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GeekyPenguin · #16 12-14-2003, 10:28 PM

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Originally posted by TKE209Sweethrt
What? Hell no you're not! Okay, I looked at your location, you're in friggin' Wisconsin, I don't suspect a lot of "variety" to be there.

Actually that's really not true. In addition to corn and cows, we also have black people.

PhiPsiRuss · #17 12-14-2003, 10:31 PM

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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
Actually that's really not true. In addition to corn and cows, we also have black people.

That just doesn't sound right.

AchtungBaby80 · #18 12-14-2003, 10:34 PM

I just wonder why on earth someone would say this to a friend??

PhiPsiRuss · #19 12-14-2003, 10:38 PM

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
I just wonder why on earth someone would say this to a friend??

Someone could do their psychological doctoral dissertation on this "friend."

lovelyivy84 · #20 12-14-2003, 10:47 PM

Well said.

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Originally posted by Dionysus
I think it depends on the reason. If you have not dated outside of your race because you have not been around that many people unlike "your kind" or if your family is against it and dating interacially will cause a lot of drama, then I think your reason isn't racially motivated. However, if you have not dated outside your race because you think they are "icky" or you think that races shouldn't mix, then I believe it can be a sign of closed-mindedness. But, regardless of the reason, if you don't want to date interractially, then don't. It can lead to problems like rainbow mentioned.

bethany1982 · #21 12-14-2003, 11:04 PM

Anyone who thinks you're a racist based upon your dating preferences is crazy.

honeychile · #22 12-14-2003, 11:23 PM

I think your friend needs to get a life. Dating should be done by the heart, and hearts are all red!

Jill1228 · #23 12-14-2003, 11:34 PM

Veemers, I can relate. If I had a dollar for everytime a "friend" or relative tried to call me out about who I dated, i would retire

Most of the guys I dated in college happened to be white. I dated guys who were gentlemen and treated me well, regardless of race or color. That was all that mattered!

You are a consenting adult. Who you date is NOBODY's business

Munchkin03 · #24 12-14-2003, 11:48 PM

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Originally posted by Jill1228
Veemers, I can relate. If I had a dollar for everytime a "friend" or relative tried to call me out about who I dated, i would retire

Add to that "people who don't know me and think just 'cause they see me in the mall, they can offer advice"! Dayum.

Veemers, don't you worry about them. Haters.

Rudey · #25 12-14-2003, 11:55 PM

And remember, it's all pink on the inside.

-Rudey

PhiPsiRuss · #26 12-14-2003, 11:57 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
And remember, it's all pink on the inside.

What? A Tootsie Pop?

Rudey · #27 12-15-2003, 12:10 AM

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Originally posted by russellwarshay
What? A Tootsie Pop?

If you really think that, then you must be from the land of No Tang.

-Rudey
--Possibly even the mayor Russ

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jharb · #28 12-15-2003, 01:09 AM

I think that with this disturbing you as much as it is it proves that you are not a racist. I have friends that are black and I grew up around many people of color, but when it comes down to it I went to a mostly white school and didn't have an opportunity to date outside of my race.

I don't consider myself a racist because I am aware of this, but simply that I am not always sexually attracted to people of different races. I did date a black man and in high school I dated an asian...but that was because they were wonderful guys...not because I wanted to up my racial dating quota!

I would personally tell this friend to butt out!

absolutuscchick · #29 12-15-2003, 01:15 AM

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Originally posted by Rudey
If you really think that, then you must be from the land of No Tang.

-Rudey
--Possibly even the mayor Russ .

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

smiley21 · #30 12-16-2003, 05:51 PM

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Originally posted by veemers
So, I have this new boyfriend, and I thought it would be really great to introduce him to some of my friends. He came to visit me, and I took him around campus. After that weekend, I was hanging out with my friend Jo in her room, and we started talking about Steve. All of a sudden Jo says, “Vanessa, I’m worried about you. You only date white men. Are you sure you aren’t racist? You really need to date all different types of men.” At first I brushed her comment off as nothing, but then later I started to wonder.

What if I AM racist? I’ve always thought of myself as an open, caring individual, but my friend is right - aside from this one guy I dated for two months freshman year, I’ve only dated white men. Is something wrong with me?

What does it mean to be racist in terms of whom one chooses to date? Is it really wrong? Or is there something that could be done?

we are in the same boat. i have had a friend say the same thing to me. dont feel bad. people need to mind their own business. if i had a dollar for the looks or comments i get when i with my 'white' boyfriend, college would become a hobby. when we were attracted to each other, color took a backseat.