I guess a man who once fussed about the cost of dinner could have taken his girlfriend to Niagara Falls. And taken her just that quickly. LOL.

That was really nice of him. +1 for dude, hair or no hair.

Not gonna lie, that thought crossed my mind. He did say business was better, and it was the Days Inn (not that I'm judging there - I'm a fan of cheaper hotels and spending more on the actual destination activities).

At the time, I had just gotten a job after being laid off. Money was tight as hell back then. Our hotel was cheap as hell, I couldn't fuck with that fallsview shit. @ $106.00/night, that was high as hell. I did check out the inside of the one Dusty and his girl stayed in just to see what it looked like. When I walked in, I said, damn, Dusty got class, LOL.

Dee, that's wonderful. :)

Were you able to have dinner at the Skylon? :)

I guess.

No, I saw it and asked about it, because my girl wanted to check it out, but they said some shit about reservations, and proper attire. We didn't know that we had to make reservations, and me and my girl just brought clothing to walk around in mainly. We just got Wendy's and other take home food and brought it back to the room. I really didn't plan for a lot of the shit they had to offer. We just walked around and kicked it at some of the museums n shit. We did the tour guide which came with a boat ride, and kicked it at the movies which was near the falls. We still kicked it and had fun, though.

My D&R random for tonight is about my sister. She's trippin on dudes. She complains about how good dudes are hard to find. She had been dating this one dude for a minute, but, according to her, dude started trippin. She sent me a text message over the weekend while I was out of town telling me that she stopped fuckn with dude. Dude was all into her, but she said she found out some shit about dude's past. I didn't think it was foul as hell, especially since it was in dude's past. Some of her friends had fucked with dude before she did, and she didn't know it. They told her dude wasn't shit. She came at dude with it, and he didn't deny it. He said he fucked around with a lot of females in the past but is no longer that way. She stopped fuckn with dude. Funny thing is, all of her friends are single. Then she asked me via text messge -"If everybody is searching for love, why is it so hard for us to find one another?" I just told her that it's about chemistry, being able to connect with the right dude, and also not judging dude on his past. When I met him, I thought dude was cool. She met dude online, they kicked it for a minute, but she stopped feeling him based on what her friends said about dude, and based on his past. I also think females want the perfect dude, so they kick dude to the curb before they check out dude's credentials n shit. Her complaint reminded me of this thread, how AGDee, and christiangirl complain about dudes, but stop fuckn with them because they found out some shit they didn't like about dude, rather than feeling dude out. I'm not picking on those two females, my sister's complaint just reminded me of them and their complaints.

So Iota Dude, you have things that automatically a woman from consideration, right? Like you've said you won't date a big girl, right? Why can you have expectations for a woman but it's not ok for women to have expectations about a man? Aren't there things that are deal breakers for you?

And that's all that matters. :)

Well, to each its own, but I believe love is not just a feeling but a decision, the brain must work with the heart in order to make intelligent choices that lead to love. Also, "chemistry" can sometimes be deceitful when it comes to "connecting" with who you think is the right person. I mean, even though it's part of what is needed, it cannot be all there is. I don't think she was judging him. I think she was protecting herself from potential disaster. Personally, I think it's a good idea to pay attention to a man's history to get an idea of how he functions in relationships. To me, a track record of numerous short-term romantic, platonic, and/or professional relationships could be evidence of something faulty going on with the guy that makes him unable to commit long-term. I just think that it's important to ask the hard questions early so she can decide if she wants to invest in this person.


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Preach.

Honestly, you keep saying I stop dating men because I'm picky or find out things I don't like...uh, when? If I can't think of a time and I was there, I don't believe you can (with the exception of the smoker which is a dealbreaker). The last guy I dated was Bear and he was the one who stopped disappeared on me (though TBH, that was fine, I felt ambivalent about him at best). I have my preferences but no list of criteria for men so very little will disqualify them other than a lack of chemistry or how they treat me.

CTFU! You're not feeling me, though. You're talking about physical attraction. If you told me you met a dude, and then said you weren't feeling him because you weren't physically attracted to dude, then I would feel you on that. I'm talking about when you meet a dude, think dude is decent looking, but stop feeling him just because of something minor. For example: When you said dude was foul as hell because he had a suspended drivers license. Then other females (AGDLynn, and CG & CG), on here came behind you and told you not to fuck with dude, just because of that. You didn't even go out with dude one time to see if he was cool or not. I'm glad Brandi gave me a chance. She told me that some of the shit I was saying on the phone made her think I was sus, but now she said I turned out to be cool as hell. You feel me? With big girls, most dudes don't fuck with big girls anyway. We're more visual than females. I'm not saying that y'all aren't visual, but y'all aren't visual like dudes are. You feel me? Ask any dude who post over here if they would fuck with a big girl, and watch all of them say they won't LOL.

You're feeling my sister because you're a female, and females don't think like dudes. My sister has unrealistic expectations. Dude changed, though. Are you saying a dude can't change? I used to be like that, but I don't do that shit no more. Just because dude may have fucked around in his past doesn't mean he's still that way. You're like AGDee and CG, eliminating dudes over past issues, or little nitpicky shit. And you sound like my sister, who has a whole laundry list of what she wants in a dude. "He's gotta be this way" and "Dude has to have this" and "Dude can't be this way" -shit like that.

Dude that bought you the skates probably wanted some ass, which is why he bought you those skates. But at the same time, dude probably wanted what you wanted, a female he can kick it with long term. The problem is, you somehow got dude to know that you weren't going to give up that ass, so dude bounced. Any dude would. There isn't a dude on the planet who would hang around with a female he's feeling without wanting and getting that ass. A dude simply isn't going to stay unless he's hittin it. You said it yourself. You can't find a dude who's like that. You think any dude who wants to hit it, wants to hit it and quit it, which isn't always the case. If you females understood how we feel when we get hard, y'all would feel our pain. But y'all don't have the same sex drives we have which is why it doesn't bother y'all when y'all tease dudes. Dude that bought you the skates was probably hard as hell on every date with you, but you wouldn't understand because you're a female, and one of those religious females. You feel me? You just have unrealistic, fairytale expectations.

Do you read AT ALL or do you just have amnesia? This is total bull. It's the absolute OPPOSITE of everything I said the LAST time we had this conversation (and the time before that). You said all of those things, not me. We can't actually talk if you don't read a word I say.

And for the last time, HE DID NOT BUY ME SKATES. Geez, you're about as attentive as a goldfish. :rolleyes:

CTFU! goddaaaamn!!! You get mad quick as hell.

If you know dudes like that, then why aren't you with one of them? LOL! I couldn't remember, I thought dude bought you some skates n shit. When I said you made dude know you weren't trying to come up off that ass, that's what I meant. You said you told dude, but dude thought you would come around, that's what I meant to say. When dude found out your weren't fuckin around, dude bounced. Most dudes will. With the religious shit, that's what I'm saying, God allows animals to fuck, why can't humans? That's just nature in itself. The body needs sex, regardless. You feel me? I don't know why you religious females like to fight the feeling.

LOL but why you gotta get all mad n shit? You and Cheerful get mad quick as hell LOL.

Was Niagara Falls on W. 25th Street between Red Lobster and SuperTarget? After you left Niagara Falls, did you tell your womanfriend how you feel about women?

Maybe she would like to know what you would do should she ever want to take a sex break from you and delve more into an emotional bond. She certainly would not be the first woman or man to take a sex break so that they can get their minds right.

Isn't this the same woman who you claimed was being a dick tease when you first met her? You hopefully learned that she owns her vagina and does not owe it to you or anyone else.

She owns it, but I fuck it LOL. She likes to fuck just as much as I do.

And if she no longer likes it or doesn't want to participate for whatever reason, you will have no choice but to get the hell over it.

Ran into my ex at the grocery store Saturday night, he agreed to cat sit if I needed someone and he was in town. I wasn't bothered by giving him a hug, but when he kissed the top of my head I thought that was going too far.

My mother has decided she must come visit me this summer, and since my mama can make me cray cray perhaps there will be a situation to manipulate where I can make my mom and my ex hang out. That should make up for kissing me and her impromptu visit, even more so if she has a conversation with him about how his cheating betrayed our whole family. I'd also have no problem asking him to hang out with my nephew if/when my sister comes to visit so we could have some kid free time.

She won't though.

She's all about this shit right here LOL!
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No, I agree with your sister, because she's absolutely right in her decision.

Absolutely. Women do not think as men do, and men do not think as women do. One of the barriers in relationships is the inability of both sexes to understand each other. Women expect men to think like women, and men just don't know what women are thinking. The best thing to do is to stop trying, and accept, and celebrate our differences. The other is being out of touch with who you (in general) are and what you (in general) need. Sounds to me like your sister has an understanding of that (not needing a man who's been in a revolving door of relationships).

You do not know that.

You have not seen me angry. You have seen me exasperated. :rolleyes:

1. You constantly put out your words and pretend it's what I'm thinking or saying. I have never said every man wants to "hit it and quit it" but you insist on believing I think that.
2. You take your experiences and pretend they have been mine or will be mine. You may not know men who are willing to hold off on sex but that does not mean I don't know them.
3. You can't remember details for your freaking life (which is more funny than angering). We've had the "skates" conversation 3 times now, I wonder about your memory capabilities. :p

Do you date or pursue a relationship with every woman who is open to having sex when you want it regardless of any of her other physical or personality traits?

He doesn't read. He sees one thing that bothers him and ruminates on that no matter how many times we correct him.

Point of fact: It wasn't JUST the suspended license with the one guy. He said "I cannot be anywhere near alcohol or where they serve it because I cannot control myself around it. I am a homebody."

Almost all of the things I enjoy doing on dates are at places where alcohol is served: movies, bowling, street fairs, bars to watch live bands, Tiger games, Red Wings games. I am NOT a homebody. I can't even think of anywhere I'd go on a date where they don't serve alcohol. That doesn't mean I drink it just because they serve it, but he said "I cannot be anywhere near alcohol or where they serve it." How do you go on a date to nowhere???? There is alcohol EVERYWHERE, which is why he's a homebody. And how would he even get to the date???????? I'm not letting someone I've never met in my car, that's for damn sure. #1 rule of online dating: Always meet in a public place for the first meet and NEVER get in a car with the man. It's basic safety.

Personally, I think it is really shallow to eliminate someone based on a physical characteristic. If I'm going to grow old with someone, then we better like each other for who we are, not what we look like, because when we're 85, we're both going to look like hell.

Viva la GC!



Now, now...there are some gorgeous 85 yo out there. :) You and your significant other can be among them.

Since we are talking about first impressions, I would definitely eliminate someone if there was something physically that I could not overlook or tolerate. I have my physical requirements and those have to be met before I even take a man seriously as more than a platonic friend. That does not mean that every man who meets my physical requirements will be chosen. Physical is part of it but it is not the only part of it.

If we want to become funny looking creatures when we are 90 years old and still in love, that's fine. Do not come to me as a funny looking creature and expect to be chosen. There are far too many men out there for me to have to take a shot of Ciroc to overlook a man's physical characteristics.

/I think this has been discussed in this thread

That's because you're using words and phrases other than "dude," "shit," "kick it," "feel/feeling" and "CTFU" with someone who by all appearances is incapable of communicating without those words and phrases. I swear, I've never seen anybody try to make "shit" mean so many different things.

QFP for MysticCat using swears, even if he's quoting someone else.

Really? How about you speak for yourself and your own dick. It is possible for a man to initiate affectionate, physical expressions that are nongenital, non-sexual, and appropriate to the commitment level of the relationship. Some men do respect the boundaries of the women they are "feeling", I'm one of those men, so speak for YOU.

Just keeping it real. :cool:

LOL.

:)

Cen1aur1963 is one of those men who feels his manhood and masculinity are defined by sex.

MysticCat--must you reignite my GC crush on you? LOL.

It's all about the cheese grits. ;)

CTFU! I feel you!

(see what I did there?) :D

CTFU!!! I'm totally feeling you. I wanna clone MC so I could kick it with the dude and shit.

How about I thought this was Cen1aur instead of AGDee. I hate you for this. LOL.

It took me a LONG time to write it. I originally wrote "CTFU!!! I totally agree. I wish I could clone MC so I could kick it with him" and realize that was all wrong. I had to edit several times before I had it just right!

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I still laugh really hard when I think about the time when he was talking to Dee, trying to get her to go out with that DUI guy, and used examples of her guzzling down 40 ounce beer with him. That was freaking hilarious!

iDied

I wish there was a gif that could properly imitate my delight. :o

Thank you all who contributed to the revival of D&R Random. Hip hip hooray!!