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theevensteven 01-12-2019 08:08 PM

Why do sorority houses have strict rules against boys sleeping over?
 
Iím a non-Greek student dating a sorority girl. Weíve been dating for four years
now. We started dating in high school and now we both go to the same university. About two months ago, I slept over at my girlfriends sorority house for the night. I slept in her room in a sleeping bag. When I woke up the next morning, my girlfriend and I went downstairs for breakfast. I disposed a couple of glass bottles (wasnít beer or any alcoholic beverage). The next thing I know the house mother. She pulled me over to the office room in the house and began going over the chapter rules and questioning me. She wanted to know whether or not there was any suspicious activity going on last night and whether or not I drank anything last night. I answered all the questions. In the end I got off with a warning while my girlfriend was fined for violating some rules within the chapter.

Anyway, why do sorority houses have such strict rules against guys sleeping over? Is it to prevent the possibility of rape? I mean Iím not that type of guy thatís addicted to having sex or sleeping with multiple girls. Can someone please explain the reasoning behind this policy?

carnation 01-12-2019 08:27 PM

Safety.

Titchou 01-12-2019 08:43 PM

It's a single sex organization providing housing for their members....single sex. Insurance, liability, etc.

thetalady 01-12-2019 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by theevensteven (Post 2463745)
I’m a non-Greek student dating a sorority girl. We’ve been dating for four years
now. We started dating in high school and now we both go to the same university. About two months ago, I slept over at my girlfriends sorority house for the night. I slept in her room in a sleeping bag. When I woke up the next morning, my girlfriend and I went downstairs for breakfast. I disposed a couple of glass bottles (wasn’t beer or any alcoholic beverage). The next thing I know the house mother. She pulled me over to the office room in the house and began going over the chapter rules and questioning me. She wanted to know whether or not there was any suspicious activity going on last night and whether or not I drank anything last night. I answered all the questions. In the end I got off with a warning while my girlfriend was fined for violating some rules within the chapter.

Anyway, why do sorority houses have such strict rules against guys sleeping over? Is it to prevent the possibility of rape? I mean I’m not that type of guy that’s addicted to having sex or sleeping with multiple girls. Can someone please explain the reasoning behind this policy?

A sorority house is for the members of the chapter. NOT for men to use or crash. It is for their safety, as well as yours. Those are the rules of private housing which you need to respect. From now on, go home. Your GF may be facing some serious repercussions for your actions.

33girl 01-13-2019 01:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by theevensteven (Post 2463745)
Iím a non-Greek student dating a sorority girl. Weíve been dating for four years
now. We started dating in high school and now we both go to the same university. About two months ago, I slept over at my girlfriends sorority house for the night. I slept in her room in a sleeping bag. When I woke up the next morning, my girlfriend and I went downstairs for breakfast. I disposed a couple of glass bottles (wasnít beer or any alcoholic beverage). The next thing I know the house mother. She pulled me over to the office room in the house and began going over the chapter rules and questioning me. She wanted to know whether or not there was any suspicious activity going on last night and whether or not I drank anything last night. I answered all the questions. In the end I got off with a warning while my girlfriend was fined for violating some rules within the chapter.

Either your girlfriend really has a pair of brass ones or she hates being in a sorority and is trying to get kicked out.

FSUZeta 01-13-2019 07:15 AM

Maybe this is a local sorority or this guy is a troll. If not, she can spend the night at your place. No boys sleeping over is made very, very clear to in house members.

33girl 01-13-2019 09:22 AM

I think local sororities that have houses big enough for housemothers (let alone actually employ them) are extremely few and far between.

Theta1234 01-13-2019 09:47 AM

Iím still processing this. At my daughterís house, no males are allowed past the first floor. This includes dads. Seriously, the only time he can even see her room is on move in and move out weekend.

In this day of mixed sex dorms, gender fluidity and such, it may seem like a very outdated rule. However, the insurance companies love it and sometimes money does speak.

Sciencewoman 01-13-2019 10:00 AM

^^^ My daughter's chapter house had/has the same rule, but the residents like it. Gamma Phi Beta does not differentiate between gender -- no "romantic" partner is allowed to stay over.

One of the primary reasons for the "no sleepover" rule is to be courteous and respectful of the other residents. When women who are living in a sorority house get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, or wake up in the morning to come down for breakfast, they don't want to worry about running into someone else's boyfriend or love interest in the bathroom, hallway, etc. They may be in their underwear, nightgown, etc. Most women don't want to run into Joe Sleepover sneaking out of his girlfriend's room as they return to their own room wrapped in a towel after taking a shower. That was true when I was an active, and I can tell you it's still true today. I'm a house corp board president and had to handle a situation last year because other residents complained about a boyfriend.

APhi2KD 01-13-2019 12:53 PM

It’s hard to let your hair down and have topless pilllow fights if boys might walk in. Duh.

navane 01-13-2019 01:34 PM

You know what? I wrote a legit, straightforward reply and it turns out the OP is just a troll. That's what I get for having courtesy.

DistantXOcousin 01-13-2019 01:46 PM

This question is on every greek life forum from here to Haifa.

Example:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Sororities/...eing_upstairs/

https://www.reddit.com/r/Sororities/...XX&sh=e7038cc3

carnation 01-13-2019 02:01 PM

Well, the OP is obviously a loser/troll!

DistantXOcousin 01-13-2019 02:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by carnation (Post 2463791)
Well, the OP is obviously a loser/troll!

Iím simply pointing out that this has been posted in so many different iterations that this user was banned from one forum. Thatís all. Iím sorry if I caused offense.

thetalady 01-13-2019 02:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DistantXOcousin (Post 2463792)
I’m simply pointing out that this has been posted in so many different iterations that this user was banned from one forum. That’s all. I’m sorry if I caused offense.

No, no!!! Carnation was NOT referring to you, DistantXOCousin!! She was referring to the man who originally posted the question/ complaint (OP). You did nothing wrong or out of order.


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