I think the "net-net" (God I hate that term but I can't come up with anything more precise right now) is that there's no really clear advantage to buying before or after marriage assuming:

1 - You don't break up; or
2 - You've taken the steps others have discussed to insulate against that.

So yeah - I'd honestly just open a bottle of wine, watch something funny w/ him, then straight-up say "I'm reconsidering this marriage thing, what are the pros/cons w/re: house buying? How cool would it be to throw a super-sweet party for our friends?"

Chances are he's on the same boat but had deferred to you because it's way easier. If not, hell, now's as good a time to find out. Don't make it a "rationalization" thing - I'd tilt to shit if that were how you framed it to me.

I think you're right. I was getting so frustrated with the "so when are you getting married?" questions that I've been an ass about it - I need to correct that.

I wish you would run off and get married but not tell anybody. Let people spin themselves in circles about you not being married then find out you have been for years and just didn't mention it. :p

I realized I practically NEVER mention Lyric anymore. I think the awesomeness of Bear eclipsed him in my posts, lol.

One of my chapter sisters did that. Her husband went off to war and they got married in the courthouse. About a year after she switched her facebook and told everyone. It was out of the blue.

You shall never live this down.

But wouldn't you say the bright-line takeaway was that it had synergy with my post? Lots of value added. No need to zoom to 30,000 feet. I just punched myself in the sack.

^^^Or get off the pot. hehehe.

Mr. KDR is coming over tonight to celebrate my birthday a couple days early and watch the return of Ringer together. I'm pretty excited! (Is that stupid, considering we've been together more than a year now?)

Is that what that means? I get freaked out by Elmo-like creatures so that went totally over my head.

Actually it doesn't, I just really freaking love that .gif, and KSig RC's post about punching himself in the sack made me think of it.

I have been misled.

*shoots AlwaysSAI a dirty look*

Yeah, well, if I remember correctly, Mr. Live In was wanting to get married a while ago and someone wasn't ready... you need to let him know you're ready. He has been incredibly patient :) Then figure out what you're going to do about a wedding.


I heard from geekboy today. He was being all chatty in texts and I had a migraine and was trying to get rid of it so I finally told him I needed a power nap and would talk to him later. His nickname for me these days is "cutestuff". I call him Dodger (his name is Rodger). He is in my phone as Dodger.

People have funny names in my phone. HockeyDad is in there as Ack (a derivation of his last name). geekboy aka Rodger is Dodger. EMU Prof isn't in my phone because I disabled my OKC account before getting his number out of there. Oops. If I get his number again, I'll put it in there as his real first name, cuz, well, I like him. Then, this guy I text with, but we are just friends is Landshark, cuz that was his OKC name. Someone ever goes through my phone contacts, they'd be laughing pretty hard.

^^Drummer boy is in there as Voldemort because one of my friends didn't like him and called him He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named. I still laugh when I see it.

So I've talked with Starfish a lot recently, mostly about us and the future. Neither one of us is going to compromise our careers/goals for each other, but with the words we exchanged, it's looking more like we'll be together in the future. Nothing is certain, but we do both care about each other a lot.

So glad he's back. That 10 days felt like 100 days, to me.:p Off to work I go this morning...glowing.:)


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Do we have to start calling him Mr. Live-in if we get married? Do I start referring to him as my Live-in husband? I need to re-think this idea -that's a scary change.

Cutestuff? He needs to get creative.

You now what trips me out? Ol girl I was dating a few months ago called me last night. She dumped me a long time ago, so then I dated other honies, and now Brandi exclusively. I just haven't asked her to be my girl, yet. Funny thing is, it always seems to happen this way. As soon as I'm really feeling a female, one of my exes calls. I told her straight up that I was seeing someone. I stayed on the phone with her no longer than 2 minutes. Fuck that bitch.

Not really. I think that all depends on how long your previous relationships have been.

Long distance relationship? I don't fuck with those LOL.

LOLLLLL

I told Bear about his nickname and suprisingly, he said it was his childhood nickname (because it's a derivation of his name). Many people have been calling him Bear his entire life so I get to use it, too. :p

I needed some advice about Bear but wanted it from a guy. The person I could think of who would be most likely to give me sound advice was a guy I was interested in years ago (I've posted about him before) but everything ended in a mess. We're still friends though so I gave him a call. It was nice to catch up and be able to have a conversation without the "ZOMG do you like me yet???" that used to be sitting between us. That was the most ironic person for me to get man advice from but he was spot on. I'm glad we were able to stay friends.

Aww. That's a sweet pic. Is that really you or just a pic that captures the right emotion?

I don't know why, but this reminds me of the "Beth" and "Manly" thing on Little House on the Prairie. LOL

I will have to YouTube that so I get the reference. ;)

Hey, hey, hey. I did nothing to you.

(But, my boyfriend is amazing. He got me the exact dish drain I wanted from Crate & Barrel for my birthday. :) )

You can call him whatever you want. Cutestuff is more creative than the typical "hon", "sweetie", or "babe".

I am acutely aware that I haven't heard from EMU Prof since Friday morning. Thankfully, I have too much to do to worry too much about it.

I prefer squirrel names. Get him on that. ;)

My thing is, he can text and call and tell me how cute I am but it doesn't fill my stomach. He needs to take me out for a meal or a drink. Calling me Cutestuff doesn't make up for taking me out. I don't even try to understand these guys anymore. I just go with the flow. They text or email, I answer. That's it.

You're right on that one!

Nope. We only live 10 minutes away from each other. As a matter of fact I'm over his house right now, as I type.:p Sometimes I don't know why I have an apt. because I'm over his house 90% of the time, anyway.

My apartment smells like roses and lilies. :)

I guess I read into the post wrong, because the way it read geve me the impression there was some long distance involved.

Me thinks Cen1aur1963 still does not know.

^^^I've given up on having an opportunity to use my sound effect. :(

Heard from EMU Prof tonight. He is completely overwhelmed between his new job as an academic advisor, his teaching classes and his PhD homework. He's also raising his by himself. He said he felt badly that he hadn't responded to my last email earlier and that he wanted to sit down and focus on that but he just had too much going on. Like me, he was too tired to do any homework tonight.

As soon as Starfish and I are good where we are (for now) I get my phone lit up by a friend whom I'll call Marathon. Marathon was, from what I can tell, into me tonight. To top it off, the fortune cookie I had gave me this fortune: 'The wisest owl hears all before he takes flight.'

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The timing is amazing.

Cousin was ranting that I have been seeing Bear this long and she still has not met him. I reminded her I didn't meet her beau 'til he got her pregnant then asked if she would like to be the pot or the kettle. She let it go on the promise she'll get to meet him soon. :p

She made a good point, though. He is coming to Bible study with me this week and, because church is like my extended family, it seems like we are more serious than I say we are. Honestly, I'm just letting him into different areas of my life to see if he fits into them BEFORE becoming involved rather than after. I could tell him how much my faith and my church mean to me but it's a better picture if I just invite him along (and that goes for anybody who is getting to know me). Last week, we talked about really getting to know each other and building a trusting foundation first before diving into a relationship and shared some of the issues we've had in the past with moving too quickly. We agreed to move into building a solid friendship through our "dating" which can seem very intimate...and it is, but not in "that" way. Some wouldn't open up those parts of their lives until way down the line but I think it's better to get to know certain facets of a person's life beforehand rather than after you're committed and THEN realize your priorities don't gel.

As a thank you for Nationals, I took him to game night at the science museum. We had a TON of fun! It's great that we can do the refined bit but also just be silly and play for awhile. :) I took that time to tell him these kinda casual dates are more in my comfort zone--I figured I should just come clean about how I'm feeling so he won't mistake my discomfort for being unappreciative or not liking his date ideas.

After kickin with Brandi over the weekend, the way she was feeling me, I think I could have asked her if she would be my girl last night. But I'm still going to wait until Valentine's Day for that. I want to be able to give her a Valentine's gift when I ask her. Some of my frat saw her for the first time at the Superbowl party. They were trippin at how fine she is LOL. The girl has a body that won't quit.

CRAPPY VALENTINES DAY...A COLONOSCOPY ON FEB. 15.
 

EXTREME RANT WARNING:
G'd F'ing damn it!
Dating a new guy who just moved to town in May. We just started dating in December.
Get a text and he wants me to take him to his colonoscopy on February 15th, the day after Valentines Day. He had ulcers in the past so he has to get this done.
Doing my research on the procedure, he will need to be on liquid diet for two days and be near a bathroom for that amount of time.
THERE GOES VALENTINES DAY.
WHAT A SHYTTY THING TO HAVE DONE THE DAY AFTER. NO PUN INTENDED. But still liking the pun.
He could have scheduled it for a different day.
Screw this, I am going to the rocking VALENTINES DAY party the Friday following...without him!
THIS SUCKS.
THIS BLOWS.
Unless some of GC Medical experts can say differently.
Yah, I am shallow. I don't care. Rip me a new one.

lol lol lol
Freaking Hilarious!!!

My D&R random: Leaving Saturday for Valentine's Day, but I still have no idea where. It's still a surprise. Hmmm....let's see....I wonder where he's taking me.http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/39.gif