Dating in the Greek System

dancingdiva · #1 03-26-2013, 08:44 PM

Hey everyone! I am currently a sophomore sorority member at my school and I don't feel like I've been successful in my dating life so far. I've never been on a date and I would like to change that. I attend many swaps and go to the fraternity houses often, but I still haven't connected with a guy at my school. Does anyone have any advice on how I can change my dating situation?

Kelsium · #2 03-26-2013, 09:02 PM

My advice is to not even concern yourself with it. Find yourself something you really love doing, and focus all your energy on that. It could be a sport, club, field of study, whatever. Since you're in a sorority you probably already have a strong social support system that will occupy you emotionally. This will help because one, if you feel your life is complete you won't feel like you're waiting around for someone to pursue you and two, guys tend to like girls who are confident and secure with themselves and have passions.
hope this helps!

33girl · #3 03-26-2013, 09:56 PM

I thought people didn't "date" anymore.

If you mean you have never been to a fraternity date party or formal, well guess what, you might go your whole college career without doing that.

Kelsium · #4 03-26-2013, 10:56 PM

^considerably less than before i'm sure, but it still happens. I guess it depends on the type of person you run into and what your standards are.

ree-Xi · #5 03-27-2013, 12:43 AM

Focus on building up all the important areas your life - your interests, your studies, your sisterhood, your career options, your faith (if you have one) and everything else will fall into place. It sounds trite, but love often comes when you're least expecting it (that is, if you're looking for love and not just "hook-ups; I'm old, sorry).

If you don't focus on yourself at some point, there won't be much of you to go around when you do find someone.

Good luck. You're young.

MaryPoppins · #6 03-27-2013, 07:34 AM

The advice you are receiving here in this thread is good and true. Going looking for love/chasing men will get you all the wrong men and run off the good ones. However if you are involved on campus, and a cutie seems friendly, ask him if he wants to get coffee/Pinkberry or study. Ask a guy friend to your date party. Be casual but sincere about your invitations. You might meet one of his guy friends who is perfect for you. You will be turned down 4 out of 5 times, boys have had to endure that for centuries. Whatever you do, keep your standards for him and yourself high, and I'm not talking about looks or money but about character and integrity. "Fratstars" usually believe their own press, and will disappoint you in more ways than one.

FSUZeta · #7 03-27-2013, 08:05 PM

as for sorority formals and date parties, I know lots of girls who just ask a guy friend on campus, a guy that might be in a study group with, or a guy they know is a nice guy from one of their classes.