ever planning on calling? grr!

You should fly to Omaha and scrump on him.

I drove through Omaha and the rest of Nebraska on my way to California and it made me feel like empty, there wasn't much to look at really. But it was better than driving through freaking Wyoming and most of Nevada.

ooooooooooooooh i like this boy i like this boy i like this boy i like this boy i like this boy i like this boy and this boy is coming to my sis's wedding with me in 2 wks and then i'm going to his best friend's wedding with him in a month and he's a good kisser and he's kinda dorky and i like that and i like him and it's really cool and i feel all giddy and isht all the time about him and it's weird but i like it. :)

someone needs to tell me to stop....i like this guy way too much for something catastrophic not to happen. :p

and on another note......the ex boyfriend that my parents hated b/c of his color......found out last wk that he knocked some girl up, they are engaged, but that he had BOUGHT ME A RING. yeah, like had the ring, was gonna propose, but oopsie i broke up with him and therefore didn't find out about it until a year later. :eek: it was a carat and a quarter, and this chick's ring is only a quarter (from what i hear)........couldn't help but let out a little chuckle on that one.

Yesterday the boy and I went out with some of my friends for dinner/drinks. Had a good time overall. I had told him on friday (when he paid for dinner) that I would pay the next time we went out. But last night he didn't offer to pay. So I pay and I'm a little pissed off when we're driving home. So We get to my house and he's like thanks for dinner, you didn't have to pay for it. I was like, you're welcome. The thing is if I didn't have to pay for it WHY DIDN"T YOU OFFER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????? ??????? At least offer to pay half, especially when we're at a slightly pricey place and my portion of the bill would have been like 1/4 of what our total was together. I think maybe a combination of me just grabbing the bill to look at it and us hanging with my friends maybe, but I'm a little annoyed still. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Do I say something or let this go???

Just read those lines, carefully and slowly. You are mad because he let you do what you said you would do.

I know. I realized I may have overreacted (in my head, btw…not to him) because I had a couple of annoying things happen on Saturday night and on Sunday morning something else shitty happened. So I wasn’t in the best mood yesterday anyway and I may have had some misplaced anger/annoyance. I’m also really sensitive to the possibility of people taking advantage of me (in the $$$ department) because it’s happened to me a lot, specifically there was an instance on Saturday night that really pissed me off.
So my hypersensitivity + 3 shitty experiences during the weekend + him not offering to pay = me getting really annoyed and misdirecting it all to him not paying. I feel like an asshole!

Me, too--I feel the exact same way. But you did say that next time you'd pay, and in guy thinking, that means you're going to pay the next time, period. Maybe he didn't want to offend you by offering to pay. Who knows. So it doesn't really seem like you were taken advantage of in this particular instance, but I know it sucks, especially when you're poor and he orders three times as much as you do. One of my exes suggested that we go get lunch one time, and being as how it was close to his birthday I offered to pay...but he didn't mention the fact that he had two gift certificates to that restaurant in his pocket. Well, he did--after we got outside. I was a little ticked, not only because neither of us would've had to pay if he'd said something, but also because he knew good and well that I didn't have much money. He didn't, either, so I always tried to foot the bill as often as I could whenever we went out, but come to think of it, I was always careful to order something cheap when he paid, but oh, when I was paying he would never fail to order the most expensive thing on the menu. :rolleyes:

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Me, too--I feel the exact same way. But you did say that next time you'd pay, and in guy thinking, that means you're going to pay the next time, period. Maybe he didn't want to offend you by offering to pay. Who knows. So it doesn't really seem like you were taken advantage of in this particular instance, but I know it sucks, especially when you're poor and he orders three times as much as you do. One of my exes suggested that we go get lunch one time, and being as how it was close to his birthday I offered to pay...but he didn't mention the fact that he had two gift certificates to that restaurant in his pocket. Well, he did--after we got outside. I was a little ticked, not only because neither of us would've had to pay if he'd said something, but also because he knew good and well that I didn't have much money. He didn't, either, so I always tried to foot the bill as often as I could whenever we went out, but come to think of it, I was always careful to order something cheap when he paid, but oh, when I was paying he would never fail to order the most expensive thing on the menu. :rolleyes: [/]

That's the thing, why wait until AFTER to say something like "you didn't have to pay for dinner" or "by the way I have a gift certificate"....some people just think differently i guess. It's so funny, I couldn't stop thinking about this issue and I was talking to a girl at work about this yesterday. She said her system is whoever invites the other person out should pay. I think that's pretty good. So if I call the boy (like on sunday) and ask him to dinner with some of my friends, then I should pay. However, if he suggests we do something then he should pay. I feel like that might get slightly complicated if you do that with friends, but it's a good rule of thumb in the romantic relationship department.

In my social group one of the boys has a new girlfriend. We like his girlfriend a lot. She is great for him and we're happy to welcome her to our circle. However there is an issue.

She wore a poncho.

She said to us "If I'm ever a fashion victim please tell me". This was within the first half hour of meeting her and we couldn't bring ourselves to say something. We had a discussion that we need to tell her, because we don't want to be phony. So far these are our options.

a) Make a big joke about it and hopefully she will get the hint.
b) Tell her boyfriend to tell her (lame)
c) Have the drag queen tell her as it seems way less bitchy coming from him than from the girls in the group
d) Make the poncho disappear

I think she is wearing it to cover up because she is self conscious of her body (her ex told her she was too fat to love, etc), but we don't care about the shape or size of her body because she's a great girl. Help us, because we don't want to lose our friend or his girlfriend, yet we just can't keep letting this girl wear this.

is there fringe involved?

Yes it has fringe. The Drag Queen keeps making jokes about "Touched By A Poncho" and how it could be a reality t.v. show about ponchNO interventions.

She already knows our position on UGGS, sweatpants in public, and trucker hats. So if she owns those we will likely never see them.

my answer is C --- only because i LOVE drag queens!!!!

Okay, elaborate. Is it a poncho circa 1993 once worn on 90210 by Dylan McKay while crying about his father in the cabana at the Beverly Hills Beach Club OR a poncho like the ones recently sold at BCBG and various other retailers? If the former, please have the drag queen say something. If the latter, depending on the ugliness of the poncho or (as hotdamn mentioned) the fringe factor, I would probably not judge her poncho wearing ways. She's simply a trendoid.

sometimes its not what you think.
 

you should really get your facts straight. The girl you so affectionally talk about is one of my best friends. Just to let you know im pretty sure we know who told you your FACTS, and just to let you know its false. They were engaged, before they found out she was pregnant. And you know what hes happier with her than he ever was with you. The ring she has right now is not her actual ring, he got her that one and then she picked out the one she really wanted, it is a 1 1/2 carat just to let you know. It is a very pretty ring and is away right now getting sized. She has read this and doesnt care what you think or how you found out your information, but just to let you know the true facts. Keep in mind this site is for a lot of people and you may not know who your really hurting.

Speaking of fashion stuff......


I was in the Gym last night and I saw this blonde chick that was tan as hell, brown hair with highlights, straight hair....probably 5'9. Judging by unintentional staring, her waist had to be a size 3. She had on this little black top thing that looks a little like a sports bra but her tits bounced like crazy on the walking-cycle thing she was on. I dont know if I just forgot how hot most females are in SoFL or what...but this girl was fucking insanely hot as shit. And she had super clear blue eyes. HOT!!! She was like 21 maybe 22 yrs old.

Anyhow, about the fashion thing. She was wearing these pants that were black and tight. They came down in the back to almost her ass crack, just right above it. Her tatoo was showing right there. And on her ass cheeks, written across them on the pants it said " High Maintenance" in white letters. Its was so fucking hot. I couldnt stop checking her out she was so hot. But, I made sure she noticed me. I started doing my biceps about 10 ft away. Hopefully I'll see her tonight. But yea, if any of you girls see those pants....GET THEM!!!!!

Gotta' love a 90210 reference!

And weren't those things called carpet jackets or something funky like that? I remember my best friend had one in 8th grade (which was in '93 :) ).

DUDE, I had one in 8th grade in 1993. I'm assuming I owned one mainly because of their appearance on 90210...i was so cutting edge. I could have sworn they were called ponchos back-in-the-day. '

And cashmoney, seriously, pants that say "high maintenance" on the ass....come ON. I was with you on the hotness right until that part.

Shallow, I know, but it was still hot. ;)

SERIOUSLY, it reminds me of those girls who always wore shirts that said "Brat" or something on them or had a sticker on their car that says "princess" (all glittery of course). Definitely NOT hot...it's more a "hello I just opened the door into the 90's" than a "you're hot" type of thing that comes to mind. :p Other than that she sounded cute though. Go for it tonight at the gym

Hottie Matt has a girlfriend. :(

Cutie Andrew is from the same suburb as my ex-boyfriend. I conveniently did not mention that fact to him so we didn't have to play the name game.

The poncho is acrylic and fringed. It straight up doesn't flatter her body type at all. She won mucho points tonight for hating the foul metallic purses that seem to be everywhere.

The Drag Queen is going to talk to her this week. He is going to share how he used to wear sweatpants in public (to places other than the gym) and how he learned it was wrong because he looked sloppy and it was unflattering. Hopefully she won't react badly. We're going shopping together Thursday (Macy's is having a HUGE sale) so hopefully I can positively influence her. If it comes down to it I'll just say "honey I don't think that really flatters your body type, you are curvy, show people what you're working with!" She also may be subletting the Drag Queen's room for part of the summer while he is in Mexico so we can either make some clothes with my mad sewing skillz, or tailor other items to fit beautifully.

My eldest sister offered to send a picture of herself in the 70's with a bowl haircut and a poncho to use as a deterrent, but in the end agreed that the Drag Queen is the best person for the job.

You have the sewing skillz? I had no idea! That makes me wish we were friends so I could make you teach me to tailor all my clothes.


I agree, the poncho must be stopped.


also, sweatpants are allowed if she's going to the doctor's office with strep. So maybe she can save the poncho for that?

Seriously, why do I think of getting off boy ban? It only leads to confusion when i do that.

I am moving in with the Drag Queen, and we live in a small farm town so we have no where to shop. My sewing machine is going to be on FIRE this summer. The bottom of his pant suit has to be hemmed while his hair grows out so he can be Rosie O'Donnell with the "Flock of Seagulls" hair for one of our parties. I don't think it will top when he was dressed as Oprah, had three other queens in the car, and was pulled over in front of the Capitol in Boise. I won't even go into the Scary Spice outfit or the Bjork obsession.

We've pretty much come to a consensus in our social group that sweatpants just don't flatter any of us, and luckily we don't own them anyway. Well there is one pair but they are for the gym only. All the times I have been ill (and I have almost weekly appointments with my poor health right now) I just threw on jeans and a hooded sweatshirt to go to the doctor.

Here is a relationship tidbit of my own. I have an ex-current-not-boyfriend and he has three roommates. One of his roommates is a white supremacist so I refuse to go over there anymore. At least he is graduating next month and moving out. I just love it when we're having a conversation and I hear racial slurs from the living room. Oh and said roommate also let in the psycho ex that threatened to put me in the hospital. Enough psycho hookers from that town have threatened my friends that we realized we could have a facebook group for it.

The Drag Queen reported that there was ANOTHER poncho last night. This one is black and pink striped with fringe. She leaves tomorrow so he is going to have to say something tonight. However I think he is going to put it off on me.

Perhaps we should just send her this t-shirt?
http://prodtn.cafepress.com/2/14979432_F_tn.jpg


The No Poncho Pledge
The Manolo No-Poncho Pledge
“I (insert the name here) swear on the head and/or the grave of my sainted granny to never wear, buy, knit, crochet, or fashion from the old throw rug, the poncho. And if the poncho it is given to me as the gift, I will graciously thank the giver and then, when she has left, put the poncho into the dog’s bed and/or the trash as the case she may be. Only by doing these things faithfully can I help end for the good of the humanity the scourge that is the poncho. So help me Manolo.”

the only good thing about a poncho is it doubles nicely as a blanket when taking naps in libraries. the girl i teach with has one and refueses to give it up. i like it for napping purposes. i think her mom knitted it back in the day.

I have a poncho-style thingy, but it's not crocheted. It's really more of a sheer overshirt. Anyway, I knew the whole poncho thing was doomed when the 6-9 year old cousins were wearing them at Christmas. Come on, when it's so big that kids' clothing manufacturers get in on it, it's dead.]

The only feasable reason I can see for wearing a poncho is if you're like my friend who recently had a baby. She had a pair of jeans that had a spandex waist about extending about 5-6 inches from the top. Very comfy she says, but very ugly. Thus, the poncho covered the ugliness of the spandex and was very warm and comfy (apparently, being pregnant in N. Carolina in Nov.-Feb. is quite chilling). The only other thing that covered the waistband was her husband's tshirts, but obviously those didn't quite cut it when she needed to look a little put together.

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Do you normally troll on message boards to set the facts straight about people none of us really know or actually give two shits about? You sound like the spoiled little kid who got the attention taken away from her at a party.:rolleyes: "And my friends ring is 1.5 carats..." Please, like the size of a ring dictates crap in the real world.

Now back to your regularly scheduled randomness.

Update on the girl from the gym......

lol, you guys wont believe this crapp. So I went back at the same time thinking she'll be there. She was. And she saw me. So I started talking to her. We talked for a little while but for some reason I didnt ask how old she was, the older I get the more I find that chicks dont liek you asking them that or else they wont tell you their exact age....they'll say between 21-29 or something like that. Anyhow, I havent asked a chick her age in a long time. After talking to the Alyssa for awhile I left to finish my workout. Well after I was finished lifting I went to go do cardio. She ends up getting on the treadmill right next to me about 3 minutes after I started running. At this point she has a small shirt on and this time she's wearing pink pants just like the black ones but without the lettering. :p I said hey and she smiled and said hey back and then she took off her shirt her titties bounce around in the white sports bra she was wearing underneath the shirt. :D So we ran together on the treadmills. (keep in mind I'm sitting here thinking the whole time i'm running about how incredibly hot this chick is and how I'd give my left nut to just hit raw dawg once) So after I couldnt run anymore and she was super sweaty and looking hot on a level none of you can imagine, I got off the mill. She did too. As I was walking we started talking and I invited her to come out this weekend @ Club Space. Its Danny Howell's CD release party for the Global UnderGround CD series. Anyhow, she said she was cool with it and gave me her number to call her tonight or saturday afternoon. As we were walking a friend of hers came up to her (another hot chick) and she asked her if she got the Gradnight tickets yet. WTF????:o :rolleyes: I was like, "WTF did you just say?" She told me she asked her if she got their gradnight tickets yet. :eek: :o :eek: :o I asked her if she was in highschool and she said yea!!!!! OMFG! I told her they didnt make girls like her when I was in highschool. She laughed it off and said "don't worry, i'm 18" :rolleyes: After that she started talking but I cant remember what about....all I could think about was how she's either getting turned the fuck out now or will be if she leaves in august to go to college up in Gainesville or Tallahassee. When I came to my senses she was asking me "Ok?" And all I could say was "Ok." I'm guessing she still thinks I'm calling her. :rolleyes:

IF she is 18 what do you care?

Re: sometimes its not what you think.
 

haha.....one your "best friends", or is it just you? lol.....think what you wanna, and i'll think what i wanna and we'll just play your high school game that way. :rolleyes:

and just for a little alert, this person is not pi phi......not that you couldn't tell, but ya know. :cool:

i hate stupid wanna-be drama.

A lot.










-When was the last time you fucked an 18 yr old?




It was a crazy night last night, left Space @ 4:30am. She looks a whole lot better nakked than with clothes on. :D

the boy i'm not supposed to talk to unblocked me on the AIM last night.
then he blocked me again today.
wtf?
i didn't even realize all year long that he had be blocked, because i forgot i even had his screen name. but then he goes and unblocks himself so now i know it and now i don't know how to feel.

Umm, yeah, my boy does that every so often. Are we twins? More important, are they TWELVE?

There's some serious control issues going on there . . . Stay away!

so random boy from back in December isn't quite so random anymore.....

Calebs talking to me again but I'm not sure that we are still "talking".....

Met up w/ craig at the bar saturday night (the other boy i've been 'talking' to). Got a little tipsy and ended up booty dancing with Random boy the rest of the night..... needless to say, craig and I aren't talking anymore.

A boy stopped talking to you because you danced with another dude? Where do you live for crying out loud?!?! That is the most retarded thing I've ever heard of.

Even if you were on a date with the dude, you were dancing...not having sex with the random guy, is it really that huge of a deal?! :confused:

I think my boy is stuck at about that age. Sadly his 23rd birthday is comming up, and I'm debating about calling him or not. He called me on my birthday. So I feel obligated to call him....decisions, decisions.

At what point do people usually have the "okay, now it's acceptable to use the term "girlfriend"" conversation?

It seems so silly to use "boyfriend" when you're talking about a 25 year old, but it also seems silly to avoid the conversation because of the terminolgy......



hmmm. Maybe what I'm really talking about is an exclusivity conversation. And we've already had the sex exclusivity conversation, and I don't really think he's taking anyone else out on the side, so perhaps this is unnecessary.

Yet I'm still kind of wondering why this hasn't come up.

Sounds like since you've had the sex exclusivity talk the boyfriend/girlfriend terminology talk is redundant. HOWEVER, if he doesn't refer to you as the gf to other people, I'd bring it up. How to bring it up tho that is always a question I never seem to know the answer to myself...

I take a very Scalia-like approach to dating and strictly construe everything. To me, sex exclusivity and dating exclusivity are two different things, so I'd probably have a "general exclusivity" talk at some point. After that, it's of course appropriate to use "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" if desired.

If he introduces you to people as his "friend" you have problems.