I'm not talking about closed sorority parties, just the typical ones where two guests are allowed per member. Does there typically need to be a guest list, or can members of the fraternity just show up at the door with two random guests. I know every fraternity is different, so answer based on your own personal experiences.
You're obsessed with getting a fraternity who didn't bid you (and it's becoming clear as to why) shut down, and you've been told numerous times that 1) the answers to the questions you have vary greatly from school to school, and chapter to chapter and 2) you need to talk to ACTUAL HUMANS AT YOUR SCHOOL.
Please get to your school's counseling center ASAP. You need some pointers on social interaction.
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