KSUViolet06- I thought after I posted that, that I really don't know enough to give advice on any of it!
I just know in this situation she shouldn't have. It could have turned out much differently.
AzTheta- I am thinking I am going to keep it to myself as well. If I can ever get her to join here then she can decide. She gave me permission to post this, but whatever she wants to add she can. But if it involves writing anything longer than a text or a tweet, she most likely won't be up for it and yet she is Secretary, go figure.