Bumping this one! :)

This one is a good summer read!

Hi there. This is my first post at Greek Chat and I'm very happy to have found this forum. I enjoyed my time as an active and hope that my daughter will choose to take an interest in Greek life when she heads off to college in two years.

I was a Delta Gamma legacy in 1981. (Please excuse my "ancient" vocabulary ie: rush/pledge.) My mother and her friends are charter members of our chapter. My parents didn't discuss their Greek life with me until my senior year of high school. They let me make the decision to rush. I opted to rush when it came to my attention that my parents' closest friends were the ones they'd bonded with in the late 50's and early 60's through their Greek connections. It is possible that my daughter will be the third generation of our family to attend the same university. Should she choose to rush then she will be a double legacy for Delta Gamma.

My advice is for legacies and their parents. I would encourage you and your legacy to keep an open mind and heart during recruitment. I was aware that other sorority legacies in my rush group were under intense pressure to pledge their family's house. Be aware that chapters can change over time and vary from campus to campus. The group that you loved two or more decades ago might be different now. Let your legacy trust their instincts and make their own choice.


Now the challenge will be for me to take my own advice in the next few years.

I also want to remind legacies that their legacy group might cut them; legacy status is no longer even a minor guarantee of a bid. Keep your options open!

Bumping for 2017--

Keep an open mind. I know this has been pounded into your head but it's legit advice. You're gonna hear loads of tent talk "Oh XYZ is terrible, oh ABC this and that," and heck you may have been stalking social media or false rank before recruitment. Don't believe any of it. Wait till recruitment and get your impressions from the chapter interactions.

Also DON'T TALK BADLY ABOUT A HOUSE IN YOUR GROUPS. It's okay if you didn't enjoy a party but for one you don't know what sorority your Rho Gamma is in and someone in your PNM group could have a friend/sister/etc. in a sorority. The impressions you have can travel.

Gonna throw this to the top for spring recruitment! And I got 1 more.

DO NOT ACT RUDE IN ANY HOUSE. I don't care the sister doesn't do the best job or if you didn't enjoy the party. That is okay. It is openly being rude to your rusher or openly saying you're rushing to join ABC. Word travels.

Sorority women in every chapter on your campus are worth getting to know for longer than the 20-60 minutes of a recruitment party.

Be the gal in your chapter with friends and good acquaintances in each house on campus. And you start with your positive attitude and conversations during recruitment, toward initiate and pnm alike.

Get recommendations, even if you're told you don't need them.

I am guessing that you haven't been involved in recruitment for a very, very long time. That advice doesn't apply in a lot of places and for some sororities at all anymore.

Even after eleven years, these two quotes caught my attention.

Words of advice.