I know last year was crazy with XO, so did that make a difference as far as chatter? Is there usually some sort of "scandal" each year? Since last year was my first year back in the Greek scene, it seemed CRAZY, but I didn't know if that was abnormal.

Good luck to anyone going to Pref today BTW. My daughter believes it's complete TORTURE to make PNMs wait for bids tomorrow with no classes to keep them sane. Am I naive or is it truly refreshing to see how much present members worry about PMNs connecting to the house and being happy/successful vs thinking PNMs will be theirs to harrass and "haze" so they know their place?!?! I don't believe it's just her house, but all sororities in general are trying to spread a culture of building each other up vs tearing down.

What is the name of the FB page? Just curious (nosy) to go see what people are saying.

No, this is not possible. I don't think preference parties are even over. So bid matching has not even begun, so she cannot be bidless. I think the mother might be confused, maybe the PNM in question did not receive any invitations to preference?

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Right no invitation to preference, I am sorry I must have worded it wrong. Still I thought that was impossible?

No, you can be cut totally at any stage before Bid Day.

Didn’t know about that page. Just scrolled through it.

It is DISGUSTING to me that holding on to their perceived status is more important to IU NPC houses. All of the power is in the hands of 18-22 yr old ‘boys’ and what they “value” in a group women. So the houses do everything but pimp their members out. (And that’s optimistic.)

Lottery, lottery, lottery—with severe punishments for non-participation.

No kidding. Hurray for female empowerment.

Last year I browsed that stupid site. My dd ended up pledging one of the "lower" ranked chapters. What was said about that chapter by both males and females on that site (I won't refer to them as men and women...they don't deserve it) was disgusting. The women at my dd's chapter are wonderful. I'm glad to have her associated with them.

But unfortunately, this goes beyond the IU Greek system. Pretty much reflective of society sad to say. :(

I have been watching the FB page and commenting a bit. There are some sad mommas on the page right now and I can relate. I was there last year. And I don't think anything anyone said could have made me feel better. Hopefully everyone comes out stronger on the other end and knows themselves a bit better.

I saw a few comments about a chapter passing notes to the PNM, I thought that was against the rules?

It's possible. It is ordinarily if you attend pref parties and list all chapters where you attended pref, that you will receive a bid.

Hey all! Mom of a rushing freshman this year. Round one was a shock, but she was happy with some options. Then round two was a major shock and lots of tears, but she regrouped and reassessed her list (kudos to the rho gam for getting the girls their lists hours before the first party. Lots of time to cry it out and gather themselves.). Really enjoyed one of her sisterhood houses. Got Two invites to preference round. Loves one, is borderline with second. But her rho gam (who is very invested in her group) encouraged her to put both down. I personally would have encouraged her to suicide so if she didn’t get the bid to her first choice (which was originally in her top 5 during 22 round) then she could have been eligible for informal. But it isn’t my process or experience and she and the rho gam made the decision together. Cheers to trusting the process. Praying it works out.

Also praying for those poor mamas who have devastated daughters without invitations.
I read that on the fb page also.

I’ve been a stalker, and have enjoyed your comments.

Cheers IUmom20 and glad you posted! Glad to hear that your daughter's rho gam was helpful! Best to you and welcome to the group!

In what context?

On the FB page, one PNM didn’t get any houses back for pref, the mom posted that an active sent her a note after a round that said they really liked her implying that she would be invited back. It sounded like the PNM was being told she’d be invited back and then was cut.

Anyone can join the FB group, just send the request to the admin.