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Myth #2: Penis size doesn't matter
Perhaps assuming that the fragile male ego can't handle the truth, diminutive television personality Dr. Ruth Westheimer and others of her ilk have popularized the notion that size doesn't matter. Truth is, it does--but not in the way that you think.
Basically, if an erect penis measures about 5 inches from base to tip (give yourself the benefit of the doubt and take the measure from the underside), it's considered average. And this is one case where average is very good indeed. "There are many women who express a preference for an average-size penis," says Irwin Goldstein, M.D., professor of urology at Boston University School of Medicine. "Their preferences are usually a blend of taste, esthetics, habit, comfort, pressure and. pleasure."
Another thing: Women vary in size, too. Some have longer vaginas, some shorter. So if you pride yourself on your exceptional length but the woman in your life is shorter than average, you might be missing her sexual mark.
That raises two questions: How do you tel if you're a perfect fit? And what can you do if you're not? Think back on the last couple of times you made love and try to remember if you felt the tip of your penis bump into something at the maximum thrust point. If it did, then you probably hit her cervix (or the diaphragm covering her cervix) and you're long enough to hit the hot spots. If you hit it so hard she complained, you're probably a little on the long side. That takes some adjusting. In this situation, "The missionary position works best because that's where you tend to get the least depth of penetration," says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., a practicing sex therapist in Santa Ana, California, and author of the new book How to Make Love All Night. You might also want to try woman-on-top positions where the woman is facing you: They can minimize length while maximizing upper-wall stimulation.
On the other hand, if you have never felt some type of resistance when thrusting, you may be a little on the short side compared to her anatomy. No problem. If you're using the missionary position, have her elevate her legs and bring them toward her chest. This shortens the vaginal canal. "If you're kneeling in front other," advises Keesling, "try to get your pelvis as close to hers as possible." This position maximizes your length.
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