[violetpretty]

I can really see both sides of the argument, but I'd have a conversation with this woman to get more details about her NM period. I'd want to know if she truly made an effort to get to know people, or if she was just dissapointed about her results and skated through the NM without really trying (which is what I suspect).

"Sticking it out" until initiation doesn't just mean not depledging. It means truly trying to find your niche in the chapter, taking on little opportunities to be involved, taking initiative to hang out before, after, and outside of sorority events. And it sounds like this is a school with very large chapters...so in a chapter of a couple hundred women, I don't see how she could not find anyone to click with. I'm not buying the "I don't fit" story at a school with chapters that big. It sounds like a case of "I'm in the least popular sorority at my school and I will be embarrassed to wear these letters for the next 4 years."