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Originally Posted by PhilTau
3) Having friends in multiple sororities to vouch for you gives you great advantage. As in life (and you will learn this when looking for employment), now is the time to call in all favors with your friends. If you are interested in joining a sorority where your friends are members - be sure to tell them you are interested in joining. Contact them now. Take them out to lunch now. Don't make it a secret that you are interested in joining. Remember that you can be interested in other sororities besides the ones that your friends belong to -- keep your options open. (see 4 below)
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Good advice. However, be careful with this one. You don't want to come off as desperate, and you don't want to sound like you're asking for a bid. A favor doesn't = "You can get me in, right?"
Just say you're interested, and ask them general questions about recruitment (e.g. "The dress for Round 2 is listed as 'smart casual'. What do you think would be appropriate to wear?"). They'll know that you're serious about joining. But no questions about how they decide who gets a bid!
And again, don't come off like you're looking for them to promise you one. This puts your friends in a very awkward situation. And on the flip side of things, when recruitment is over, never ask them why you didn't get a bid to their chapter. They can't tell you, as membership selection is private. You don't want to force them to lie to you. But honestly, they may not even know why.
Just be casual about the whole thing and don't expect anything from them. They have influence in their chapter, but it only goes so far. There are other members of each sorority who have a say, as well.
