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Maybe it's like fashion...they're willing to tough it out even if it's painful or uncomfortable because the "label" is so prestigious! :) |
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For all the people who get told "contact your Greek Life office; a bunch of strangers on the internet don't know" (not only this site, mind you), we shouldn't be surprised that there is confusion among those who weren't raised with the SEC-sorority mindset. |
That's why God invented Alumnae Panhellenics!
Seriously - the vast majority of the GKAP pnms have mothers who didn't go Greek. We work EXTRA HARD to educate both them and their daughters. It's one reason we have such a great percentage pledge - EVEN AT TEXAS AND BAMA! (Love my GKAP panhellenic cousins!) *GKAP - Greater Katy Alumnae Panhellenic |
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The PNMs for which the "rushing certain chapter(s)" works are what most of GLO women here feel are the extreme minority of PNMs. If we don't say something about how it's not the way to approach recruitment then we are reinforcing that approach that "rushing certain chapter(s)" is okay. The PNMs will assume it's okay for most of them to just rush one chapter, and not just the PNM with the magical recruitment that gets the ONE chapter she had her heart set on from the beginning. Here's an analogy which is similar to this kind of thinking from recruitment: It's like depending on the fact that you Special Snowflake PNM are a legacy to a 100+ year chapter "FGH" at Magnolia Republic University (MRU) to get you onto the MRU FGH 100+ year chapter first bid list . . . You may not relaize you are competing with many, many, worthy PNMs at MRU and that older chapter cannot take all of its legacies due to the generations of FGH Alumnae that MRU FGH has produced. Those women had many more daughters than sons it seems. MRU Legacy PNMs cannot depend on their legacy chapters and here at Greekchat we tell them that information routinely here. To do otherwise is a disservice to those legacy PNMs. |
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The quote you've presented in this post as mine was actually posted by Hartofsec. :) |
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Analogy: A mall cannot disallow you from walking into the mall without cash, checks or a credit card. However, to buy anything at any of the stores in the mall, you will need one of those things. |
^^^That analogy is pretty accurate.
What sucks is that people spread "recs are being phased out" and those not "in the know" or familiar with UGA Greek Life think "Oh, so it's all good. I don't need these" when that is not the case at all. |
Re: the Alabama confusion.
I believe the idea behind this is that some PNMs simply cannot find recs for certain groups. There is no alumnae panhellenic in their area to help. They can send their resume stuff to the chapter so they have more complete info and/or can share it with an alum from that girl's hometown. ....which makes no sense, since chapters have all that info when they register for recruitment. |
I would like to know if chapters actually look at unsolicited resume/transcript/photo information, especially at those colleges with mega-recruitments, and lots of recommendations to work their way through.
Good analogies today: swimming against the tide, and the mall/shopping w/o money. I sometimes wonder if some folks are so adamant about believing that recommendations are not needed because it frees them from having to put forth the effort to find them? |
Conversations with moms
ME: "Oh, your daughter is going to Texas State? I'd be happy to help get her recommendations."
MOM - "Oh, her sister is an Alpha Delta Pi, so she's going to pledge them. They have to give her a bid. She doesn't need any others." ME: :( |
When we dropped our daughter off at college last fall, we attended two parent welcome meetings. One mom specifically asked the student life panel about recommendation letters for sororities. One (male) Dean specifically said, "For those of you used to hearing about SEC recruitment, relax. Your daughter's friends have probably been spending a lot of time gathering them. You don't need to worry about that here. The sororities won't even look at them."
That last sentence is just flat out wrong, and I found it rather troubling that he would presume to share what the various groups do or don't consider during membership selection. You can imagine how badly I wanted to raise my hand and say something. I didn't, and I didn't even want to post it until my daughter was through recruitment. Her recs had already been sent in by that point, and several rec writers had been thanked, including the alumna of the sorority she eventually joined. |
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And SWTexasBelle, I had a similar experience with a man whose younger sister was supposed to rush at Bama. I offered to write a rec. for her and he informed me that that would not be necessary since his grandmother, mother and sister had all been XYZs at Bama and therefore his baby sister would be also :eek: I was amused that when rush came around I did not find her name on the bid list to any of the sororities at Bama, nor the next year or the year after that! |
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