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Old 02-03-2018, 02:05 PM
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That's when you say to the sweetheart "hey Joe, Mark is being a real jagoff with some of the things he's saying. 33girl's mom is in a wheelchair and when he made that crack about all disabled people should be euthanized, it made her extremely upset. He's making some sisters not want to come around the fraternity at all."

If Mark realizes that actual specific humans he knows are being upset by actual specific things he says, that'll help more than sensitivity training or putting his name on a "creep list." And if he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong, then maybe the fraternity will reconsider his fitness for brotherhood. But that's their choice to make. Not a sorority's. If they want to stand behind his disgusting comments and lose the goodwill of an entire sorority for it, that's their choice too.

The difference is you have a specific behavior he's doing and can be pointed out rather than just the vague "he makes me uncomfortable."
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