Is there a specific "look" in order to be recruited?

[Flowerchild94]

My cousin was in Kappa Kappa Gamma when she was in college and I asked her what you have to look like to get into a sorority and basically all she told me was "you have to be cute, smart, funny, and personable". Sooo...that didn't really help me.

I'm transferring to a really laid back college (think hippy town) for next year. I really want to rush, however, I'm not quite how to "look". I know they look for natural looks, or so I've read. I compete in pageants, so I'm used to getting ready almost everyday. Usually, for me, that means eyes (shadow, mascara, and I also have lash extensions), face (concealer, foundation, powder, bronzer, blush, and highlighter), and then hair (I have itip permanent 18" extensions that I get done every 4 months). Although I may wear *alot* of makeup, it's usually always natural looking and never over done. I also dress very nicely almost everyday, so that means like skirts and dresses (that are all fingertip length. Modest is hottest!) I only own like one pair of jeans and hardly ever wear them because I live in a really hot state. I guess what I'm trying to ask is, would any of this come across as "fake" during rush? I don't want people to think I'm trying too hard because that's genuinely how I dress almost everyday. It's not that I'm trying too hard or anything or have no confidence because of the amount of make up I wear, It's just the fact that I love putting it on and getting ready and feeling like girly and what not. I'd be perfectly ok with wearing yoga pants, my hair in a pony tail, and no make up for a day...or a week.

Also, what do people look for in a pledge? I have a 3.9 gpa, I will be transferring in as a sophomore, I'm double majoring, I've been a figure skater almost all my life and have been coaching skating since I was 11, with almost 10 years of volunteer work under my belt, and I also graduated high school a year early. I'm kind of shy at first, but I'm not afraid to go up to someone and initiate conversation and I'm also good at small talk and acting interested/engaged without coming off as fake.

I hope none of that sounded like I was bragging about myself! I just didn't know what to say haha I don't think I've ever typed that much about myself ever.

[WestcoastWonder]

Originally Posted by Flowerchild94

My cousin was in Kappa Kappa Gamma when she was in college and I asked her what you have to look like to get into a sorority and basically all she told me was "you have to be cute, smart, funny, and personable". Sooo...that didn't really help me.

I'm transferring to a really laid back college (think hippy town) for next year. I really want to rush, however, I'm not quite how to "look". I know they look for natural looks, or so I've read. I compete in pageants, so I'm used to getting ready almost everyday. Usually, for me, that means eyes (shadow, mascara, and I also have lash extensions), face (concealer, foundation, powder, bronzer, blush, and highlighter), and then hair (I have itip permanent 18" extensions that I get done every 4 months). Although I may wear *alot* of makeup, it's usually always natural looking and never over done. I also dress very nicely almost everyday, so that means like skirts and dresses (that are all fingertip length. Modest is hottest!) I only own like one pair of jeans and hardly ever wear them because I live in a really hot state. I guess what I'm trying to ask is, would any of this come across as "fake" during rush? I don't want people to think I'm trying too hard because that's genuinely how I dress almost everyday. It's not that I'm trying too hard or anything or have no confidence because of the amount of make up I wear, It's just the fact that I love putting it on and getting ready and feeling like girly and what not. I'd be perfectly ok with wearing yoga pants, my hair in a pony tail, and no make up for a day...or a week.

Also, what do people look for in a pledge? I have a 3.9 gpa, I will be transferring in as a sophomore, I'm double majoring, I've been a figure skater almost all my life and have been coaching skating since I was 11, with almost 10 years of volunteer work under my belt, and I also graduated high school a year early. I'm kind of shy at first, but I'm not afraid to go up to someone and initiate conversation and I'm also good at small talk and acting interested/engaged without coming off as fake.

I hope none of that sounded like I was bragging about myself! I just didn't know what to say haha I don't think I've ever typed that much about myself ever.

Your cousin is right. There is no specific look for a sorority and they really are looking for smart, pretty, nice, personable girls.

I'm not sure what school you're going to, but with your extracurriculars and GPA, you seem to be pretty well prepared with a strong background.

In regards to the makeup thing, I would just try to look natural, while still accenting and highlighting your features with eyeliner, blush etc. No need for heavy stage makeup because if you're in a hot state, you'll regret caking on the makeup when you're walking outside in the sun all day! Keep it light, but still look right!

If you have any questions, you can PM me and depending on where you go to school, I can help you a with a bit more detail!

[irishpipes]

You're over thinking it.

Sororities are groups of friends. Are you a good friend? Do you come across as likeable and someone girls would like to befriend? If so, you're on the right track.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Flowerchild94

My cousin was in Kappa Kappa Gamma when she was in college and I asked her what you have to look like to get into a sorority and basically all she told me was "you have to be cute, smart, funny, and personable". Sooo...that didn't really help me.

I'm transferring to a really laid back college (think hippy town) for next year. I really want to rush, however, I'm not quite how to "look". I know they look for natural looks, or so I've read. I compete in pageants, so I'm used to getting ready almost everyday. Usually, for me, that means eyes (shadow, mascara, and I also have lash extensions), face (concealer, foundation, powder, bronzer, blush, and highlighter), and then hair (I have itip permanent 18" extensions that I get done every 4 months). Although I may wear *alot* of makeup, it's usually always natural looking and never over done. I also dress very nicely almost everyday, so that means like skirts and dresses (that are all fingertip length. Modest is hottest!) I only own like one pair of jeans and hardly ever wear them because I live in a really hot state. I guess what I'm trying to ask is, would any of this come across as "fake" during rush? I don't want people to think I'm trying too hard because that's genuinely how I dress almost everyday. It's not that I'm trying too hard or anything or have no confidence because of the amount of make up I wear, It's just the fact that I love putting it on and getting ready and feeling like girly and what not. I'd be perfectly ok with wearing yoga pants, my hair in a pony tail, and no make up for a day...or a week.

Also, what do people look for in a pledge? I have a 3.9 gpa, I will be transferring in as a sophomore, I'm double majoring, I've been a figure skater almost all my life and have been coaching skating since I was 11, with almost 10 years of volunteer work under my belt, and I also graduated high school a year early. I'm kind of shy at first, but I'm not afraid to go up to someone and initiate conversation and I'm also good at small talk and acting interested/engaged without coming off as fake.

I hope none of that sounded like I was bragging about myself! I just didn't know what to say haha I don't think I've ever typed that much about myself ever.

1) Be yourself.
2) Look presentable.
3) Practice your conversation skills.

Your school will have certain guidelines about what to wear during each round of recruitment. It varies across schools - check online, and call the Greek life office if there's no information elsewhere. Don't go crazy with the hair and makeup; think about how you'd get ready for church or a job interview.

Your GPA is great and you have a good number of activities. Be prepared to talk about them. While you should look nice and put together, your bigger concern should be your conversations with the sisters and how you relate to them.

[DubaiSis]

Holy 80's Batman! That's a lot of makeup.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by WestcoastWonder

Your cousin is right. There is no specific look for a sorority and they really are looking for smart, pretty, nice, personable girls.

I'm not sure what school you're going to, but with your extracurriculars and GPA, you seem to be pretty well prepared with a strong background.

In regards to the makeup thing, I would just try to look natural, while still accenting and highlighting your features with eyeliner, blush etc. No need for heavy stage makeup because if you're in a hot state, you'll regret caking on the makeup when you're walking outside in the sun all day! Keep it light, but still look right!

If you have any questions, you can PM me and depending on where you go to school, I can help you a with a bit more detail!

And which sorority is it that you are a member of?

[AZTheta]

I suggest you edit your post to remove information that will make you easily identifiable going through rush/recruitment.

Then you can message WestcoastWonder and ASTalumna06 and politely ask them to remove their qfp's after you've edited your post.

[adpiucf]

Just be yourself. Visit the school and take a tour. You'll get a sense of what people look like there. Also, visit the school's Greek Life website and you'll see what their members look like. Most schools publish a recruitment pamphlet with suggestions of what to wear each round. Take your cue from those photos. You will be fine.

[LAblondeGPhi]

Have you checked the Panhellenic website, or the facebook pages and websites of chapters at your school? That would probably give you a pretty good indication of the school's Greek life style.

FWIW, you described the school as "hippie" and yourself as decidedly... un-hippie. Sounds to me like you already have a hunch what the answer to your question is.

[33girl]

Please, please for the love of all that's holy, the terminology in your title should be what do you have to do to "get a bid" or "receive a bid." This isn't the military or Hare Krishna. You don't "get recruited. "

I know she doesn't know any better, but this is just uber nails on a chalkboard to me and another reason we should jettison these asinine terms that have nothing to do with what actually occurs during rush.

As far as pageant aesthetic vs hippie aesthetic, look at the Facebook pages of the school's sorority chapters and see what they're wearing.

[Titchou]

For some reason, I am so hoping this is a troll.....

No, for several reasons I am hoping this is a troll...

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by Titchou

For some reason, I am so hoping this is a troll.....

No, for several reasons I am hoping this is a troll...

Envisioning hair extensions that go straight up...

[AOII Angel]

Titchou, ma petite chou, I am with you!

[AZTheta]

OP - you ARE a TROLL (channeling Maury Povich).

#annoyed

[tld221]

I was hoping this thread would be full of snarky comments, but, no dice.