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Originally Posted by gmIII
To Barbie well that is just not right of fair. I shouldn't have to suck anything because my friends are dicks. Like it or not for how they act they are the people that I am the closest with. If I would have known this was gonna happen I would have taken one of the other bids I was given. I messaged KSUviolet and told her some info to explain it better. The more I explain to people they are like these guys are just asses whether you are friends with them or not. They have rules like no dating a KKG. I never had a problem with the hazing like the buying condoms and gay porn it was kinda funny to go to the store and do that.
Badcat25 & Gusteau, yeah I heard about quotas before but we don't have that. If 2 guys or 20 get in there is no effect. I don't understand why you must assume they don't like me if I live with some of them still they would have kicked me out. If they didn't like me I wouldn't have pledged for 6 weeks, I would have been gone long before. If it really is just over an inactive big or person grudges then I don't see the fraternity being able to survive.
I have to decide now if I go back to the visit others if I can fit in and get over the awkward of not taking their bid. I went where I went because I fitted in best with that image and those were my so called friends. There has to be another place that can give me a positive experience so we will find out this fall.
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Holy shit, I'm going to chime in because I think you're just not getting it.
Being "best friends" or "close" or "buddies" with a handful of guys does NOT equal being good friends with the entire chapter or even being seen as someone they want in the chapter.
Did you ever stop to think that your "best friends" are tools-and you were guilty by association- which is why the chapter doesn't want to initiate you?
How old are these best friends you have? Are they older brothers who have pull in the chapter, or new guys that were just initiated and don't have rank?
Or maybe you never took the time out to really get to know the rest of the chapter because you thought you were automatically getting in because you live with a few brothers.
ETA: In some chapters it just takes a smaller percentage of negative votes to cut a pledge (not a majority or plurality).
Just because the brothers probably shook your hand (when you approached them first), were polite or respectful in public and probably had some small talk with you doesn't mean they wanted you as a brother.
There are chapters that are respectful and cordial to pledges they know will be dropped eventually.
Why they waited so long to drop you, I wouldn't know.
My best advice: move on.
