[PhilTau]

Hard question - not knowing more details. If you are intending on joining your friend's chapter and already know people in the fraternity, you don't need our advice. You can ask your friend and other members.

If you are going to go to another school and are going into rush cold - consider this:

1) A few years back, a lot of guys were coming out of military service and some joined fraternities. So, depending on the school, being 23 may not a factor. If you are attending a four-year, private university, it may be more of a factor.

2) Are there other older active members attending the rush events? Or are you older than everybody there? If you feel out of place at a rush event, you probably are.

3) What are the ages of the potential pledge class of the fraternity you may join? Are they all 18 years old? At 23, would you be able to stand it?

4) At many colleges, the most socially active sorority women are the younger, newer members. They may only be 17 or 18. Keep in mind that the main point of a social fraternity is to mix and meet with the women belonging to social sororities. In most instances, most of the women (and men) you will meet in your first year of fraternity membership will not be able to buy or consume alcohol legally.

5) Time commitment. You'd be expected to devote all of your free time to this. You will be expected to attend and participate in all fraternity and Greek events. They will expect you to play on every intramural team. Can you balance this commitment with other obligations of your life?

This is just a start. This question has been asked before. So look at other posts in the fraternity recruitment section.

Good Luck!