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Originally Posted by fantASTic
I can't believe how many of you are pro-spanking. I am not.
I was spanked as a child (not beaten; spanked) and still hold severe resentment to my parents for it. I think it's totally unacceptable to teach children that an acceptable reaction to misbehaving or irritating someone is violence. Studies have shown that children who are spanked are significantly more likely to be violent and aggressive towards other children, even after controlling for dozens of factors (including natural aggressiveness). I personally do not want a violent and aggressive child; if you do, that is your prerogative, but do not be surprised to find out that he or she gets in trouble at school.
If your kid is acting up in the grocery store or a restaurant, you just leave. That's how it works. You. Leave. Does it inconvenience you? Yep. But you chose to have kids - that comes with the territory.
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Personally I hold not one bit of resentment towards my parents for spanking me. It didn't scar me for life, and I think they did the right thing. I don't even remember being spanked at all, I just know I was because of the "funny" stories my family tells when they get together and let loose with the embarrassing childhood stories...so obviously it wasn't traumatic. As a child I did not respond to time out, a shake of the finger, or the loss of dessert with dinner when I was in a particularly bad mood. I wasn't the least bit violent, nor were my siblings. Just very loud and very prone to do the opposite of whatever my parents told me to do, like play with matches that I pulled out of my aunt's purse, for instance. And ironically in school I the most perfect child you could ask for, because I badly wanted to be the teacher's pet. Never acted out during school hours. I'm sure my teachers would've been floored if they'd ever encountered the after school me. (My siblings also just about never got in trouble at school, though by nature they aren't nearly as stubborn as I was so they didn't get in much trouble at home either.)
My parents always left a restaurant if one of us began yelling or misbehaving. No one else was inconvenienced besides our family. If we continued to do so we would be spanked at home.
