Ahhh ok. I've always been lucky with the guys that I like we've had that pretty early.

Mr. TM for short!

:D

See, I like to have the DTR later rather than sooner. What's a good time? I think 2-3 months is enough time to know what you want, but people I know seem to do it in like 3-6 weeks. I don't get them. :confused:

You don't have to waste your time on your losers whether or not Dr. Duke is ready to DTR. If you really like Dr. Duke, then just focus on him for now. If things don't work out, you can meet the other losers soon enough. Not agreeing to be exclusive doesn't mean that you MUST date others, just that you can if you meet someone that is worthy. Do not waste your time on those who are not worthy. You are too good for that.

Who knew it was possible to be this angry, sad, and hurt at the same time.

So I really liked "him" until he started talking about marriage and what our kids names would be.

Seriously dude, you like 10 hours away. You seriously swear that I'm gonna move out there if I can find a job, when the fact is---I probably won't. You're really cool, really sweet---totally my type, but seriously the marriage/kids talk isn't a turn on, especially when we are just friends.

Now you are coming out to visit me, and i'm not excited. I've tried to figure out excuses as to why I can't see you, but I haven't come up with any. :o

The only thing that's keeping me from really focusing on Dr. Duke is the pace of the whole thing. He calls....maybe once a week--twice sometimes. Just basically to make plans. Then, he'll text a day or two before to make sure we're still on. It has always been my experience that someone who was really interested calls more often even if just for 5 minutes.

I've never had anyone be this slow about it. I've made it very clear that I'm interested so I'm not going to chase him down.

LOL. Live-in just said "Tyra's [Banks] lips are mesmerizing."

Then he tried it make it a negative.

I'm trying not to cry from laughing so hard. Apparently admitting another woman is beautiful (even one as obnoxious as Tyra Banks) is too much for him to handle.

I specifically asked him what I should expect this week because I knew he would be busy with med school graduation, etc. He said that he would call.

He left my house Sunday night. I told him that I was up for an SAI award that night and he told me to let him know how it goes. So, I called him Sunday night and left him a voice mail. His folks are coming in town this week (today actually), so in the voice mail I said that I'd love to hear from him before his folks got in town but to not worry about calling me while they were visiting.

And, nothing. I'm not going to call him 1.) because his folks are in town, 2) because he said he would call, and 3.) because I called him on Sunday.

He knows I'm interested because I've said it 12 different times. I'm not going to chase him down.

good for you


my two cents(about something/one else):

you can do better. I don't really want to post about it. But you can do better. You can do so, so much better.

If you want something more than a 1-day-a-week relationship, you're going to have to . . . tell him specifically.

He's probably busy, or wants space - a once-a-week relationship is actually a decent pace, and if he's not dating anyone else, then the only issue here is that you want something more and aren't willing to ask for it.

Saying "I'm really interested!" isn't the same thing as "I want to see you more than once a week, and I want to talk on the phone more, and . . . "

Also, and I seriously don't say this to be a jerk, but you should really think about exactly WHY you want to see this guy more often - is it really just a "I love spending time with him!" thing, or does the amount of physical contact/phone time play a role in you validating yourself or your feelings/relationship, or . . . etc. In your attempt to not be needy, you're coming across kind of needy (sorry for bluntness, again) - has this been a problem in your past relationships?

I told him that I'd like to hear from him BEFORE his folks got in town.

And, I have been very upfront--which I usually am. I told him that I'd like to hear from him more than once a week a few weeks back. I told him this past weekend that I'd be disappointed if this didn't eventually turn into a relationship. I am really good at saying out front what I expect.

This guy is awesome. I really like him. I enjoy his company a lot. He is smart, articulate, funny, driven, goal oriented, respectful and oh-so-tall. I actually feel like I have found someone who is on the same path I am in life.

I've been told that I'm high maintenance. I told this guy out right on date 2 that I require a lot of attention. If that is being needy, then so be it.

And, I've never been with anyone that moved things at this pace--so I'm not used to it. And, I hate not knowing what to expect.

I'm getting married July 3. I kind of can't wait for July 4 once it's DONE.

I was chewing on my lip and absent-mindedly thinking about my lunch date with the man. His face popped into my mind and now my lip is bleeding. I know that I did it, but I'm still not sure what to make of that. :o

and I guess it's over. He told me he wouldn't be able to come and visit, and then today I told him that I was feeling more of the friend vibe, and he got pissed.

Apparently, i had been lying to him the whole time and i wasn't truthful at all. Forget that i was completely honest, and my feelings just changed. But at least i told him now. Oh well, i need to make myself happy above all else.

OMG I know. 6:00 AM July 5, I'll be heading to Jamaica... it's the happiest I'll be to be up at that hour like... ever...

No matter how much I gripe and complain--I really do like this thing we're doing.

I study archaeology, so yes I believe in evolution and that the world is older than thousands of years considering I've excavated things older than what you believe the age of the earth is. What on made you think I'd stop believing in science to date you? Land of the Lost was not a documentary, and Jurassic Park is a work of fiction.

P.S. Other dude, when I ask what books you've read recently, magazines don't count. Catalogs don't count either. Also I won't baby sit your kids so you can go on a date with a woman who is okay with the Cabela's Catalog as reading material. Though perhaps your children would actually be read to before bed!

Uggggh, I've been agonizing for a week over what to wear for this lunch date, FINALLY found the perfect spaghetti strap top to go with the rest of my outfit, and now the forecast says THUNDERSTORMS ALL WEEKEND?!?! SRSLY?!?!? The weather is ruining my sense of style!

And now he doesn't want to wait until June when I'll be in Atlanta anyway! 2 1/2 weeks? I had to order new clothes last night, need a haircut, mani/pedi.. 2 1/2 weeks? Seriously??? I'm glad he doesn't want to wait, it's only been 9 years since we've seen each other :)

Do you have a layover anywhere that has a salon in the airport? A lot of my flights route through Seattle and I've gotten a mani/pedi on a layover more than once. Saves time if you're going to be stuck there anyway, and it is nice after a long flight to get a foot and hand massage.

This new plan is to each drive 5.5 hours and meet in the middle, in the fine city of Richmond, KY. So, i will be driving, not flying, for this first meeting in 9 years.

D'oh! I almost forgot the mani/pedi. I'll do that today--thanks! Wow, 9 years? This oughta be one heck of a rendez-vous. ;)

I decided to take back the blouse I bought yesterday. This thing is nothing like what I'd normally wear and, if he's going out with me, then he already likes me as well as the clothes that I've been wearing for the 6 years we've known each other. (Yes, I am proud of drawing that conclusion all by myself. :rolleyes::p)

I think live-in and I are in a fight about laundry.

Of course, if he would have let me do the fucking laundry when I wanted to do it we wouldn't have lost our spot to the neighbors. He can't complain to me when he doesn't have any clean undies!

I always did my own personal laundry, he did his, and we'd split the difference on household laundry. Neither of us wanted to ruin the clothes of the other, and I have a washer and dryer in my house so that helps a lot.

We didn't have laundry in our apartment, so we did drop-off service around the corner. I dropped it off in the morning, he picked it up after he came home from work.

On an unrelated note, why do the gross people always want to let you know how much play they're getting?!

We have laundry in the basement and normally we wrangle in between the neighbors.

Oh well. Fight's over. We had a lovely dinner instead.

Yes, yes, it should be. Now, I need to find someone who is from Eastern Kentucky University to give me restaurant/night life recommendations for Richmond, KY. Although the hotel has a heated outdoor pool, free wireless internet and free fruit and cookies available 24/7, which seems to meet almost all of our needs, we're thinking we may need some other food at some point. Anyone?

I got the mouse patrol set up. For letting him use my washer and dryer, watching anything he wants on cable, and the wireless internet he will monitor the humane traps and remove the creature to a nice wooded area where a bird can eat it.

Boys who it didn't work out with but are mature enough to handle it so you can count on them as friends rock. I threw in sandwich fixings, access to my booze, and potato chips because he is being a good sport.

Food is crucial, yes. ;) I called the man to discuss where he would like to go for lunch and it turns out we have the same favorite restaurant!!! He now has a spot in my heart right next to the sushi. :o

I just realized that I give each guy I'm dating/have dated some sort of nickname. Here's the current list.

-Mr. Molester (Together 2.8 years. He was 22 & left because he was in love with a 16 year old girl)
-Mr. Rebound (All he wanted to talk about was a girl he dated for 2 weeks who left him to go back to her HS boyfriend)
-Mr. Lent (Needed 40 days to think it over. Detailed somewhere in this thread.)
-Mr. Text Message (self explanatory)
-Mr. Med Student (Currently seeing him & enjoying the cat & mouse game)

I think it's not going to happen. Men!

The boyfriend and I finalized our anniversary details today. 5 days and four nights in a small beach town to celebrate our 3 year. If that doesn't get me through the next few weeks, nothing will.

Oh, and I forgot about:

Mr. I-Like-Groping-You (Couldn't keep his hands to himself)

damn, do you have like a creepy guy magnet or something?

^^^I have pondered that.

But, I will say that Mr. Groper and I have become really good friends. Oddly enough. He realized that he was still really burned from his last relationship and was trying to forget her. He had a girlfriend for a good 6 months or so after I kicked him to the curb. But, he's a good friend now.

I'm truly sorry if you are cursed with the creepy men magnet. I totally know how it is.. totally.