This describes all my friends in a nutshell. They ALL have "daddy issues"* written on their foreheads and have really effed up situations w/ men. So I don't entirely fault them/us for said outlook at such a "young age." Young being relative-if you're 25-26 and been dating since HS, that's 10yrs of experience, yes?

Its really an overstated version of our 9 year old selves saying "boys suck."

*lemme clarify the "daddy issues." its not a bad thing, per se, but i think lots of women have them: absent fathers, abusive fathers, negligent fathers, and even the "perfect" ones who rave about daddy's little girl. all of that affects how women view men and relationships. couple that with the MEN theyre dating - raised and surrounded by women who are affected by said daddy issues... its just one hot mess of young broads calling the "there are no good men out there" whaambulance.

((((VS))))

LOL, for some reason i just can't get down with that feeling.

FYP, growmance is on that exempt status. :D

:) :) :) :) :) :) :) Tonight went really well! We hung out in my apartment for 7 hours!! Definitely hit it off well. We're meeting up again on Sunday. Fingers crossed that this totally goes somewhere! :) :) :)

If they've got daddy issues that are keeping them from healthy relationships at 25, then it's time to see a shrink or life coach. Otherwise, it's just a convenient excuse.

Like I said to my cousin and his trifling friend, I've never hurt for male companionship; very few of my black female friends have that "woe is us" thing going on either (granted, the majority of us are open to dating interracially and don't limit ourselves to just black men).

you're such a smiley face abuser. :D <---deleted one of urs so mine can get in

rofl I know! I take all 10! :P

THank you for the smiley, though! :D

Wonderful night last night.

I woke up today and realized it's Thursday, which means I get to see my guy tomorrow! YAY!

Thanks.

I used "win at life" in a class discussion today, and it made sense and was relevant. Oh GC, this isn't the first or last time I've been able to bring you off the internet and into the classroom.

This morning a rather attractive man sat next to me on the LIRR. We smiled at each other. Cool.

He asks me for directions. I say, you have to transfer at Jamaica. He says, do you know which line my stop is on? I take a guess but say "I'm not sure you have to look on the flat screens." He thanks me. End scene. Then he gets up to exit the train. I look for him on the platform but he's gone.

So now I'm kicking myself for not saying anything else, because there was so much opportunity to take it further. I was also getting off at Jamaica. Blaaaaah.

Me, too. :) We're seeing Unstoppable! Been waiting for this movie for MONTHS and I couldn't imagine better company (except maybe Vito). :o:p

^^ Oh heyyy! Exciting!!

I get tired of hearing the "nobody wants black women" bullshit. It's those same tired, weak ass black men, who use the "black women have attitudes" shit that pisses me off. Everybody has a damn attitude sometimes, but it's black women who get pegged with it. It's bullshit.

It took me a long time to learn the difference between normal arguments and the kind you just described...which is totally different.

My daughter and her boyfriend of 8 months broke up a few weeks ago. One of her friends (who has adopted me as her second mom) broke up with her boyfriend Thursday. Both girls were sad, but pretty much took it in stride. There was no "what's wrong with me? why doesn't he want me?" drama. I'm really impressed with these young women. Their self worth is not seeded in the success of their relationships. At that age, my entire sense of self was based on what boys thought of me. It took me years to overcome that and I don't think it was uncommon among my peer group. We were a transitional era... where we started to see some women working outside of the home, but not many, where we started to see women as more than Moms and Wives. These girls want to moms and wives someday, but have other goals as well and it is so much more healthy :) I'm so glad to see it.

Getting my former to drive me and my bff home from the bar and stop at taco bell is full of win when I can eat my nachos alone and wake up the same way. We are trying to work out some visitation for the cats we adopted who live with me and I care and pay 100% for, perhaps he can scoop their litter when he sees them.

I see winning at life while remaining single in my future.

I know I was like that at their age but only in the last 3 or so years gotten to a place where I knew there wasn't anything wrong with me, I just didn't connect with the person as well as I thought or we wanted different things out of the relationship. Good for them.

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This isn't much news, but the past 3 days have been amazing with the gf. We really work together well as a couple and while we have our respective baggage, I really like her and she really likes me.

Homecoming week, done. His initiation week, done. Return to seeing each other on a regularish basis? I sure hope so.

1. Formal Date invited me to meet the parents next weekend. Even though I'm sure this is 100% to do with them wanting to know the kind of guy that's taking their darling daughter to Orlando and nothing related to any deeper feelings, I'm still nervous. I usually make a good impression on parents though so its probably just nervous energy.

2. Usually I hate people playing matchmaker for me but our VP-elect seems to know what he's doing so I'm looking forward to meeting the girl he found for me.

Met a boy last night. Tall and nice smile and slightly yinzer but seems really nice. While half of me is "yaaaaay, someone cute wants to go out with meeeee" the other half if "son of a bitch, this means I have to clean my house."

Check out my new signature.

*GASP!*

You're already planning to bring him back to your place?

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My boyfriend conducts with his pencil while listening to music and taking notes on a book.

It's really cute.

No silly, when he picks me up for the date. I don't have a foyer I can keep him in that's hidden from the rest of the house - you step down into my living room like on Laverne & Shirley.

It's really hard to find a good book about relationships that doesn't have all kinds of new-agey crap like shared vibrations.

The Husband is pissed because I'm not skipping a dress rehearsal tomorrow night for our son's birthday. We're celebrating tonight instead. The child is FOUR and doesn't know tomorrow from next year. Plus, he told me that he does NOT want to bring treats to preschool for his birthday...does that sound like a boy who gives a '
crap when we celebrate his birthday?

Wow...I'm 29, and I even brought in treats to the office for my birthday. Clearly your little boy doesn't give a crap, LOL.

LOL I can remember when I first started dating and my daddy would put NRA magazines on the coffee table. Doesn't get much more subtle.

This reminds me of the tea party birthday party for a five year old on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. The birthday girl was the least interested of anyone there!

Those parents on the Real Housewives were showing off. It was annoying.

Having a more intimate and lowkey birthday party (or small get together) for a really young child is reasonable. Having it early instead of on the really young child's actual birthday is not a big deal. The child will be told happy birthday on his/her actual birthday regardless. :) And maybe get a gift from someone on the actual day.

Plus, missing important events because of a birthday party on the actual birthdate arguably doesn't teach children much about life--even really young children. The world will not plan itself around, and stop for, children's birthdays. It's good for kids to learn that early. We were always taught that if our birthdays are during the week, for example, we will celebrate over the weekend or at a time fitting for the family. You won't be ignored on your birthday but we won't instantly stop the world and melt with you on your birthday. Love, nonetheless.

Let's see what happens when your manager at Taco Bell won't let you off work.:rolleyes:

I am one of those people.

Haterrrrrrr

Coffee all up in my sinuses now...trying to figure how to make this a siggy...

Both of my kids have December birthdays. We can never have regular birthday parties for them because it's just too busy of a time of year for everyone else in our family, us included. Like DrPhil said, the world doesn't stop just for a birthday. We have a half-birthday cook-out in the summer instead. I know people who take their kids birthday off work. I could never do that. We love birthdays, and celebrate them with cake and a couple of gifts, but not to the extent of many others. I concur with DrPhil. DrPhil is reasonable, DrPhil is wise.

Not surprised. LOL