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KSUViolet06 07-23-2010 12:49 AM

Your husband sucks for cancelling our fun day at your house.

He's a super a-hole but you're married and it's none of my business to tell you that.

You are incapable of standing up for yourself and I am afraid that in 10 years, after he has verbally abused you into oblivion, you will look up and have NO friends because you allowed him to control your life.


dreamseeker 07-23-2010 12:52 AM

lol. this whole toilet thing is moot to me because the toilet should be closed when flushed. i read somewhere that when u flush there are tiny droplets of toilet water that spray as far as 6-8 feet.
http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/exchange/node/1839

Jen 07-23-2010 01:02 AM

dreamseeker, I am with you on that! I also have seen the toilet water spray thing on TV. I am paranoid about it now, and that lid is always down when it's flushed.

dreamseeker 07-23-2010 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Jen (Post 1957932)
dreamseeker, I am with you on that! I also have seen the toilet water spray thing on TV. I am paranoid about it now, and that lid is always down when it's flushed.

yep. i hate public bathrooms for that very reason.

epchick 07-23-2010 01:26 AM

So i'm making myself known....and at least you are responding. Time will tell and see what happens. I'm treading cautiously though.

Smile_Awhile 07-23-2010 02:17 AM

If he just told me when/why things he said he would do didn't happen right afterwards, I wouldn't have to go through the cycle of pissed off/talked down by girlfriends/see him again/find out an explanation that I'm totally okay with/happy. It's emotionally exhausting!

WCsweet<3 07-23-2010 02:42 AM

So first date went amazing and we have a second on Sunday.

It's moments like now, where I wish my last relationship had ended earlier because we were both so unhappy. I had remembered dating as sucking pretty hard. Maybe it's better when you are in college?

Animate 07-23-2010 01:33 PM

Figuring out how to propose shouldn't be this hard lol

Well its not that hard actually.

Munchkin03 07-23-2010 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl (Post 1957825)
^^^Baby?

Awww, hayle to the NAW.

epchick 07-24-2010 01:57 AM

Sooooo..i have 2 crushes. lol

One I just told. I kinda feel like an idiot for doing it cause it was out of the blue. But oh well.

The other, I don't think will ever know. lol

cheerfulgreek 07-27-2010 11:48 AM

Another month. I miss you.:(
But....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1YjGN88NkE :p

groovypq 07-27-2010 11:53 AM

Fiance had a job interview up here last week. He has a phone interview for another job here tomorrow. *fingers crossed*

epchick 07-27-2010 11:47 PM

You're ignoring me, I get the picture. :(

Oh well.

christiangirl 07-28-2010 04:17 AM

So I've got a crush on my friend's ex....mind you, I liked him before they even got together and, while one part of me is thrilled he's single again, the part with sense believes him being "my friend's ex" may actually be more dangerous than "my friend's man." At least when he was her man, we were just friends, no trouble or dangerous waters. My sensible part is screaming, "Run, girl, run!"

Him asking to take me to see Inception isn't helping. The fact that I want to see it is helping less.

DrPhil 07-28-2010 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl (Post 1959779)
So I've got a crush on my friend's ex....mind you, I liked him before they even got together and, while one part of me is thrilled he's single again, the part with sense believes him being "my friend's ex" may actually be more dangerous than "my friend's man." At least when he was her man, we were just friends, no trouble or dangerous waters. My sensible part is screaming, "Run, girl, run!"

Him asking to take me to see Inception isn't helping. The fact that I want to see it is helping less.

See it with someone else or by yourself. Don't be one of those people who insists on touching the hot stove and then yells "ouch" and runs to find ointment as though the outcome was a huge surprise.

Drolefille 07-28-2010 02:51 PM

The picture of you and your husband was gorgeous. You guys are so in love with each other. I wish it didn't make my heart break with loneliness all at the same time.

LucyKKG 07-28-2010 08:24 PM

Omg I had a really upsetting nightmare that my boyfriend broke up with me and he wouldn't kiss me when I tried. I took a bus up to campus to try to find him and then I ended up BAWLING forever. I woke up really upset and borderline convinced that I had done something to piss him off. He's not mad at me for any reason, though. Phew!

KSUViolet06 07-28-2010 08:50 PM

I have some of the best friends ever.

I don't say that nearly enough.


RU OX Alum 07-28-2010 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by LucyKKG (Post 1960187)
Omg I had a really upsetting nightmare that my boyfriend broke up with me and he wouldn't kiss me when I tried. I took a bus up to campus to try to find him and then I ended up BAWLING forever. I woke up really upset and borderline convinced that I had done something to piss him off. He's not mad at me for any reason, though. Phew!

Did you tell him about your bad dream?

pshsx1 07-28-2010 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by LucyKKG (Post 1960187)
Omg I had a really upsetting nightmare that my boyfriend broke up with me and he wouldn't kiss me when I tried. I took a bus up to campus to try to find him and then I ended up BAWLING forever. I woke up really upset and borderline convinced that I had done something to piss him off. He's not mad at me for any reason, though. Phew!

I had one of those dreams a few weeks ago! I was really sad for a bit while I worked out what was the dream and what was reality lol

indygphib 07-28-2010 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LucyKKG (Post 1960187)
Omg I had a really upsetting nightmare that my boyfriend broke up with me and he wouldn't kiss me when I tried. I took a bus up to campus to try to find him and then I ended up BAWLING forever. I woke up really upset and borderline convinced that I had done something to piss him off. He's not mad at me for any reason, though. Phew!

I've had a dream similar to this - it's awful!

LucyKKG 07-29-2010 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by RU OX Alum (Post 1960203)
Did you tell him about your bad dream?

I told him a little bit about it but not as much as I posted here. I said he was really mad at me and I made sure I didn't call him in my sleep and piss him off. He was all cute and sympathetic. He apologized even though he didn't do anything and said it was cause he hates to see me upset. Aww :)

XAntoftheSkyX 07-29-2010 11:32 AM

She's back in America, we've been texting all morning.

http://i26.tinypic.com/fyzpc1.jpg

AGDee 07-30-2010 07:18 PM

I'm really tired of hearing how you've been thinking about me. Seriously. Finally realizing you blew the best thing that ever happened to you? Loser.

cheerfulgreek 07-30-2010 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961102)
I'm really tired of hearing how you've been thinking about me. Seriously. Finally realizing you blew the best thing that ever happened to you? Loser.

Is this who I think it is? lol

Kappamd 07-30-2010 08:09 PM

Fiance is coming back from Chicago FOR GOOD. FINALLY. Too bad there's only 3 weeks before we have to part again for school. Sigh.

Drive fasterrrrr.

AGDee 07-30-2010 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1961107)
Is this who I think it is? lol

Yep. He said he hadn't heard from me in a while (since my dad fell off a horse while I was in Traverse City on vacation.. mid June) and has been meaning to email because he thinks about me a lot and really enjoys hearing from me. Asks me how my foot is, how my dad is, blah,blah,blah. Then mentions that hockey tryouts started this week.. like I care. Go live in your hockey world, leave me alone.

cheerfulgreek 07-31-2010 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961124)
Yep. He said he hadn't heard from me in a while (since my dad fell off a horse while I was in Traverse City on vacation.. mid June) and has been meaning to email because he thinks about me a lot and really enjoys hearing from me. Asks me how my foot is, how my dad is, blah,blah,blah. Then mentions that hockey tryouts started this week.. like I care. Go live in your hockey world, leave me alone.

lol
Hilarious!

Dee, I'm glad you broke it off with him before it went any further. Ya know, I honestly really don't believe relationships are that hard. I mean, I understand that all relationships take work, but I just think that it's the willingness to work that really matters. If you would've let it continue into a relationship, I honestly believe that he's one of those who wouldn't work. It only takes one to totally screw things up.

I'm still laughing @ "Go live in your hockey world"...lol :p

XanexAZ 07-31-2010 03:16 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961102)
I'm really tired of hearing how you've been thinking about me. Seriously. Finally realizing you blew the best thing that ever happened to you? Loser.

He's probably realizing he really fucked himself, so maybe you should give him a second chance. I was in a situation like yours, but I was on his end. I tried asking for a second chance, and when I did, she gave it another shot. We hung out as friends for about a year until she moved to Arizona. I think if she wouldn't have moved, we probably would have worked out. But she wouldn't have known this if she wouldn't have given it another shot. We still talk, and I even visit her there occasionally. Sure, he's a douche, but maybe he changed.

AGDee 07-31-2010 07:10 AM

If he had straight out been able to say "I don't know how to manage everything on my plate so something has to drop and I can't drop work or my kids" AND if he had been able to say it before he led me on for months and months, then I could have possibly considered an "us" in the future. His way of handling the situation (avoiding it completely while giving me false hope) is really the thing that I couldn't deal with. If that is how he handles issues within a relationship, then I can't be in a relationship with him. I wouldn't ever trust his words again. In my eyes, the real problem isn't his lack of time, it's about HOW he handled the whole situation. I can't be with someone who can't communicate with me directly. If you just avoid issues in a relationship, you aren't capable of being in a relationship.

ETA: LOL.. YOU are the last person I'd expect to hear "give him a second chance" from.

dreamseeker 07-31-2010 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961213)
ETA: LOL.. YOU are the last person I'd expect to hear "give him a second chance" from.

i thought he was coming to say "i told you so".

Smile_Awhile 07-31-2010 02:04 PM

Super glad my boyfriend will still be in town when I get back from a visit with my family!

Kind of disappointed that he'll be gone during work week and recruitment- but it's probably best. I'll be a giant ball of stress... Also disappointed I have to move back on campus by myself!

XanexAZ 08-01-2010 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961213)
If he had straight out been able to say "I don't know how to manage everything on my plate so something has to drop and I can't drop work or my kids" AND if he had been able to say it before he led me on for months and months, then I could have possibly considered an "us" in the future. His way of handling the situation (avoiding it completely while giving me false hope) is really the thing that I couldn't deal with. If that is how he handles issues within a relationship, then I can't be in a relationship with him. I wouldn't ever trust his words again. In my eyes, the real problem isn't his lack of time, it's about HOW he handled the whole situation. I can't be with someone who can't communicate with me directly. If you just avoid issues in a relationship, you aren't capable of being in a relationship.

ETA: LOL.. YOU are the last person I'd expect to hear "give him a second chance" from.

I still think he's a dick, but at least he's given it some thought to say, "Hey, I really fucked up, here." I don't really think he's the kind of dude to put up an act just to get a piece of ass. That's something I'd do, and hockey douche just doesn't seem like that kind of a guy based on the previous shit you posted about him. The other dudes you were posting about don't seem to want to stick around, but hockey douche seems to be trying to repair what he fucked up. You kinda gotta give him credit for that. Either way, you still win. If you give the dude another shot, maybe something decent can come out of it. If you say "Fuck you" then it's his loss, so you still sorta win, here. You pretty much have control over the whole situation.

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Originally Posted by dreamseeker (Post 1961276)
i thought he was coming to say "i told you so".

Haha

AGDee 08-01-2010 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by XanexAZ (Post 1961551)
I still think he's a dick, but at least he's given it some thought to say, "Hey, I really fucked up, here." I don't really think he's the kind of dude to put up an act just to get a piece of ass. That's something I'd do, and hockey douche just doesn't seem like that kind of a guy based on the previous shit you posted about him. The other dudes you were posting about don't seem to want to stick around, but hockey douche seems to be trying to repair what he fucked up. You kinda gotta give him credit for that. Either way, you still win. If you give the dude another shot, maybe something decent can come out of it. If you say "Fuck you" then it's his loss, so you still sorta win, here. You pretty much have control over the whole situation.


Haha

He hasn't actually said that though. He just sends emails every 5-6 weeks with stuff like "I enjoy hearing from you", etc. And the one time he asked me if I was going to a professional association meeting and I replied back "no, so if you want to go, it's safe, I won't be there" to which he replied "I'm too busy to go anyway". But, this email ended with "Hockey started Tuesday", not "I screwed up and I miss you"

XanexAZ 08-01-2010 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 1961570)
He hasn't actually said that though. He just sends emails every 5-6 weeks with stuff like "I enjoy hearing from you", etc. And the one time he asked me if I was going to a professional association meeting and I replied back "no, so if you want to go, it's safe, I won't be there" to which he replied "I'm too busy to go anyway". But, this email ended with "Hockey started Tuesday", not "I screwed up and I miss you"

Yeah, but most dudes aren't going to put it all out there. Unless he's a wuss. Well, he is kind of a wuss, but he's still a dude. You're just not giving him the response he wants to hear.

Animate 08-02-2010 02:46 PM

Engagement ring: check.

#fistpump

RU OX Alum 08-02-2010 07:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Animate (Post 1962236)
Engagement ring: check.

#fistpump

congrats

AGDee 08-02-2010 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Animate (Post 1962236)
Engagement ring: check.

#fistpump

Now.. HOW are you going to do it??? Congrats!

LucyKKG 08-03-2010 12:49 AM

My bf came to kareoke night with some of my Sons of Norway friends and they LOVED him. People I don't even know were telling me how awesome he was. He can't carry a tune in a bucket, but he's very enthusiastic and confident. We sang "Elephant Love Medley" from Moulin Rouge. He was a big hit, and I'm so glad he was able to have fun in a brand-new environment with people he just met.

He was also great about taking care of me when I had a little too much aquavit. :p Good thing I only had to walk down a little hill to our tent! No driving involved.

XanexAZ 08-07-2010 02:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Animate (Post 1962236)
Engagement ring: check.

#fistpump

Congrats dude.


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