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A lot of this points systems and obligatory items, none of this existed back in the 90s for me. But I will say that when I was a new member, we were at the house every night for NM events and all day on the weekends. Was that ridiculous? You bet your ass it was, but I was certainly more prepared for participation after my new member period was over than women these days who do like 6 new member meetings (1 a week) and a couple random events. And for the record, I don't think you need to haze women to get them to come to things or stay. But the commitment to be a member has to be established early, or you're once they are initiated members, they're going to be like, "whoa, wait! I didn't sign up for spending 4 nights a week doing sorority".