[DubaiSis]

WalkintheWoods has that all correct. To state it another way, hits come early and hard but if she makes it to the end (short of incredibly rare occurrences) she WILL be placed into a chapter. So she needs to take the cuts she gets with grace, take a fresh look at the chapters to whom she still has invitations each day, and be happy.

Clearly you can't help but have favorites after each round, and it is unrealistic to say she shouldn't make her favorites the houses that are outside her reach (for whatever reason). But if she can go in accepting that 1-all of the houses are good there, even the smallest and 2-she WILL have a positive sorority experience if she allows herself to then the emotional setbacks of being cut by this or that house should be temporary.

ANY cuts feel personal and abusive. With RFM, the chapters have to cut more girls than they want. Try really REALLY hard not to take it personally. This system really does work better, even if you want to say, "but if they'd only give my little snowflake another chance they'd grow to love her as I do!" That is undoubtedly true, but hard decisions have to be made in favor of efficiency. Rush would take forever if they allowed sufficient time at parties and/or had duplicate rounds to give members and chapters an extra opportunity to get to know each other.

Trust that the system works. Know that the vast majority of girls who don't drop out and meet the minimum gpa do get placed. When you see 75 and 80% placement rates, please know that most of those 20-25% of girls dropped out when they got cut by their favorite sorority. The girls who stick it out rarely get cut completely. Not that it DOESN'T happen, but it is not a possibility you need to spend time worrying about.

If she goes in prepared with her recs, basic conversational skills and a good attitude, she should be fine. Good luck.