Swapping Sororities???

MTSUGirlie · #1 07-25-2006, 07:20 PM

I have a sister who is very unhappy with our sorority for personal reasons. While I was talking to her she stated she was going to just change sororities and rush a different one. I told her that as I know it, that is not possible...once a DZ, always a DZ...not another. I suggested to her that if she is that unhappy to take some time off and really think about it..should she choose later she can turn in her letters (which I expressed severely that I hope she doesn't).

I am just making sure, she can't just join another sorority can she? I have always read and been told you can't do that. I guess I am confused because someone told her she can.

sdsuchelle · #2 07-25-2006, 07:23 PM

No, you can't. It's against Panhellenic rules. I suppose she could join a local sorority, but not Panhellenic.

MTSUGirlie · #3 07-25-2006, 07:56 PM

That is what I was thinking. I dunno, maybe she is trying to go for a local. I just hope she figures something out. I love her dearly and will no matter what her choice is.

gphiangel624 · #4 07-26-2006, 12:11 AM

If she has not yet initiated with Delta Zeta, then she can pursue membership in another chapter. I'm assuming from your post that she has initiated and is considered a member with full privileges of membership.

AznSAE · #5 07-26-2006, 10:48 AM

okay so i have to ask this. how will one sorority know if someone was already a member of another? what if someone did this secretly without telling? say he/she transfers and that school does not have their fraternity/sorority and decided to rush another knowing its against the rules. what will happen?

tunatartare · #6 07-26-2006, 10:50 AM

From what my understanding is, the NPC has some kind of database listing all of its members. If she were to try to join another sorority at a different campus, the NPC would be able to tell them that she is ineligible because she is already a member of a different sorority.

Drolefille · #7 07-26-2006, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by AznSAE

okay so i have to ask this. how will one sorority know if someone was already a member of another? what if someone did this secretly without telling? say he/she transfers and that school does not have their fraternity/sorority and decided to rush another knowing its against the rules. what will happen?

While I believe there is SOME sort of safeguard in place besides just gossip, I know that if you get caught you get your membership revoked in the second GLO.

I know that names get sent to HQ at some point, after pledging I assume, and there could be a master list of NPC women.

Not a clue really but there are a few leads...

AlphaFrog · #8 07-26-2006, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by AznSAE

okay so i have to ask this. how will one sorority know if someone was already a member of another? what if someone did this secretly without telling? say he/she transfers and that school does not have their fraternity/sorority and decided to rush another knowing its against the rules. what will happen?

I supposed IF it was ever found out (and if they person was DL enough about it, it might not ever be found out) they would probably be expelled from both groups. Although something like that might be hard to keep a secret.

irishpipes · #9 07-26-2006, 04:50 PM

I would think that in this computer age it would be harder to get away with it, since databases can be updated easily and shared easily, but I wonder how hard this would have been even 20 years ago.

LPIDelta · #10 07-26-2006, 05:43 PM

To best of my knowledge, there is no database. Women joining more than one group is becoming more frequent and so a database might be a good idea.

I think many of the NPC groups have a declaration on their initial forms that indicates that the new member is not already affiliated with a NPC, and that is what we have relied on to help enforce the unanimous agreement.

The stories I have heard of women being "found out" usually stem from someone in the old group telling someone in the new group--in this digital age, information travels fast.

Beryana · #11 07-26-2006, 07:23 PM

**A disclaimer that I was told this by a staff member at AOII headquarters**
Actually there was a woman that joined Phi Mu, transfered schools and rushed again. She was then initiated into AOII (or the other way around). I do not believe that it was done because she wanted to see how many groups she could join, etc, just wanted to college greek experience on the new campus that probably did not have a chapter of Phi Mu. Somehow it was eventually found out because of a local panhellenic or something and she had to relinquish her membership in both NPC sororities.

It could be common, but there really is no way of knowing unless a database is put together (because remember that if the question of having been initiated into an NPC group is not on the recruitment application it probably is not going to be offered information - whether the intention is to deceive or not! If the question is on a membership form and is ignored, then that is an issue to take up with the chapters.)

irishpipes · #12 07-26-2006, 08:33 PM

I would guess that Sarah's example is not the only one. I mean, so many people transfer schools, and not every campus has a chapter. I'll bet many ladies have innocently re-rushed. I mean who really asks, "so by the way, have you ever initiated before?" Of course, if it really was innocent, I would be surprised if the person would never bring up her previous experience.