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Munchkin03 · #**7441** 05-01-2012, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

As the conversation went on, her smile slid away and he seemed more and more agitated until he yelled "But I just spent $8 on that drink!" The next time I looked, he had pushed all the way back in his chair with his arms folded. A few minutes later, she left the table and didn't come back.

Whoa. He expected a roll in the hay after an $8 drink? Not only is dude an a-hole, he's a cheap one at that.

TonyB06 · #**7442** 05-02-2012, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

So I heard a bit of randomness that was post-worthy. I was out with friends at a restaurant Friday or Saturday night and there was a couple to the right of our table. They had drinks and it was loud enough that I didn't hear everything they were saying but the tables were pretty close together..... I heard him mention something about going back to his place later. I didn't hear what her response was because she spoke more quietly than he did but he responded with lots of reasons why she should come home with him. As the conversation went on, her smile slid away and he seemed more and more agitated until he yelled "But I just spent $8 on that drink!" The next time I looked, he had pushed all the way back in his chair with his arms folded. A few minutes later, she left the table and didn't come back.

If I had to take a guess about what happened, I'd say we've talked about that situation in this thread a lot. But this is the first time I've witnessed the "But I bought you...!" in action (if that's what it was).

That's so sad it's almost funny. Was she mad at the quid-pro-quo of it or tha fact that he put her value at something less than two Big Mac value meals?

And he didn't play his last resort card right (the arms folded.) Everybody knows your have to throw your table napkin down on the table in disgust first to get the full effect.

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Originally Posted by AGDee

Congrats Tony!

Thanks, AGDee. I didn't see this yesterday. (Are you going to suggest co-worker and you go to dinner after the certification event?)

So I get home yesterday and my dad had driven up from North Carolina and is waiting at my house.

(gotta love retired people, they just up and do WTH they wanna do!)

Me: Dad, wha.. what are you doing here? I didn't expect you until Thursday or Friday?

Dad: Well, I just felt like getting in the car and riding, so I came up.

(to be fair, he'd stopped in Cincy Monday to check on family, see some friends and check on rental property, ...but still)

add checklist item #435,432 to do this week: occupy dad.

I2K Beta Mu · #**7443** 05-02-2012, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by TonyB06

Well, first, you've misread my post. I'm divorced but remarrying this weekend (not renewing).

That's good shit. Congrats.

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Originally Posted by AGDee

No, I didn't. Did you read the rest of the post? Inviting a colleague to a IT Security association meeting/speaker isn't exactly asking someone out..lol.

You play too many damn games. For real.

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

So I heard a bit of randomness that was post-worthy. I was out with friends at a restaurant Friday or Saturday night and there was a couple to the right of our table. They had drinks and it was loud enough that I didn't hear everything they were saying but the tables were pretty close together. I could see them leaning very close to each other and smiling. I heard him mention something about going back to his place later. I didn't hear what her response was because she spoke more quietly than he did but he responded with lots of reasons why she should come home with him. As the conversation went on, her smile slid away and he seemed more and more agitated until he yelled "But I just spent $8 on that drink!" The next time I looked, he had pushed all the way back in his chair with his arms folded. A few minutes later, she left the table and didn't come back.

If I had to take a guess about what happened, I'd say we've talked about that situation in this thread a lot. But this is the first time I've witnessed the "But I bought you...!" in action (if that's what it was).

Females always want a dude to pay for the meal, drinks, etc. but don't want to give dude anything in return. If I were dude I wouldn't have pressured her like that, but if we had been kickin for a minute and she still wasn't trying to come over to the crib, I'd be cool with that, but the next time we went out to a movie, dinner or some shit, we'd go dutch. Fuck that.

DrPhil · #**7444** 05-02-2012, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

Females always want a dude to pay for the meal, drinks, etc. but don't want to give dude anything in return. If I were dude I wouldn't have pressured her like that, but if we had been kickin for a minute and she still wasn't trying to come over to the crib, I'd be cool with that, but the next time we went out to a movie, dinner or some shit, we'd go dutch. Fuck that.

For starters, the "give dude anything in return" is the companionship. It is also the gratification that most men receive when they have paid for something and feel they have made a good impression. It is not, however, feeling obligated to come over to a man's house/invite him to your house or giving physical satisfaction. Get a sex worker if you need house calls and oral copulation for your money.

As for the paying deal, there are women like myself who have no problem splitting costs in half or paying for both of us. However, there are men who were completely insulted when I offered to pay for myself or for the both of us. They saw that as my being controlling (only men are allowed to be controlling--it's called masculinity and patriarchy), bitter at men over something, and a "ballkicker" who is saying that the man either doesn't have the balls to pay or cannot afford to pay. Both men and women perpetuate this notion that men are the monetary providers. Don't pretend that the average man is eager to lose the perceived admiration and dominance that comes with picking up the tab.

AlwaysSAI · #**7445** 05-02-2012, 04:18 PM

Mr. KDR is coming over tonight!! I'm so excited! I don't know why....I just saw him on Saturday. I can't wait!!! I'm giddy!!!

AGDee · #**7446** 05-02-2012, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by TonyB06

Thanks, AGDee. I didn't see this yesterday. (Are you going to suggest co-worker and you go to dinner after the certification event?)

add checklist item #435,432 to do this week: occupy dad.

He actually asked me if it includes dinner (because the other association does, but also costs $25 to attend) and I let him know that it does, although it doesn't include beer and wine like the *other* association does.

Sounds like your dad was excited for you and possibly bored and lonely. Give him some of things from your "To do" list to help with

If it were me, that's why I'd really be there early.. to help out.

I2K: I'm not playing any games. I invited a co-worker to attend a professional association meeting for an organization that he said a couple weeks ago he was thinking about joining. I'd have done the same for any co-worker who had indicated interest and have made the same offer to former co-workers and classmates of mine. Only game I'm playing is with GCers, by saying I had asked him out...lol.

I've been listening to a co-worker make excuses for her "boyfriend" who hasn't contacted her in almost two weeks now. They have had an online relationship for about a year now, have not met in person and were starting to talk about him moving to Canada or the US to be closer to her. Then *poof*, he stopped contacting her. He has posted to mutual friends of theirs on Facebook though. She keeps mentioning possible reasons why he hasn't been in touch and it has made me realize how pathetic I must have sounded when I was making excuses for Hockey Dad all that time. Sometimes, we just don't want to accept what we know deep down.

cheerfulgreek · #**7447** 05-02-2012, 06:56 PM

All finished shopping for next week's trip.

Hmm...I think I bought too much. I probably won't wear half of this.

cheerfulgreek · #**7448** 05-02-2012, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

The Females I know, and have gone out with always want a dude to pay for the meal, drinks, etc. but don't want to give dude anything in return.

FYP. -And whose fault is that?

I2K Beta Mu · #**7449** 05-03-2012, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

For starters, the "give dude anything in return" is the companionship. It is also the gratification that most men receive when they have paid for something and feel they have made a good impression. It is not, however, feeling obligated to come over to a man's house/invite him to your house or giving physical satisfaction. Get a sex worker if you need house calls and oral copulation for your money.

As for the paying deal, there are women like myself who have no problem splitting costs in half or paying for both of us. However, there are men who were completely insulted when I offered to pay for myself or for the both of us. They saw that as my being controlling (only men are allowed to be controlling--it's called masculinity and patriarchy), bitter at men over something, and a "ballkicker" who is saying that the man either doesn't have the balls to pay or cannot afford to pay. Both men and women perpetuate this notion that men are the monetary providers. Don't pretend that the average man is eager to lose the perceived admiration and dominance that comes with picking up the tab.

I feel you on dudes wanting to feel like big shit for paying for everything, but since the dude is also giving her companionship, she should pay for some dates too. The shit I'm talking about is when some females say they won't fuck with a dude if he doesn't pay on the first date. My thing is what's in it for me? I could see if I asked ol girl on the date, but if we're just kickin it, and it's a mutual thing, then why do I have to pay on the first date? That's why if I was dude, I wouldn't have asked her to come to the crib like that especially on a first date, but if some weeks go by, and I invite her over to the crib, and she says no, then I'll stop fuckin with her. I'm not going to be used like that. That's some bullshit.

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Originally Posted by AGDee

I2K: I'm not playing any games. I invited a co-worker to attend a professional association meeting for an organization that he said a couple weeks ago he was thinking about joining. I'd have done the same for any co-worker who had indicated interest and have made the same offer to former co-workers and classmates of mine. Only game I'm playing is with GCers, by saying I had asked him out...lol.

I wasn't necessarily talking about playing games with dudes, I was talking about you playing games with yourself. You wanted to know if dude was married. Cool, then ask him. You said you wouldn't date dude because you work with him. Then stop fuckin with him.

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

FYP. -And whose fault is that?

It isn't mine.

DrPhil · #**7450** 05-03-2012, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

I feel you on dudes wanting to feel like big shit for paying for everything, but since the dude is also giving her companionship, she should pay for some dates too.

Then that's what they should establish. LOL. It really is not an impossible thing.

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

The shit I'm talking about is when some females say they won't fuck with a dude if he doesn't pay on the first date. My thing is what's in it for me?

Then don't date that woman. DUH.

cheerfulgreek · #**7451** 05-03-2012, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

It isn't mine.

So they forced you to take them out?

You made that choice, not them. If you understand what your actions will cost you, perhaps you won't be so quick to make some of the decisions you chose to make. Your life belongs to you. That means you decide what you will allow and what you will not allow.

Plus, you're in a relationship now. So, this is the time when the "dating" should start and continue.

I2K Beta Mu · #**7452** 05-03-2012, 07:48 PM

I'm glad my girl got a big booty. I was just out kickin it with her tonight, and I heard this one dude mumble to his boy "Goddamn" LOL. When dudes see my girl, and peep that booty, they all react the same way. They can look, as long as they don't touch or disrespect her or me. But she got a ass that won't quit LOL. What I like is when she eats, it goes to her ass rather than her stomach. Something I've noticed with a lot of females is when they eat, it goes to their stomachs, and then they get big as hell. I can't fuck with that. Some dudes like that chest which is cool, but I'm one of those dudes who likes that big booty LOL.

btw: what do the fellas on here like? Any of y'all like that booty? I know y'all do LOL.

VandalSquirrel · #**7453** 05-03-2012, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by I2K Beta Mu

I'm glad my girl got a big booty. I was just out kickin it with her tonight, and I heard this one dude mumble to his boy "Goddamn" LOL. When dudes see my girl, and peep that booty, they all react the same way. They can look, as long as they don't touch or disrespect her or me. But she got a ass that won't quit LOL. What I like is when she eats, it goes to her ass rather than her stomach. Something I've noticed with a lot of females is when they eat, it goes to their stomachs, and then they get big as hell. I can't fuck with that. Some dudes like that chest which is cool, but I'm one of those dudes who likes that big booty LOL.

btw: what do the fellas on here like? Any of y'all like that booty? I know y'all do LOL.

I think you need to heed what Ricky, Mike and Ronnie said.

http://youtu.be/_pybbYCplP4

christiangirl · #**7454** 05-04-2012, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I think you need to heed what Ricky, Mike and Ronnie said.

http://youtu.be/_pybbYCplP4

Hey hey hey now, quit talking about me. I can't stand this song for saying I'm not trustworthy. I can't help if my behind is blessed and my face is happy! #haters

VandalSquirrel · #**7455** 05-04-2012, 03:34 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

Hey hey hey now, quit talking about me. I can't stand this song for saying I'm not trustworthy. I can't help if my behind is blessed and my face is happy! #haters

Applies to me as well, but only when I smile. I try to keep a neutral face, but I cannot lie, I work the side eye constantly.