educating new members...
For most freshmen, this is their first shot at true freedom, and though they are legal adults, they still need to work on the whole judgement thing and probably aren't aware of the consequences of their actions.
I can give you a first-hand experience...
My freshman year, the actives kept telling our pledge class we needed to have more "bonding" experiences as a pledge class. ie: do something all together. Sooo we did...we all ended up in some fraternity house playing the drinking game "I never" Yeah it was fun at the time, and no, none of us really thought anything of it, until we all got called into standards and then realized how it really made our house look.... Needless to say, we did all learn a lesson and it did bring our whole pledge class together (so I guess it wasn't a total loss!).
I think the best thing to do, would to have your new member educator sit down with the entire pledge class and just have an open discussion. Don't forbid girls from doing things--that will just cause rebellion. But explain WHY it is important to consider oneself as being watched and viewed by others at all times. B/C it seems like on most campuses, everyone is just looking for excuses to bag on fraternities and sororities--we don't want to give them reason to!
Hopefully this girl in question is just a little curious about college life and its limitations...and hopefully she realizes that she wants to be a positive role model not only for the sorority, but for herself as well.
Last edited by tri-d; 09-16-2003 at 10:23 PM.
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