I saw the same movie you saw. But I also know that dudes were tappin that ass long before the ending LOL.

CTFU! I can't fuck with big girls, but that's different because it's based on the physical. You feel me?

This is why you're not going to get a dude you want. It's 2012, and you're still stuck on 1812. You need to get out of your shell and approach dudes. You're like christiangirl. Y'all get all hung up on old fashioned dudes doing old fashioned shit LOL. Dudes don't do that anymore, not like they used to.



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CTFU! I just threw that out there. She can kick it with dude how she wants to, I just used that as an example.

A fair few of them were also getting dumped before the end of the movie, too. If you want to get sex and keep walking it's one thing. But don't act like any of them were happy with their situations before the change up at the end.

I think dude with the bald head was good with just tappin that ass, moreso than he was kickin it in a relationship with ol girl. I think restaurant dude was happy either way. The problem with him is the female he was with. I thought she was a snobby bitch. I don't think they would last because of her snooty ass. The only two mofos in the movie who were tight being tied down was the white dude, and mamma's boy. Out of the 4, I think white dude and ol girl was the only relationship that seemed like it was going to last. Bald headed dude will probably eventually fuck around on ol girl LOL. Mamma's boy just seemed soft as hell to me. I think his girl is eventually going to get tired of that shit and move on.

Nope, I don't feel you on that one. I'm much more concerned with a man's personality than his physical appearance.

I don't want a dude, I want a man. A man who is interested in a woman asks her out. Men my age know that. I don't hesitate to initiate contact on PoF or OKC, but he has to initiate that first meeting.

Physical appearance can change. Personality rarely, if ever, does change. People are set in their ways pretty strongly by their late 20s. Yes there are some things that can be tweaked, but for the most part, not so much. If my boyfriend (or whatever) always wants to stay home and can't be out around alcohol, that will be limiting to me if I want to go out and see people or have dates with other couples. Yes there can be activities that we do separately, but there would be problems if he never wanted to go out or couldn't be around alcohol especially when I like to go to Happy Hour or something similar.

I have ways of finding out what people have done, best believe I check public sources for criminal history.

You posted this in the movie thread, but I'm responding to it here because I didn't want that discussion to turn from a movie discussion to D&R. I think you've misinterpreted my D&R posts. Go back and read again. I made a bad mistake one time, and one time only. Never again. Because of that, I have boundaries about my body, and I've set boundaries to protect what should only be mine until a man commits his life to me at the altar –and not a day before. If a man has no emotional investment in the woman he is seeing, he will always take whatever she is willing to give as long as it does not cost him anything. IMO, I just believe that a woman who knows her value does not discount her time or love. I believe that it should cost a man something in order for him to appreciate his relationship with her. How on God's green Earth do you equate some "90 day "sex" rule" to my thoughts on sex? :confused:

Sounds like a "90 day guarantee" on a cheap product at Walmart. :rolleyes:

Starfish and I saw fun. last night. We danced and held each other to The Gambler.

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Dude/man.. same thing. So if dude looked like shit, but was cool as hell, he would be your type? Based on what you posted, you kicked it with dudes who were cool, but you kicked them all to the the curb. What about that dude you were telling Cheerful about? Was he your age? You said he did some foul ass shit to you, but he was your age though, right? That's why I told you that old school, "open the door for the female/roll out the red carpet" shit is gone. It's 2012 AGDee. Adapt.

But you are already in a relationship with your boyfriend. AGDee is single. All I'm telling her is to give dudes a chance to see if there are qualities about them that outshine the foul shit. You feel me?

Goddamn, why are you trippin? No it's not exact, but you get my drift. Like I said it's a self help book for females. You've never read shit like that? My sister read the book and she liked it. She said it helped her. You should see the movie or read the book. You'd like it because it's basically the same shit you said to some degree.

You hit it?

This doesn't make any sense. I think his suits are fly as hell. So because you don't like his suits, that makes him ignorant as hell? There are a lot of dudes who have been to prison but are still able to kick knowledge. I think dude gives tight relationship advice. You should check out the movie. I was CTFU!

He's ignorant because he shows his ass when it comes to his misogyny but clearly that's not a problem for you (since you do the same thing).

"It's 2012. Adapt."

i keep on finding out more undesirable details about this dude as time passes. i knew he was married 3 times but yesterday someone tweeted that he beat one of his wives. now you're saying he was in prison. jeez what else is there?!

Dude has his own businesses, he's talented, has written a successful book, and now has another successful movie on the big screen, and on top of all that, he's made millions. That's far from ignorant. Dude turned his life around too, so holding something against him that happened in his previous life is ignorant as hell on your part. Folks make mistakes. With me, you don't know how I treat my girl, or how I have treated other females.

That was back in the day. Dude is tight now.

If he weren't actively misogynistic (still) and (still) making millions off a book and now a movie that is misogynistic, maybe we wouldn't have a problem. Since he is, I can call them like I see them.

Owning a business, being talented, writing successful books, having movies, and making millions doesn't preclude someone from showing their misogynistic ass.

You can call shit however the fuck you please, but that doesn't mean your opinion about the dude is right.

So only your opinion can be right?

Did I say only my opinion can be right? Do you post your opinion about topics? Have you disagreed with mofos on here about their opinions?

Like I'd say either way on GC.

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CTFU! That's good shit home's. AQAK, I think you've been tappin that LOL.

I'm a pretty open book, but there are things that won't benefit anyone on here if I do/n't share them.

I feel you. For me, I gotta be drunk or high as hell to post that I just got done tappin that ass LOL.

Why do you think I'm mad? It either is or it is not. It is not, so no, I don't get your drift. :)


Yep. I read a "self-help" book in the morning before work, and at night before bed, each day and night of the week. It's called the Bible. I read that one, and I apply it to my life both morally and romantically. Am I perfect? Nope, that's why I read it. Nothing against the Stephen Harvy guy or his book, and nothing against your sister or others who have an interest in his book, and other "self-help" books. But, to me, it's bad if it's only based on his or her opinions. I mean, when it comes to D&R, there's nothing wrong with having an opinion on that, but I just think it's important to know where one's opinions come from. I don't have a problem with people who want to read his book, but if it does not come from Biblical teaching, I don't care how good the secrets and suggestions sound, to me, they are worthless. Let me rephrase that. Self-help material needs not only to derive from the One who created counsel and wisdom, it needs to be repeated in the right context –not doctored up to suit any person's personal agenda and rationale. So, no I will not be reading his book about his little "90 day" thingie -whatever that is. :rolleyes: If you like the guy, agree with his book, and his thoughts about dating, then you read it. :)

I would rather be single than be with someone who is messed up. That's why I'm divorced, because I didn't want to be settling.

You are saying that somebody else's opinion is wrong, so it is logical to assume you mean only you are right.

I had a pretty good heart-to-heart with my cousin. I love how much we can learn from each other. We were looking at each other's lives and pointing out things the other might take for granted. She has a beautiful family but regrets always working what pays the bills rather than figuring out her passion. I get to do what I love all day but come home to a stack of textbooks and a fish. :p Neither of us is unhappy with our lives but occasionally, we look at what the other has and wonder if the grass is greener.

I think the grass will usually be greener on the other side...but once you get over there, you'll find the water bill is high as hell and want to go back. I'm fine where I am for now. :)

Cen1aur1963, still lovin' em dowwwwn, one GCer at a time.

You may not find Steve Harvey informative (I certainly do not) but I have tried to stop dismissing people solely based on such things. You will be shocked by the good information that people have to offer even when they do not fit a certain mold. Wise people come in all shapes and forms as do dumb people.

Besides, it's more entertaining for people to talk about exactly what they disagree with rather than blasting Harvey for being an ex-con who looks a certain way. We already know the ex-con (who considers himself saved) and the physical appearance thing. What next?

You make it seem like dude's views don't make any sense. He's got just as much wisdom about dating as you do. Just because the shit didn't come from the Bible doesn't mean his views are way off in left field. You sound as bad as ol girl with the pink writing.

Start using some of your logic on yourself, instead of being a hypocritical dumbass and using the shit on me. You pull the same opinionated shit I do. Go read some of your posts in the movie thread.

CTFU! AQAK, I think you'd rather be on the other side. You talk about dating and relationships too much for you to not want to be LOL. All you go home to is a fish? Damn! CG your apt complex won't let you have a dog or cat? They make better companions than a fish.

LOL what I find amusing is watching you being used as a cash clown with no ass involved. I'll give y'all about another 2 years before your dumbass gets tired of the shit. This time in 2 years or less, you'll be either as lonely as AGDee and christiangirl, or you'll meet a female who will give up that ass to you. You won't be with ol girl too much longer though. Keep talkin shit, I'll be the one laughing when you see that I'm right LOL.

You can maintain whatever the hell you want to maintain. I still maintain that dude speaks the truth. Why are you apologizing to me? What are you sorry for? Just because dude wears suits you don't like, or because he's been to prison doesn't mean shit. Malcolm X was also an ex-con with a conk, but still an informative leader. I'd call you a dumbass, but you banned me the first time which was foul as hell. Don't think I didn't know that it was you who did that foul ass shit.

Did you see the movie, Doc? What did you think?

LOL...Violet, he TOTALLY called you out for banning him. That was smart of him to figure out who it was. ;)

She did ban me. I knew it was her because she kept coming around when I would post over here and other threads. She was watching me, basically. I didn't know I was banned so when I signed back on, it fucked me up because the screen turned gray with a message from her. At first I thought she fucked up my computer. She sent me a message telling me I did some ol TOS violation shit. Whatever that shit is. That was foul as hell because I didn't do shit. That's why I don't fuck with her.

Yep, you totally got her. Good call.

Have you actually read the TOS? Also, while I don't feel like looking through that thread for my posts, I seem to remember I was mostly talking to somebody else about how her opinion wasn't the only one. You are saying that only your opinion is right. There is a difference.

Oh, man...you had to go and tell him. :(

I didn't say anything about him not having any wisdom. Do you even know what wisdom is? It's knowledge with understanding. When you have knowledge without understanding, you are simply harboring information without knowing how, when, or why to apply it to your circumstances. I don't know anything about the guy other than what you've posted about him and that movie. You tried comparing his D&R views to mine, and based on what you said about his views, they are not the same or even similar to mine. I look at the motive behind the decision on a person's thoughts or views on things, no matter how brilliant the idea may seem. I don't agree with his, but I never said he didn't have any wisdom at all. I totally agree with you about not judging someone based on how much they know just because they went to prison or don't dress very nice. I mean, many who have not attained high levels of education have still made major strides in life because they had understanding. Some call it "street smarts" but I call it wisdom one has attained from a healthy combination of observation and practical life lessons. So, please don't put words in my mouth just because I don't like his views on relationships. K? :)



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Ditto. He may not be the guru he thinks he is but his suits have nothing to do with that.

Just because I'd like to be there sooner rather than later (and therefore talk about it) doesn't mean I want that life tomorrow. One of the reasons I don't have a dog or cat is because I don't have time for an animal that labor intensive. Between classes, work, practicum, research lab, and attempting (usually failing) to have a social life, I would not be home enough for a dog no matter how badly I want one. So while I do look at her family and her daughter (who is my goddaughter), I know that if I had that family right now, I would have to give up most if not all of what I just listed. In that respect, yes, I'm happy right where I am because I enjoy my life too much the way it is to really be bummed about not having it differently. Does that make sense?


I often feel like we're playing Clue in this thread. :o

How are you going to tell somebody their opinion isn't the only one? Any dumbass knows that. An opinion is just that. An opinion. It isn't a fact so it isn't necessarily right or wrong. Show me where I said that only my opinion is right.

When you said that somebody else's isn't?