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Old 09-20-2017, 01:09 PM
Katmandu Katmandu is offline
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Whether you realize it or not, people on this thread are being extraordinarily patient with you. You claim to know nothing about Greek life, yet buy into and perpetuate the "top tier" "lower tier" mentality which almost every regular poster on this board tries to avoid and educate against; you clearly feel the bite that your daughter did not receive a bid to what you perceive of as the top tier group; you have engaged in generalizations of sorority women as elite and monied and you don't listen when people have tried to explain the system. Yet, people are still responding with patience to your situation. Just because you don't like some answers does not mean the poster is mean.

In most schools, almost every potential new member going through recruitment is an over achieving, attractive, polished and articulate young woman with an impressive resume. That being so, not everyone gets her first choice, even if she has a "top tier" boyfriend. Recruitment isn't perfect, but it's not as unfair as some people think. If you are invited to Pref, you ARE on the bid list and they DO want you. Not everyone on the bid list is high enough to receive a bid, and you will never know why. The actives recruiting your daughter were not lying. They did love her. They just can't extend bids to the entire bid list...only half of them.

If your daughter believes she was genuinely PROMISED a bid (not simply, we hope to see you tomorrow, or you will love our tailgates--which is not bid promising) then SHE should go speak with Greek Life, face to face, not anonymously. You should not be involved.