I would certainly not want to invite someone back who said that. "Well, I can't see myself here, DON'T invite me back"- okay, then. Whomever is telling them to manage their own recruitment is not helping them, and I think that as Panhellenics, we need to be informing PNMs of the reality of the situation. You are only doing a small part of the "choosing", that's the way it goes. Yes, there are always people that are rather mis-matched with a less than ideal group. However, I think PNMs need to trust that chapters do know how to do their job, and know that they want to invite these women to join their sisterhood.
Somehow, being rude to people became the norm and it's horrifying
