Random Wedding Thread

[lovespink88]

I have to say, watching the RSVPs come in is one of the funnest parts. It's so exciting seeing who is all coming! I know it sounds silly, because for the most part you expect people to come, but it's still cool getting actual responses! I am anxiously awaiting today's mail.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I have to say, watching the RSVPs come in is one of the funnest parts. It's so exciting seeing who is all coming! I know it sounds silly, because for the most part you expect people to come, but it's still cool getting actual responses! I am anxiously awaiting today's mail.

Yay! How many days until The Day?

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On an unrelated note, I want to rant.

Two friends got engaged a little over a week ago. It was a big,public, and showy engagement (like someone even filmed it), but she absolutely loved it and I'm very happy for them.

The thing that is driving me absolutely crazy is Facebook.

He's being very good about it. He changed his relationship status to "Engaged", made his profile picture one of the engagement, and had one general "Thank you to everyone. I am so excited and appreciate your well-wishes" status.

She is driving me absolutely bonkers. Every time I log on Facebook she has recently uploaded yet another picture of them kissing (and not like adorable on-cheek kissing, but ones where you can see saliva dripping on their chin!), pictures of them in the shape of hearts, pictures of them with the words "LOVE MY FIANCE (sic)", pictures of them laying on top of each other, pictures of their interwoven hands in hearts, pictures of her ring in hearts, etc.

She photoshops them constantly and uploads them at intervals so they are always at the top of the page. Literally every time I log in, it is the 2nd or third story on my page with her comments being the first or immediately after the photos.

In terms of these comments, she writes back on each "Congratulations!" written on her wall. This is sweet in theory, but each one reads "Thanks so much!!!!! We could not be happier!!!! Send me your e-mail and I'll send you the video of the proposal!!!! I AM SO EXCITED TO CALL HIM MY FIANCE AND I AM SO IN LOVE" or some variant of that.

I mean, good for you and I'm super excited that you are so excited about marrying him. But the Facebooking is ridiculous. I'm probably going to have to de-friend her before the wedding (or at least block her posts) because this engagement craziness has been going on a week and shows no sign of slowing. I can't imagine what wedding planning will be like.

I'm also extra irritable right now because I take Step 1 USMLE in two weeks, so that is probably contributing to this rant....

[KSUViolet06]

Current trend I'm seeing:

Couples who maybe have had a small wedding for a number of reasons (less than 5 years ago) renewing their vows and having a "do over" wedding complete with gifts.

Other trends noted:

*Filmed and photographed proposals. Complete with styled photoshoot afterward.

*Styled engagement shoots. Ex: Vintage camera themed, vintage car themed, etc.

*Dress shopping shoots.

*Pre-wedding maids photoshoot.

*Day After wedding shoot.

*Anniversary pics (a la engagement pics but on your first anniversary.)

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Current trend I'm seeing:

Couples who maybe have had a small wedding for a number of reasons (less than 5 years ago) renewing their vows and having a "do over" wedding complete with gifts.

Other trends noted:

*Filmed and photographed proposals. Complete with styled photoshoot afterward.

*Styled engagement shoots. Ex: Vintage camera themed, vintage car themed, etc.

*Dress shopping shoots.

*Pre-wedding maids photoshoot.

*Day After wedding shoot.

*Anniversary pics (a la engagement pics but on your first anniversary.)

I wonder if this is due to the increase in quality affordable cameras that makes anyone a fauxtographer that can place a Groupon ad....I mean I must see at least two photographer Groupons/LivingSocials at all times.

[WCsweet<3]

Or instagram too. I swear everyone takes pictures of the stupidest things.

Also, never understood why people put super edited/photoshopped pictures of themselves on Facebook. I understand if they are professional photos that have been edited, but why put pictures of you and your bf in hearts? You look like you are in middle school.

[joliebelle]

I have a lot of thoughts on "do over" weddings, but they are not kind ones, so I'll keep them to myself
We're having a small wedding because a) it's more our style and b) plan the wedding you can afford is our motto.

Maybe it's because I am in the midst of planning a wedding, but I really am seeing how much of an industry that bridal has become. A lot of the above mentioned things aren't really necessities, but someone has convinced brides and grooms (but mostly brides, to be honest) that the NEED to have all of the extras.

[joliebelle]

I found this article today entitled " What to do if your maid of honor is a cheapskate".
Here's a small selection: "But as a bride, you have a right to expect certain things from your wedding party if you do decide to have one. And it's not going to be easy to keep your temper if your MoH tells you that she can't afford to go to Cancun for your bachelorette while she's rocking brand-new Prada shoes. Especially if you blew part of your student loan money to cover that Vera Wang bridesmaid dress that she couldn't live without for her wedding, and you ate Ramen noodles for six months afterward to pay for it."

Talk about entitlement.

[KSUViolet06]

^^^^The bridal entitlement factor is probably the #1 reason why I won't go into weddings full-time. I can't deal.

Something else to think about: Everyone is expecting so much more of maids and family lately in light of the industry push to make your wedding like, a multi-event extravaganza.

Ex: I see a lot of clients with the planning co. I work with having an engagement party, maid's tea, showers for every subset of friends (co-workers, church, family, college friends), a bachelorette party, and a wedding weekend complete with a welcome dinner for out of town guests, rehearsal dinner, wedding, afterparty, and send-off brunch.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

^^^^The bridal entitlement factor is probably the #1 reason why I won't go into weddings full-time. I can't deal.

Something else to think about: Everyone is expecting so much more of maids and family lately in light of the industry push to make your wedding like, a multi-event extravaganza.

Ex: I see a lot of clients with the planning co. I work with having an engagement party, maid's tea, showers for every subset of friends (co-workers, church, family, college friends), a bachelorette party, and a wedding weekend complete with a welcome dinner for out of town guests, rehearsal dinner, wedding, afterparty, and send-off brunch.

I think part of it is the planning guides and magazines. They make it seem like you DESERVE all of these things and your wedding is a failure and disappointment if you don't. Not only do you have to have all these parties, but you can't cut corners on anything (i.e. If you don't shell out $150/head for the welcome dinner, your wedding will fail.)

I can't judge too much because we're doing a fair number of those extra parties, but we're personally footing the cost for everything outside of the one shower I am having and possibly the bachelor/ette parties.

Consequently, we're doing pretty affordable versions of whatever we have (like a Margarita and Manicure party for my Maid's luncheon, rather than a fancy luncheon that we can't afford). The majority of my friends and maids are in medical school/grad school and we know how tight money is.

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On a side note, I mailed these out today and I'm kind of pleased with how they turned out. I found them online, but they were like between $8 and 10 a cookie, so I just made them myself.

[groovypq]

^ Adorable!

[AGDee]

Love the cookie idea I think it means more that you made them yourself, honestly. It would to me anyway.

Thanks lovespink for reminding me to send the response cards for the two weddings I have in June!

Hypo and I decided that I will attend that "teacher" wedding solo.

[AGDee]

What do you say when someone is in an awful relationship tells you they got engaged this week and are getting married tomorrow? This couple is terrible together. They fight constantly, break up every couple months and are just a major mess. They should not be married, even if they do have a child together (who is 6 or 7 now!). OMG.

[Xidelt]

^^ Send a sympathy card with no check inside?

My husband and I received a wedding invitation today from a neighbor. Her son is getting married in late June. The only RSVP option was on a weddingwire.com website. When I tried to RSVP, my name didn't come up on the guest list. ?? I tried seaching my first name only, my last name only, my husband's first name only, both of our first and last names...nothing! There was also no phone number on the invitation. I know I can easily walk over to my neighbor's home to let her know we'll be coming, but I would be super-frustrated if I was out-of-town or an acquaintance.

[DreamfulSpirit]

I am 3 weeks until my first anniversary! This year sure has gone by fast!

Now I'm looking for ideas for an anniversary gift. First year is traditionally paper...any ideas?!?!

[Xidelt]

What about a scrapbook showing your first year together? Scrapbook = paper