How formal is Pref. night?

[Aerylle]

I know it changes per school, and per sorority, and per year, but my school's website only shows two dresses on the website which doesn't give me a very good idea.

I assume by 'formal' it means cocktail dresses, not prom-like dresses.

I have found a dress that I love, but I keep thinking it might be too formal. It is a form-fitting bubble hemmed pink dress.

It's the same material most prom dresses are made of (the shiny material), but it short and more party-like.

Here's my questions:
1. How formal was your dress? ((A link to a similar dress would help if you can. If not, it's cool. :]))
2. Where did you find your dress?
3. Is the dress I described above too formal?
4. Is it best to stick with neutral/simple colors, or are bright colors acceptable?

Thanks girls! If there are similar threads, just link me. :] I've searched around and can't find exactly what I'm looking for (but I tend to overlook the obvious sometimes. ha ha)

[BeeBee23]

depends on where you are going through recruitment. Some schools are "no frill" or have a pretty casual recruitment all together. Other schools are more formal. I would think that from what you're saying "formal" means like a cocktail dress...definitely NOT a prom dress. Also, at some schools, PNMs wear black dresses to pref. But, that wouldnt be required but it might mention it in the recruitment info. I would say dresses like these would probably work with what it sounds like they're suggesting.



just make sure its simple and classic. not too short or anything.

[sydney bristow]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

I know it changes per school, and per sorority, and per year, but my school's website only shows two dresses on the website which doesn't give me a very good idea.

I assume by 'formal' it means cocktail dresses, not prom-like dresses.

I have found a dress that I love, but I keep thinking it might be too formal. It is a form-fitting bubble hemmed pink dress.

It's the same material most prom dresses are made of (the shiny material), but it short and more party-like.

Here's my questions:
1. How formal was your dress? ((A link to a similar dress would help if you can. If not, it's cool. :]))
2. Where did you find your dress?
3. Is the dress I described above too formal?
4. Is it best to stick with neutral/simple colors, or are bright colors acceptable?

Thanks girls! If there are similar threads, just link me. :] I've searched around and can't find exactly what I'm looking for (but I tend to overlook the obvious sometimes. ha ha)

The dress you are describing sounds like it COULD be bordering on too prom-y for pref. Think more cocktail, less homecoming.

Personally, I got my dress at a local boutique and it was black with kind of a cut out scoop neck that was covered in a black mesh with beading (that sounds slutty/weird but it was really cute!).

I would say colors are ok if you are a person that normally wears colors (I usually stick to neutrals). You want to be comfortable and still be yourself.

Something like this:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3101832/...bo=6014146&P=1

or this
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3101467/...bo=6014146&P=1

would be great. I personally love Nordstrom but there are cute dresses available at any budget. If you do end up joining a chapter you will probably be able to wear it again for a formal or something so you can get your money's worth.

Ps- now I REALLY REALLY REALLY want both of those dresses. But I am not a PNM, le sigh.

[qbt1990]

You want it to be very classic/mature/cute, not so much flashy... I got mine from J Crew.

[Aerylle]

Ah, good to know. Thank you!

Turns out my taste tends to be more formal than is required. I'll start looking for more of a cocktail dress. Thank you once again, to Nordstrom I go. :]

[violetpretty]

Pref attire will differ from school to school. I've never heard of a school where PNMs wear formal, prom-like dresses, but maybe there are schools like that.

1. My dress was a 3/4 sleeve multicolored wrap dress. I went through recruitment in winter, though. Looking back, I would have gone for more of a cocktail look.
2. I got mine on eBay. It was BCBG. I had been lusting over it and found it cheaper there. I didn't get it specifically for pref, though. It was just what I decided to wear out of what I had.
3. At my school, it your dress would be too formal.
4. I've never heard of a school where an LBD isn't appropriate for pref. At some schools it is a necessity (Texas comes to mind), at others, a colored dress is perfectly fine.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by qbt1990

You want it to be very classic/mature/cute, not so much flashy... I got mine from J Crew.

Thanks for the help. And suggestion of store. :]

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Pref attire will differ from school to school. I've never heard of a school where PNMs wear formal, prom-like dresses, but maybe there are schools like that.

1. My dress was a 3/4 sleeve multicolored wrap dress. I went through recruitment in winter, though. Looking back, I would have gone for more of a cocktail look.
2. I got mine on eBay. It was BCBG.
3. At my school, it your dress would be too formal.
4. I've never heard of a school where an LBD isn't appropriate for pref. At some schools it is a necessity (Texas comes to mind), at others, a colored dress is perfectly fine.

I think I will stick to a LBD with a pop of color to be safe but myself (the pop of color).

I was thinking of checking eBay but I've always been paranoid of things like that because I tend to float between two different sizes so I never know what to do.

[BeeBee23]

you have all summer to find a dress. I'm sure you can find a cute one that's in your budget and not have to get it off ebay. Or you might even have something in your closet now that would work! Good luck shopping!

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by BeeBee23

you have all summer to find a dress. I'm sure you can find a cute one that's in your budget and not have to get it off ebay. Or you might even have something in your closet now that would work! Good luck shopping!

The only dress I have in my closet that is the least bit formal (I have given away all my other formal dresses from the years) is my prom dress from last year (which, now that I look at it, is more like a cocktail dress..).

But thanks! :]

[AXOrushadvisor]

The school that I volunteer for has a no frills recruitment and the sorority women and PNM's wear cocktail dresses- short never long. I think the 2 examples from Bee Bee are perfect. BTW, I would go more classic then high school prom- that way you'll be able to wear the dress again for other sorority functions.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

The school that I volunteer for has a no frills recruitment and the sorority women and PNM's wear cocktail dresses- short never long. I think the 2 examples from Bee Bee are perfect. BTW, I would go more classic then high school prom- that way you'll be able to wear the dress again for other sorority functions.

I'm leaning toward a cute classically cut dress from Nordstrom. :]

Thank you for your advice.

[mittens]

Pref night at my school is usually a cocktail dress.

Mine was like this: http://www.camillelavie.com/c-produc...g&gid=15&cid=1

...I just had a different color.

I would recommend you buy something simple and nothing too short for taste.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by mittens

Pref night at my school is usually a cocktail dress.

Mine was like this: http://www.camillelavie.com/c-produc...g&gid=15&cid=1

...I just had a different color.

I would recommend you buy something simple and nothing too short for taste.

That is so gorgeous! It looks similar to the one I am leaning towards. :]

[Drolefille]

Mine was a sundress but our recruitment was low on frills and that was the only day that that level of dressiness was expected.