A sister told me yesterday she was having a conversation with a PNM and the girl farted. The PNM was really embarrassed, but she came back the next day, so it must not have embarrassed her too badly!

Wasn't the point to alert ahead of time though? Regardless of her demanding tone (inappropriate) waiting until she's at pref sort of defeats the purpose.

Oh no! I feel bad for the PNM, but the immature part of my brain finds that really funny.
I'm glad they didn't judge her too much for it. At schools where you have 1000 girls rushing with 8 hour days and almost no time to go to the bathroom, I'm sure it's happened before.

She said that the PNM could have taken a couple sisters aside, or just not eat at Pref...not sure what your point is, slick.

It was inappropriate for her to mention it at all, as doing so presumes that one will receive an invitation. If there's going to be talk about "defeating the purpose," then this particular PNM defeated the purpose of going through recruitment, because she showed herself to both ill-mannered and very high maintenance.

Mentioning it is not inappropriate if the presence of an item at pref is a threat to the PNM. I'm assuming this PNM has a reaction in the presence of the item, as she could simply politely decline otherwise.

I did misread the initial post though (even though I quoted) and there is an offered solution of quietly pulling one or two sisters aside and mentioning humbly.

If a PNM has an allergy so severe that being in the room with it (thinking peanut allergy) would send her into an allergic reaction, then the appropriate thing for her to do is to alert her Recruitment Counselor at the orientation meeting so that all chapters can be notified well in advance and plan accordingly.

That's what we were serving - not even with nuts! We used to have the PNM's name in between the violets. <*name*>

The funny part is, at the time, I had some pretty serious allergies. None were life threatening, but there was a time or two that I had to take some deep breaths to get the smell of perfume out of my sinuses.

And I don't know about anyone else with non-life threathening allergies, but I was taught to simply say, "I'd love to, but I'm allergic to rat poison," in a sincere way, rather than otherwise embarrass a hostess. Whomever said it was inappropriate due to the presumption of being invited is also terribly correct. (Was that you, MC?)

I had a pnm I really liked let one loose when she was talking to me. I mean really really loud to the point where it couldn't be ignored even in a noisy party. I just smiled and said something like "You are really talented! I didn't even have to pull your finger!" It really helped break the tension for her because I knew she was mortified. We both had a good laugh and she got invited back. :)

We were driving these two clowns to a rush event when one said "Hey man can I smoke in here?" and I was like "Yeah sure man, you need a cigarette?"....When I look back he's got a full joint lit and he's passing it!

So he didn't get a bid

When I started reading this I thought you literally meant clowns as in circus clowns, like they were party entertainment. Instead you mean you had Slater & Pickford in your car. LOL

Sadly, he's probably too young for the D&C reference.

It is always rude to say to a host or hostess anything that suggests one assumes that one will be invited to an event held by that host or hostess when one hasn't actually been invited. Always.

It is also always rude to "demand' (honeychile's description of the encounter) what a host or hostess serve or not serve. Always.

That's not what I assumed from the way honeychile decribed it, especially since the "demand" was that no food be served that contained her "allergens." If that is indeed the case, the appropriate and reasonable way to deal with it is AGDee's suggestion:

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Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 2030726) If a PNM has an allergy so severe that being in the room with it (thinking peanut allergy) would send her into an allergic reaction, then the appropriate thing for her to do is to alert her Recruitment Counselor at the orientation meeting so that all chapters can be notified well in advance and plan accordingly.

Instead, all this PNM accomplished was to make sure she did not get an invitation to pref.

Exactly. And then you move the conversation along.

;)

haha no way man, some movies are classics!