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Originally Posted by 33girl
NO. No no no no no.
There's no quicker way to disenfranchise members than saying "well, you weren't there on Tuesday, but we extended bids to these 5 guys anyway."
If there are guys whose schedules don't permit them being at a lot of the rush events - formal or informal - at the very least, send them a text with the names of the guys you're thinking about. There's no excuse in this day and age not to keep the ENTIRE chapter informed about what you're doing.
Not only that...Brad Brother who couldn't come to the rush events (formal or informal) not because he's a slacker, but because he's on the football team and doesn't have a spare moment right now, may have some very important info about Ron Rushee...like maybe that Ron deals in his spare time.
Rushing (pun intended) to give bids doesn't make for a happy fraternity or well qualified brothers. The 5 steps do not take 5 minutes. Sometimes they do, but sometimes they take 2 years. If you can't realize that, you should just skip doing informal because you'll get immediately frustrated.
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I'm not saying that members shouldn't have "right of refusal". I absolutely think that any current member should be able to express their concerns, and that the chapter should handle that per its MS guidelines. What I'm saying is that the chapter should get comfortable with the idea that fewer people may meet the guy during COR than would during formal rush, and that's okay.
While it would be nice for every member to meet every PNM, it a) holds up the process timewise, b) can be really awkward as you move from "hanging with the PNM" to "actively rushing the PNM" and c) may not accomplish much, anyway.
(To clarify item "b", say you have a dude who is friends with some guys in the chapter. He's met a few key people like the president and rush chair, but mostly hangs around with his five friends. It may be the time to say "hey, bill, have you ever thought about joining?" If, instead, you have to parade him around and introduce him to everyone first, he may be like "WTF?")
