Note to all: When I said, in my first post on this subject that when I am a MIL, I will think, "What would my in laws have done?" And I will do the opposite.
And since I am a lot closer to MIL status than most of you, I have seen the wreckage that their attitudes toward my children (who were seen when then were young as my extensions) have wrought. My children went dutifully to FIL's memorial. They NEVER call my MIL. She never called them. They gave money to my children for the holidays on a sliding scale. We evened it out. They plain don't care. And that is a shame.
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