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Originally Posted by violetpretty
Congratulations to you and Kappa Kappa Gamma! How wonderful for you to have Kappa to share with your mother!
I'm curious though, as it is kind of rare for a rerusher to have better results the second time at any school, what do you think you did better this time? I know you mentioned your conversational skills improved (very important) and you had friends in some chapters this time around. Did your grades go up? Were you involved on campus last year? Your insight would be helpful to the dozens of rerushers that come on GC looking for advice. It was quite a dramatic change, from having only one chapter, to largely being in the driver's seat chosing from a few chapters that you really liked!
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It was such a dramatic change! Last year I was envious of girls with full schedules, with chapters they loved, and now I was being envied!
I worked on:
Conversation:
-I practiced on EVERYONE (people at Starbucks, new people I meet etc.) on good rush conversations.
-I made a list of good conversation topics. Things that I like and my accomplishments that could easily flow off of the introductory "where do you live?" "what is your major" topics. For example: "where do you live?" I said in an apartment with three roommates whom I LOVE. We cook together and have movie nights together. This gave the rusher many topics to go off of.
-I always had positive subjects. If the rusher said something negative, I would turn it into a positive subject.
-I also made sure to know the rushers name and said it often. Subconsciously people like this
-I was very engaged in the conversation. Leaning towards my rusher, using my hands etc.
-I said how much I like ____ part of the house. For example: "I like how I feel very much at home here"
-If I was double rushed, I tried to not "compete" with the other girl. I tried to share the conversation with the other girl. If she was shy I would say something and pass it off to the other girl where she could respond. (For questions like where are you from and such)
Knowing people in the house
-There were a few people in my dorm in sororities, so I would keep in contact with them throughout the year
-During the winter/spring I sent out a facebook message to girls in sororities that I had loved and told them that I really liked their sorority and asked if they were doing informal (during spring, chapters don't announce it). So they knew I was interested.
Grades/Involved on Campus
-My GPA in high school was pretty good (a 3.7 on a 4.0 scale), and in college it stayed that way (a 3.7 on a 4.0 scale). It showed that I could handle the college workload.
-I was very involved in two activities. RHA--I was my dorm's president and Relay for Life where I led a team. I tried to make these come up in conversation
Dress
What I wore was very important to me and I felt like that was what got me behind the girls last year (though probably not true--I wasn't a good conversationalist and I had zero confidence)
-I knew what the girls wore last year (trendy top, premium jeans, flats) and was able to take that into my own style.
-I also knew to dress a little bit fancier than the guide they gave. I even heard girls say how they would rather be underdressed than overdressed!--They didn't do very well!
-I searched FOREVER for my pref dress. I thankfully knew the guidelines (how fancy and not to wear black or white) and a GC'er on here helped so much!
I was also CONFIDENT in myself
