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Originally Posted by WallyCat

Hello,

I am having a bit of an issue with my little. My little is the complete opposite of me. I am a bit more introverted and reserved, while she is very loud and outgoing. I have always wanted to be in a sorority while it seems like my little joined just because. The overall issue is that my little does not act like she wants to be part of the sorority. She likes to bash the sorority. She will not stop trashing other members to me. I’m part of a new chapter on campus, so all the members are very close knit as we are a small group. It hurts me that she just wants to trash people instead of build up the sisterhood. She is very selective with her friends, only wanting to be friends with pretty people to make herself feel better about herself. This to me contradicts the idea of joining a sorority.

On a side note, my little is a lesbian. I have nothing against lesbians, but my little will not stop telling me who in the sorority she is attracted to. She goes and purposely hangs out with these women to see if they are interested in her. I don’t know how to deal with her eyeing my sisters like pieces of meat to hook up with.

Lastly, my little, though I love her, does not represent my sorority’s values. She is a big drug user and not just marijuana. I understand that each chapter is different than the overall sorority, but my chapter is very dedicated to school and not into heavy drug use. It’s my last year in my sorority, and I am worried that her behavior and attachment to me as her big is going to dominate my sorority experience.

If anyone has any advice on how to deal with sisters who are very different from who they are and bring a negativity down on the sorority experience, I would appreciate it. I need some lines if I must confront her because she is a tad aggressive and pushy, and I’m worried I will become a pushover.

Thanks for the help!

I am willing to bet that it does not align with your organization's values to bash her online without talking to her in person.