who does that??? its not even written with wit or not the least bit clever or funny.

Grrrr you're a ra-tard.

I've seen two profiles on OKCupid with the listing as female and straight, but the profile picture clearly a guy. And one of them creeped on me. I now have a better appreciation for straight females that date online.
http://i49.tinypic.com/35byw6c.jpg

Yep, nope. Not gonna happen. As of today, it's officially over. I'm as "at peace with it" as one can be. But, I do feel like I wasted a whole bunch of time waiting for him while he was in training. So, yeah, he dumped. Then, says, "I'm going to call you tomorrow." And, I say, "Why?? It doesn't make any sense..." He says, "Because I enjoy your company and I still want to make you feel special." Then says he's going to take me out to dinner soon.

:confused: You dump me on Tuesday...so you're going to call me on Wednesday...And, you say you're going to take me to dinner...:confused:

How about...um, no.

OMG WHY DO THEY DO THAT???? I don't get it either.

If I get accepted into this PhD program, that might be the end of dating for awhile. I don't see why it'd have to be, but everyone swears all their relationships were on hold until they finished because they were just that busy. My prof said, when she told her husband she was officially done, the first thing he said was "Finally there's only 2 of us in this marriage!!" :rolleyes:

I know, right?? I'm not the least bit shy about it, but let me decide if I want to tell or not.

What a jerk. Just don't let him use you, ok? Seriously.

Oh, that's not even the half of it.

-I'm not psychologically challenging.
-I'm too emotional.
-I'm too opinionated.

Oh, oh & my favorite.
Boy: "AlwaysSAI, I really tried to build something special with you when I got home from training."
Me: "Really? When?"
Boy: "Every time I saw you."
Me: "Well, I only saw you 3 times in the month you've been home and for two of those times, it was only for 90 min. And, every time I saw you, all you wanted to do was fool around.... Oh, and let's not forget all the time you didn't spend with me because you were so busy studying and I didn't bitch or complain. I told you that I would like to spend some time with you and you swore you were going to make time for me."
Boy: "I really did try, AlwaysSAI. I really tried to build something special with you when I came home and it just isn't working out."


He says that every time I was upset about not seeing him, it pushed him away. WELL, EXCUSE ME, I JUST WAITED 3 MONTHS FOR YOU TO COME HOME--I THINK I DESERVE A LITTLE BIT OF CONSIDERATION.

It sounds like he's just making excuses for not really wanting to be in a relationship at all. The psychologically challenging one kind of cracks me up. He wants a psycho? Is that what he's saying? I'm sure there are plenty who deserve him! You don't deserve that kind of treatment.

Seriously? omg, Where did you meet this guy? The "fool around" part, I'm not surprised about. Just by reading the first few lines of your post, I knew what he wanted.:rolleyes: I can see it still bothers you, and there's nothing wrong with that, but he's a jerk, so he's not worth it. If he calls you again for..."you know"..:rolleyes::rolleyes:...I really hope you don't give in. How long were you dating him?

wtf does that mean?? :rolleyes:

men say the dumbest shit sometimes, i swear.

Exactly! When he gets a psycho witch, he'll be complaining that she's psycho. When I think Psychologically Challenging, I think "psycho"

I was thinking she wasn't "giving him enough attention" along the lines of being needy and clingy. Some men want to be the center of attention and he might be one, and it is compounded by the fact he's in the military and going to be away from you, so you need to show an obscene amount of interest so he feels secure. Kind of a reverse way to control someone by saying "oh I'm going to come home or call at X time" with no intention of that happening, but wants you waiting with baited breath to make sure you're not out with some other dude or in reality, having a life because you're secure and doing your own thing like a rational fully functioning adult.

Yes, I was involved with a guy like this, but not for very long.

he needs to shape up or ship out. i'm not particularly excited at the prospect of ending a 3.5 yr relationship...but you know when you know you won't deal with something anymore....yeah im there. :(

THIS IS HIM! He didn't want to call me or spend time with me, but as soon as I went to the bar alone and got hit on at the bar he was POed. He didn't want to go to the bar with me, he wanted to spend time with his friend Jim. And, last weekend, I had dinner with a male friend from work and he was all worried about if the guy paid for my dinner. It was like, he didn't want to spend any time with me, but he didn't want anyone else to either.

Yeah, I told him that I felt like he got what he wanted from me and he was done now. It ticked him off royally. But, I really do believe that--which is a little upsetting. Honey, I would NOT let him anywhere near me ever again.

We started dating in the middle of July and then he left at the end of Aug. We were together and exclusive while he was gone, so I wasn't seeing anyone else. Technically, 4 months, but really, about 2 counting training. He was able to visit about once a month during training and would spend the entire weekend with me. But again, I think it was him getting what he wanted.

He said that I didn't make him think about things differently than he originally had. I guess I was supposed to debate with him every topic he ever brought up. My mom isn't sure how psychologically challenged he needs to be when all he does in his free time is hunt, fish, and drink beer.

lol lol

Wow. That sucks.
You didn't meet him at a bar, did you? I hope not.

Well, here goes nothing...

I've had some personal realizations throughout the past week, and I've realized why I want to be in a relationship and why I do a lot of the things I do and why I've been afraid to talk to him about this. So tonight (hopefully), I'll be saying something along these lines:

"Look- I know we're exclusive, and I know we're dating. And I think this is going well, and I really like you. So, can we just say that we're boyfriend/girlfriend and become Facebook official?"

P.S.- I know Facebook official is dumb. But, it's kind of a reality in college these days....

WTF does that have to do with anything? Assholes can be found in many a place.

Thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that was an incredibly obnoxious statement.

My boyfriend asked me after our third date if we "dared to be like the cool kids" and make it Facebook official. I thought it was cute - the modern version of asking me if I wanted to go steady. ;)

LOL - Live-in and I weren't "facebook official" until after we moved in together.

However, we were trying to avoid a girl who had a crush on him (teen angst - she was like 18) coming and killing me. We figured once we had moved 8 hours away we were safe.

The last two guys I dated (including Mr. Military) refused to even be my FB friend. I think that's going to be some new criteria.

"Hi, my name is AlwaysSAI. If we begin dating, would you be willing to add me on FB? Oh, you said no...okay, bye."

I had requested that Dan the McAfee Man (hockey dad extraordinaire) be a connection on LinkedIn several weeks ago and it was never accepted. I thought "Well, it's probably ok to keep LinkedIn as professional contacts and not include your personal relationships there". Today, I got the email that he had accepted the connection. Color me surprised.

And now, a new funny story from the online personals experiences of AGDee: Do NOT drink anything while you read this! I will not be held responsible for any liquids coming out of the nose and damaging laptops or keyboards.

So, I updated my pictures and stuff on Match.com, a profile I had ignored for a couple years now. Yesterday, I got 7 emails all in one night. All of them included their Yahoo Messenger IDs. Weirdly, all 7 live pretty far away. A couple in Ohio, but also New York, Texas and Georgia. I figured "Well none of these will go anywhere, but I'll have some fun chatting online with them" and added a few to my contact list on Yahoo. Two of them accept instantly and both start chats with me. First, guy from Texas, supposedly a general contractor. We chat a bit, he asks me where I'm from and I say Detroit. "Where is that?" he asks. Seriously? He tells me he is a widower, lost his wife to breast cancer 4 years ago, has a child.. I think 6 years old. I tell him I was surprised to get a reply from someone so far away and he tells me he would relocate for the right woman. Weird, in my opinion.

In the meantime, I'm chatting with this guy who says he's from Georgia. He tells me he is a widower, lost his wife in a car accident 3 years ago. Says when he read my profile he knew I was THE ONE for him. He has a 10 year old who needs a mother figure. He asks me if I am talking to anybody else and I say, honestly 'Yes'. He tells me that I should not be talking to anybody else, that he took his profile off of Match as soon as he saw my profile because he knows I am THE ONE for him, his true love. Seriously? I tell him he is foolish to do that and he doesn't know me at all and I think it's weird that he has done that. I tell him I will not stop talking with other men because I wouldn't commit to being exclusive with anybody until we'd dated in person for a while. He then tells me he is in Nigeria on business. What?? He is going on and on about how he wants a woman who will be faithful, loving, caring, etc. In the meantime, I'm still talking to Texas guy.

Texas guy tells me "I am in Nigeria on business". WTF??? I call them both out, telling both of them I'm talking to someone else who claims to be an American in Nigeria on business and that I think the odds of that are extremely slim. The Texan bails on the conversation but the Georgia guy keeps on.

What the hell is this??? Is this some kind of new scam? I have blocked them both from my Yahoo Messenger now. I am unsure whether I'd even consider replying to any of the other emails I received, seemingly all at once, last night. I am weirded out, totally.

The night before, I prayed for some guidance or a sign on whether I should really wait for Dan the McAfee Man, hockey dad extraordinaire. In fact, the night before Dan had first contacted me on eharmony, I had a long conversation with God, telling him that I truly felt ready to meet my life partner, that I was open enough and my defensive walls were down enough to let someone in and that, for the first time in my life, I felt really ready for a partner to share my life with. Then he e-mailed. Now, I pray for a sign, I get all these match.com e-mails and I'm thinking "whoa, now that's a sign!", til I talked to them. Now I'm thinking "WOW, this really IS a sign".

So bizarre. So incredibly bizarre. Part of me wants to talk to more of these match.com men from last night, just to see if they are on business in Nigeria.

Some days, I think my life is a sit com. Really.

Yes, the American in Nigeria is a scam. They'll either ask you to receive packages and send them on to them or they'll ask you to send them money or accept wire transfers and send them on again.

They want what's called a "mule." Someone who moves things back and forth (under false pretenses) and shoulders the blame should they get caught (and often they do).

lol
I swear, this made me laugh so hard.

A third one..
Michael Warren: I am in western africa. I came in collecting of antiques Goods. i wil be back as soon as am done with my Goods..
Michael Warren: I live in oh Lima

Unreal!

So I should report this to match.com?

^^^Uh, I would.

And, I met Mr. Military Man on eharmony. Sad, I know for a 23 year old, but my mom suggested it when they were having a special. hahaha.

Reported two of them. Ironically, they have a check box for "User is not really in the location that they claim" and there is a specific instruction that this is to be used for people who are really in Nigeria or Russia. I wish to hell I hadn't paid for this match.com membership at this point.

ETA: I was going to try adding the other 4 from last night to my Yahoo messenger and report them too, if the same thing happened. It turns out, their profiles are all gone.

ETA: I have complained to their customer care also.

That's not sad. Some people just don't meet their mate in more "traditional" settings.

AGDee, a few of my lawschool classmates got good hookups on eharmony.

Jeebus though.. your stories... pure entertainment!

I have been far more impressed with the types of matches I have gotten on eharmony than any other site. I'm not convinced there is a "good" or "bad" place to meet someone, especially once you're out of the college environment and certainly by the time you're in your <gulp> mid 40s. Bar Scene? Ack. Kids activities? Awkward! Work? Sometimes not a good idea at all, unless it's a very large building and you don't have to interact regularly.

ETA: I'm about to report another guy in Nigeria. So weird. I'm practically asking them straight out if they are in Nigeria..lol.

I'm telling you, I am going to get rich from a book of these stories if I can ever find the time to write it!

Nothing will ever top being matched with your ex and being highly compatible.

I'm so with you there. Never wanted to do the bar scene, and had no other idea where to meet someone. Everyone thought I was surrounded by eligible guys (I coach part-time at a college), but not really.

And ya know, I swore up and down for years that I a) never wanted to be set up and b) never wanted to date someone younger. Then my best friend told me about a co-worker of hers that she thought would be a good match for me. He's two years younger than me. She "suggested" us as Facebook friends. I figured what the heck. And the rest is history... :D

So yeah, there's no one "right" way to meet someone.

lol. Well I did marry him for a reason. He DID fit the basic criteria of education, geography, interests... you know? But it reminded me of the pina colada song.

http://cellbiol.com/netwatch/nigeria...osts/3183.html

A forum discussion about the Nigerian scam thing. Crazy!

There was a special about it on Dateline a while back-probably over a year ago. Pretty crazy stuff.

I would be talking about it to boy right now- BUT HE WON'T RESPOND TO MY TEXT. Grump.

this was me in the beginning. it's normal.

LMAO!!!

this is worth repeating. i won't put his shit out there but OMG. seriously? :rolleyes: