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Originally Posted by DGTess
Be honest.
XYZ is not right for me. I respect each of you, but choose not to continue.
Anything less is deserving of blackball from everyone else.
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What DGTess said is good. It's always good to be as truthful as possible. But be prepared to diplomatically answer questions about why it's not right for you.
Good form would be to write a letter to the president of the chapter on nice paper formally depledging and explaining your reasons. Be nice. Say they are a great national fraternity, and that you appreciate having the opportunity to join them. Get someone to help you proof read it for grammar and content. Also, send a copy to the fraternity's national office. If you want to keep open the possibility of rejoining them later, say that as well.
Try to tie your depledging to a concrete reason. If relevant to you, possibilities are grades, other activities, other time commitments like needing to work, possible transfer to other school, parents not approving, or other time commitments (whatever they may be).
Then remember, whatever is in your letter is your reason for depledging. That is your story. Stick to it.
