^ yay!!!

Yay! I went on a first date this weekend too...he's right at my height and a little heavier than I'm used to--but it was a very good date! :D

It's funny about height. At a baby shower, my friend's mom was telling us about how she and my friend's dad (who has since passed away) met. She said that she always dated men taller than she is (she's about 5'7"), and when she met my friend's dad, she was so drawn to him that she didn't realize until later that he was a little shorter. :) There was an instant attraction. I really liked that story.

will you get it?

LMAO

oooh. sounds like a chat is needed. :)

I saw Batman for dinner tonight. There is something I don't trust.. not sure what it is. He's fun but there's just something I don't trust. Truly don't think he's long term material.

Could it be the old he's-great-so-he-has-to-have-a-secret feeling? Because that has definitely happened to me on more than one occasion. They seem great, so I tend to assume they must have some major flaw because they're too good to be true.

Actually, I believe he is married.

ETA: We were driving home from the restaurant and he was talking about his neighbor's landscaping and he said "my wife" in the course of the story. I wasn't sure I heard him right and didn't want to confront while driving so I waited until after he left and just looked him up on whitepages.com. It says there is a woman with his last name, who is 46 living with him. If he had told me he was divorced, I would think that maybe he kept the house and she used to live there, but he told me that he's never been married.

No :(

RUN FORREST RUN!

Whaaaaatttt??? What the hell? That is effed up. Shut it DOWN.

It's been a tough week for my guy and I. We spent the first part of the week spending 2+ hours a piece on homework (at least we were working on stuff next to each other!). I then got some really upsetting news. Then he had a semi-major conflict with some members of his band.

But through it all, he's been nothing but amazing to me. When I texted him after getting the news, he came right over and tried to remind me of all the things that I'll now have time for next semester.

And at our semiformal, he was PERFECT. He slow danced with me (without me asking!). He saw me taking off my heels and rubbing my feet, and then started rubbing them for me. And he was just so, so sweet. Man, I am so blessed to have him in my life.

I am going to try to get more information so I can be sure. I really wasn't listening to him when he was talking at that point... he *could* have said "my life" but I don't think so. I think he slipped. I don't know if he realized it or if he realized I heard him or what. I suppose there is a chance that there are two men with his name in the same town who are around the same age. There are many in the state.

One thing that doesn't make sense to me is that if he is married, how is he so available? He wanted to come over and go to breakfast this morning and I staved him off. He kept trying all day to get me to see him today and I finally agreed to dinner. We saw each other two nights in a row and have plans for Wednesday (made before this happened). She's out of town or something? I just don't know.

I got a landline number. I'm going to try calling it tomorrow during the day, from work and see what the voice mail/answering machine says. It will likely be a generic one though? We'll see.

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

How would he just casually mention a wife? OMG Dee, this is another chapter for your book!

mmm, there are very stupid/brazen ppl out there. lol

He didn't give me the landline number, it came up on whitepages.com or whichever of those "find people" sites I saw .. the one with the wife's name (if it is him). He gave me a cell phone number. I don't know his address so I don't know for sure that it is his house. He was talking incessantly through dinner and on the way home..lol, I could barely get a word in edgewise. If that's what he said, I'm sure it was an intentional slip. He told me that he has never been married, has no kids. If he'd told me he was divorced and slipped and said "my wife", I could get that. When I'm telling a story about something that happened with my ex from the time period we were married, I sometimes say "my husband" or "my husband at the time".

I'm going to keep investigating, maybe ask more questions, see what I can find out. After date #2, I was still thinking he is just fun, not long term material. Now I'm just more curious than anything. It has become a mystery to solve.

ETA: He did tell me a story of his that I could use in the book. He was going to meet a woman who didn't drive so he picked her up. She said "I got $30 from my brother, can you take me to Detroit to get some crack?" He dropped her back off at home immediately...lol.

Dee, why didn't you just ask him to be sure, when he said it? I mean, then you wouldn't have to look up anything. Maybe, it's just me, but I would've just asked him when he said it. Well, I hope everything works out the way you want it to.

Good luck to you, Dee.

I just really wasn't paying that much attention. Anyway, we've been texting this morning and I asked him where he lives. He said in walking distance of the downtown portion of his city. This residence I found online is not in walking distance. Told him I love the downtown area near him and we should do something there next time and he said ok.

Keep us updated...hopefully he is awesome and not a creeper.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAH! My friend is engaged. She's one of my favoritest people. Her guy is one of the best guys I've seen one of my girlfriends date. So excited for them!

(I know my Wedding Freak Friend is freaking out now because she introduced them. Girl's turning 30 in 2 and a half months and I fear the casualties.)

I don't think he's awesome either way.. lol. He's funny and fun to hang out and pretty attentive, actually, but I still don't see him as long term material.

Wow. You just had to go and be a keeper, didn't you?

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lol

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eta: so, what did you find out?
I'm being nosey..:p

Nothing yet. We had very tentatively talked about getting together Wednesday night. He didn't mention it today.. nothing is firm. He did not text as much today as he did yesterday. I think he was probably on another date today.. or with his wife? LOL I will let you know if I figure anything out.

AGDee, why are you wasting your time on this dude?

You say he isn't awesome either way but you know that YOU'RE awesome. :)

*like* :D

Well, I'm glad you have a sense of humor about it. It's just that I wouldn't spend any of my time with someone who wasn't on my level. But, you have to do what's best for you. I wish you the best, Dee.

I still think there needs to me a "Dee's Dates" thread, though. lol :p:p:p

Right now, with him, it's just about getting out and having some fun. He's a fun person to hang out with. I don't want to do that if he's married though. If he's single wants to keep taking me out and we laugh and have fun, I'm ok with that. I'm putting basically no effort into it... wait for him to text or call me, he drives to this part of town so far, he pays, etc. He's entertaining and sometimes we need to be entertained. Some would probably say I'm using him, but he's getting something out of it too... he gets to be around my awesomeness ;)

I like the idea of a "Dee's Dates" thread! :D

I had Date #2 last night. Fun! He's definitely my height and maybe a little shorter. Not sure if that's an issue.

It's not using him when he volunteers to take you out, and obviously he enjoys your company. Hope he's not married!

I recommend not going out with him or having any significant interaction with him until you find out 100% whether he is married. If there's any question to the fact then I wouldn't have any interaction with him if I were you.

I would hate for something to happen to you because his wife finds out you are hanging out with him or typing/talking to him. Yes, things do happen to people in such instances.

I don't date enough to make a whole thread worthwhile. Seriously. I believe this week was only like my second date this year.

That's the plan.

Date more! GC needs you! LOL.

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lol lol lol
Hilarious!!!

I don't think I can tolerate more than a couple dates a year, seriously.

Is it funny that I'm super excited to see my guy's new haircut tonight? Yay! He's so cute!

We're two days into break. I already miss him.

Christmas break is not going to be pretty...

I did one. That was it. All future relationships will have to develop from an existing friendship/companionship/acquaintance. This online dating thing is for the birds.

Oh and update: Though I won't get my christmas wish; I should get it by my birthday *yay*

Well Thanksgiving is going well but I miss my family significantly.

Although, not everyone here is nice.