, or go get a much needed drink after class.

I've never been a huge partier (well, since I got it out of my system in high school and college) and I also don't have kids, so I feel your pain. But I actually found the Moms groups to work pretty well for me because a lot of times they want to talk about anything BUT their kids.

Oh, and I met some of the best friends of my life from attending a Meet Up. I got involved with the Kerry campaign, and made friends that have strengthened and evolved well beyond politics in the years since.

[nittanygirl]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Still working on meetup.com. I've joined a few groups, but the times haven't worked out and a lot of the events have been filled. I know I could plan with my friends and I have a few times. The ones with babies live on the other side of town and eventually I realized I was always the one initiating contact and they would never drive to my side of town. I still see the clubbing ones, I just don't have that close a connection with them.

still sounding angsty. I'm just lacking patience on this today.

I've had a hard time too. My only friend I've met that I do things with I met through the Sigma alumni group here. She's wonderful but is a few years older than me and has a husband and baby soo some things I want to do aren't things she'd be interested in. But I did meet a few more girls at this one to hopefully hang out with. But it is hard. Definitely not like college where you run into the same people all the time. Especially in this city.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DreamfulSpirit

I'm going to become a US Citizen, and legally take my married name on April 20th!! (And yes...I know what that date is, but I didn't get to choose it!)

Congrats!!

I'm curious, if you don't mind saying -- what is your current citizenship?

[AGDLynn]

Yea, hubby decided "on his own" that he agreed with me that we need to replace the builder-basic gold chandeliers in the dining room and foyer!