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Originally Posted by carnation

There are so so many Mary Sues out there plus a lot of other girls whom the sororities are interested in because of their great grades and strong activities and you just can't count on getting a bid from certain groups anymore.

Yep.

This is where being a Mary Sue goes wrong (potentially...if Mary Sue's school sees a large # of legacies and uses the RFM).

This is why it's important for all PNMs (whether they're Mary Sues or Suzy Janes) to keep an open mind. We all know that, but alot of times, there's no such thing as an open mind when ABC is all you know (from your family, hometown, HS clique, etc).

As alumnae, we have the benefit of knowing that one CAN be happy in a chapter other than (example) ABC, but it's different when you might not even know anyone in your immediate circle who didn't pledge that sorority. You probably don't want to be known as "the Anytown ABC legacy that went XYZ."

I guess if a Mary Sue does get cut from her ABC, it comes down to whether she would rather not be Greek in Anytown OR be an XYZ or something else at Anytown (in a family of ABCs). In a perfect world, Mary Sue's family members wouldn't care and would just be happy she's happy, but that's not always the case.