Stepmother => legacy connection? (sorority)

kdonline · #1 01-23-2004, 12:35 PM

Reading the thread 2..3..4 times a legacy? made me wonder...

I know that, with regards to membership, sororities look at step relationships the same as natural, ie, if your step mother was in a sorority, you are a legacy to that sorority. Right?

Now, how about this...

Let's say my mother was a Chi Omega, my real sister is a Kappa Delta. My mother's mom was Delta Gamma and dad's mom was a KD.

Now, let's say my parents are divorced & remarried. My stepmother is a Tri Delt, her daughters (my step-sisters) were ADPi & Kappa. My stepmother's mom was a Theta. (I won't get into my Dad's stepdaughters, who are now my step-sisters...yet another legacy connection?)

Does that make me a legacy to all of the above? With the "step" rule, it would...correct?

How do sororities handle this kind of situation?

For those of you who are familiar with how sorority membership is decided, what do you all think?

(This is not MY case, except that my real sister IS a KD...but I could see this happening, the way families are now blended.)

NutBrnHair · #2 01-23-2004, 12:50 PM

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Originally posted by kdonline
Reading the thread 2..3..4 times a legacy? made me wonder...

Now, how about this...

Let's say my mother was a Chi Omega...

Personally, I'd just stick with the Chi Omega legacy & call it a day!

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 01-23-2004, 12:58 PM

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Delta Phi Epsilon is implementing a new procedure to assist our collegiate chapters in identifying legacies. A legacy to Delta Phi Epsilon is defined as a (step)sister, (step)daughter or (step)granddaughter of an initiated Delta Phi Epsilon sister.

That is quoted straight from the website. I can't speak for other sororities.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #4 01-23-2004, 01:09 PM

I have not read a rec form in a little while, but I believe Gamma Phi leaves it up to the member to decide if her stepdaughter is a legacy. But I could be wrong.........

Personally, if I had a stepdaughter and I thought she was a bad choice, there's no way I would want her to have "legacy" attached to her name.

#5 01-23-2004, 01:54 PM

I think it has a lot to do with the member labeling her step daughter as a legacy or not. What if she had been married to Susie PNM's dad for only 1 year and has only known her for 2? On the other hand, like my step dad and my mom have been married for 20 years.......if I were a guy and my dad (step dad) was in a frat, I'm sure I'd be considered a legacy since i have no contact with the bio dad. See what I mean? I don't know.........like I've said before, my chapter of ADPi generally considers all step relationships as legacies.

angelic1 · #6 01-23-2004, 03:05 PM

I remember a couple of years ago we had a discussion on this issue in our chapter. I believe with Pi Phi.. correct me somebody if i am wrong bc it was a while ago.. that it is on a chapter to chapter basis on step situations. I think we actually were given the chance to decide on these things. Still I am not 100% sure on our policy.

sugar and spice · #7 01-23-2004, 03:44 PM

With Tri Delt I'm almost positive it's a legacy if the stepmom/stepsister wants it to be considered such.

aephi alum · #8 01-23-2004, 06:51 PM

For AEPhi, I'm almost certain that only a full sister, daughter, or granddaughter is considered a legacy. Step and adoptive relationships don't count, but I think most chapters would treat a step or adoptive relation as a legacy anyway.

DeltaBetaBaby · #9 01-23-2004, 07:04 PM

what about in-laws? Like if I get married, would my bf's little sis be a legacy?

Jill1228 · #10 01-23-2004, 07:19 PM

You are so bad Nutbrown...that is why I LOVES ya!

Smooches!

But in Alpha Phi if you stepmother is an Alpha Phi, you would be considered a legacy

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Originally posted by NutBrnHair
Personally, I'd just stick with the Chi Omega legacy & call it a day!

breathesgelatin · #11 01-23-2004, 08:02 PM

For Pi Phi granddaughters, sisters, and daughters are automatic legacies.

A chapter can vote in their bylaws if they want great-granddaughters, stepdaughters, and stepsisters to count as well.

princessnerdy · #12 01-23-2004, 08:49 PM

Generally for us, steps are considered legacies, but not the same "strength" of legacy as say a mother-daughter, or grandmother-granddaughter. There are procedures to follow for legacies and recruitment and they are kind of broken down like that

NutBrnHair · #13 01-23-2004, 08:50 PM

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Originally posted by Jill1228
You are so bad Nutbrown...that is why I LOVES ya! Smooches!

Right back atcha, Jill! (I've been in a silly mood all day!)

amycat412 · #14 01-23-2004, 09:05 PM

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Originally posted by aephi alum
For AEPhi, I'm almost certain that only a full sister, daughter, or granddaughter is considered a legacy. Step and adoptive relationships don't count, but I think most chapters would treat a step or adoptive relation as a legacy anyway.

Would a chapter necessarily know a PNM was adopted? Wouldn't that be up to the PNM to disclose or not disclose?

Is there a box on rec forms/legacy info forms that designate adoptive relationship?

DGMarie · #15 01-23-2004, 11:55 PM

Actually, your Wisconsin AEPhi website states:

What is a legacy?

A legacy is a sister, a daughter or a grand daughter of a sorority member.

Adopted children are the legal children of members. I highly doubt there is discrimination in terms of legacy on how your daughter became your daughter.

Marie