I had the sex exclusivity talk with the ex-boy but never the offical "boyfriend/girlfriend" talk and when he broke up, he announced one of the reasons was because the relationship was vauge because we never offically defined who were were. Silly me, I thought the sex convo covered that one.

i do believe over the past year, I have made every single dating mistake possible with one guy....maybe that means its all out of my system and I can be normal again??

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Ok, Help. Guy i semi-dated/was totally into for a year got a girlfriend 2 months ago. I almost got over him, when a few weeks ago he started with the "i miss yous" "you're amazings" "cant wait to see yous" and "im breaking up w/ my girlfriend, ill let you know when it happens." Two days ago I got 2 separate messages from him saying they broke up. Me = semi stalker and had been looking up the chick on facebook, sees that she changed it to single. Then yesterday changed it back to relationship. Me= no patience and asked him if they were back together and then had to confess that i looked her up on facebook (ive never even met/seen this chick besides on facebook). He promptly puts up an away message saying that girls have too much time on their hands.

I know I'm the psycho here. What do I do to fix this because I've never gone crazy before! He didnt promise me anything when they broke up, but I dont want us to end our friendship on this note.

Also, I do see the irony that posting this on here means I'm even more psycho...but...you guys understand, right?? :p

I totally agree that a sex exclusivity discussion and a bf/gf discussion are two very different things. The boy and I had our sex exclusivity talk yesterday, but then all of a sudden he made a joke about me dating other guys...I was confused because I thought we were talking about not sleeping with other people and that's it. I wasn't planning on discussing ACTUAL exclusivity until waaaaaaaaay later on. Evidently he thinks they are the same thing. I'm in an exclusivity gray area....

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Duuuuuude. Do NOT under any circumstances call this boy. Not because you should never call boys, but because you definitely stepped over the line with the internet stalking. I would let it cool down for awhile, eventually it'll probably blow over and the next time you see him or talk to him you can laugh it off and say it was a bad day and you just went crazy or something. I highly recommend that you do not call/text message/e-mail/IM/facebook message(?)/etc. him...just chill and don't focus on him so much right now. Doing anything will make you seem more psycho...don't sweat it too much though, a lot of people have a psycho day here and there...haha

This is where women are wrong and can't possibly understand men. If you're exclusively fucking then you're exclusively dating. Most men consider fucking only one girl to be the same as only dating one girl. Thats because, to many men, steady fucking=dating. If you don't want to exclusively date then don't put a "you can't sleep with other people but me" tag on it all.

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Hey, I'm cashmoney. Nice to meet you. Welcome to the crazy side of dating. There's nothing wrong with looking someone up on facebook. Thats not stalkerish. This is Stalkerish: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...hlight=stalker

Honestly, you just need to go have sex with someone. Trust me, you'll get over him. Go pick a guy up at a club or bar and tell him you want to have crazy drunk sex. Take as many shots as possible at the bar that night and bring him back to your house for a night so insane sex. You'll feel so much better in the morning.


And yea, if any of you are wondering....I'm still dealing with DGqueen17's bullshit. :rolleyes:

It never gets all out of your system. But the more people you date the better you get at it and you finally realize what you want.

Thank you for your wise advice... :p I don't necessarily want to date other people, I really like the boy and I also don't want him dating anyone else because of that. The thing is, the word "boyfriend" is scary and I would rather not use it for as long as possible. (remember my commitment issues?:) ) I think the boyfriend/girlfriend discussion is different than sex exclusivity...definitely. Bigger step or something.
Anyway, in my experience steady sex with one guy is not dating...it is consistent sex with one guy. I "dated" (I use the term loosely) a guy for about a year with sex exclusivity but we were definitely not dating exclusivily or at all really. Maybe it's different where I live but that's how I view it. I think my boy thinks like you do though.

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what the hell? that's your bad my friend....and anyway, weren't you guys dating? hahaha:p

I hate the whole exclusivity process song and dance. Sometimes I feel almost rude or whatever bringing it up... I'm actually debating of when/how I should bring it up with the current boy. I have no idea if he's dating anyone else. Honestly I don't see how he could have time... he travels every other week, and we do something at least one night every weekend and weeks that he's home something during the week. I've met several of his close friends, his best friend's entire family (they're like a second family to him), as well as his brother and brother's fiancee. I'd think that if he was dating someone else I wouldn't be meeting the important people in his life... And most everyone I meet has already heard about me and knows the basics, that i'm graduating law school, etc. Though I do get introduced as his "friend" lol, though he'll be holding my hand at the time or something so i'm obviously not just a friend. But it's only a couple weeks so i'm not so much concerned about the title of things (i've long since learned that's a pain in the ass thing to deal with that half the time isn't worth bringing up), i'm just concerned about the exclusivity. I think i'm just rambling here and talking myself through this, lol.

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Hahaha, nooooo. ;) :p About as much as you and I are dating. Not at all.

I like the whole "friend" thing here....my great aunt did the same thing to me all the time. And this is Craig's "friend". :p

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Damn, so all the girls on here that I PM'd telling them we were dating...it was all lies???? hahaha...that chick is p-s-y-c-h-o. You can certainly pick 'em...:p

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We could go along with it, at least the cyber sex was good. :p Hahaha, all girls are pyscho. :D

Ummm . . .

Last night = OMGWTF

no GOF though.

This goes out to the H&A
 

I let my guard down,
How could I have been so dumb?
Her eyes were open?
I know I am not the one...

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My playlist just went from that to Skee-Lo.


I wish I was like six foot nine so I could get with Leoshi
Even though she don't know me, I think she's really fine
You know I see her all the time, everywhere I go
and even in my dreams I can scheme of ways to make her mine


PS: I heard that prom night is the bomb night with the hood rats you can hold tight.

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That is like the second best song ever.

This one's good too.
 

We stay mad about ten minutes then it's like, back on the bike
to play hide and go get it with the younger hoes by the bungalows
-- then switch to playin' ding dong ditch
When that gets old and too cold to hack it
threw on a bomber jacket
You could tell the ballers 'cause they be wearin' Gazelles
And if they really had money raised be sportin' BKs
and all the girls had they Turkish link
If it broke then they made earrings to it, like they meant to do it


And yeah, it was kinda like a sport to wear biker shorts

I called boy I'm not supposed to call for his birthday yesterday. I thought it would be good for the karma thing, since he called for my birthday and all.

He called back tonight (naturally, a full 24 hours later so he can so he is busy and imporatant). I was in class, so he left a voice mail. He wants to talk to me, see how things are going.

I have a bad feeling this has distaster written all over it. But I want to call back soooooo badly.

WTF are girls thinking blowing up your cell when you're not answering. If I don't pick up my phone....don't call me 3 times in 1 hour. :rolleyes:

over a year ago...this great guy and I were dating. We would go to his parents beach house with his mom and dad almost every weekend. On the last day of school, I was suppose to go down there and hang out with them for a few days. He was suppose to call and let me know what the plans were...he never called. We had been dating for about 4 or 5 months. He IM'ed me about 2 months later something about "sorry, I was scared cause you got along with everyone soo well." i dunno...but anyway. We ran into each other a few times that summer and talked every once and a while but it was always "hi, how are ya? bye"

He called out of the blue the other night. Talked like nothing ever happened. Emailed me that morning to tell me how great it was to talk to me and how I had always treated him great, etc. etc. Texted me yesterday to wish me good luck on the soccer game. Called me last night, again...wants to hang out sometime soon. WTF? I just don't get it. He was too immature for me when we dated, but we always had great time. WTF, WTF, WTF!

I did the same thing a few days ago....I know the feeling

damn.... i was guilty of that last night. I was only gonna call twice, but then I decided I wanted to leave a bitchy message since he wasn't answering... so I called a 3rd time (at12:30). Woke up at 2am and had 17 messages from him. yeah... he's sorry.

http://home.earthlink.net/~twcase/si...res/insane.jpg

hehe

Why on earth would you ever call someone more than 1 time per night? Drunk, sober, whatever there is just never an excuse. It creeps me out when people call me more than once and it's like within an hour of the last call...wtf seriously. :confused: :confused: :confused:

But if you have a guy in your life who would leave you 17 messages then maybe you two are perfect for each other...even though 17 messages do not say "sorry" to me, I get more of the "stalker, not quite right in the head" vibe from that...but hey what do I know?

I'm so calling you four times tonight. And you'll like it.

:(

my god, i love you bitches.



i'd call you 25 times and you'd like it.

anyway

I did not call The Boy (#1 or #2) tonight,
but I think I made other boys buy me drinks :-( which is completely against the rules of boy ban

It's actually not against the rules since you're getting free drinks!

its not against the rules!! its being smart, because you can use the money you saved at the bar for something good- like food, clothes, shoes, tution, etc. You're just being economical.

cooking for the boy for the first time tonight... lasagna, which thankfully I make well. Always nervous about cooking for people because I don't do it very often

Oh my lord, I don't even remember writing this.

I didn't call the boys last night because, hi, I was at all the same places as boy #1. I went to his brother's band's show and then to Tilly and the Wall and he was at both. There was some awkwardness. And yes, then I met some nice boys at the bars. Why don't I like nice boys?


AND TODAY I cuddled with a very cute boy. Who has a girlfriend already. Yeah, I'm a winner. ;)

So did my not going up to you and pretty much ignoring you piss you off?

Yes :(

I'm sorry. I won't do it again.

I cooked for the boy for the first time last night too! Herb & Cheese chicken & yummy pasta. Plus bottle of wine of course. Went wonderfully :) Hope your dinner did too!

aaahhh! meeting the parents for the first time today and I think I'm going to have a breakdown before it happens!